Almost 44 final ttc journey -- buddies needed : )

[Sophie2015]

That's awesome news!!!

 

[Sophie2015]

TTC did you have your ultrasound?

 

[TTC74]

Yes ma'am! We couldn't see baby yet, but he wasn't concerned based on my estimate that I was only a little over 5 weeks. We did see gestational sac which was measuring a couple days ahead. He did a beta hcg. That came back at 3511 which he was very happy with. My next scan is scheduled for July 11th. By that time, we should see baby and a steady heartbeat! Fx!!!

 

[Sophie2015]

🎉🎉🎉 So happy for you!! Please keep us updated.

 

[Blessings111]

Dear Sunshine,

I am sorry you are having challenges with miscarriages. How wonderful you have at least made progress. Getting support for the emotions of fertility is very helpful. It is also sometimes difficult to find. If you are interested there is a very inspirational story on the Fertile Heart site under blogs entitled Natural conception after Failed IVF. This person tried many treatments to conceive. It shows how important the inner work is. I wish you and all those trying to conceive the very best!!

 

[CaliDreaming]

So glad to hear everything's going well TTC74!

 

[mitchnorm]

Feeling low.
15dpo no sign of AF but bfn yesterday so know I'm not pregnant....would definitely have a positive by now.

Missed my window a bit last month so not surprised and if af dosent come soon will miss next months too as travelling with work for 4 days. Sucks.

Just 43......one daughter who is 4 and 3 CPs and 3 mc's since her (no losses before her) just feeling like this is the end of road. Need encouragement

 

[Sophie2015]

Mitchnorm it's not the end! It just takes longer in our 40s. You have to think positively. Remind yourself you missed your window so it's not a failure it was just bad timing. Your CPs show you can still conceive. If you aren't taking something to boost your egg quality start now!! Our mother's mother's and their mother's were having babies long into their 40s. And they thought nothing of it. Science now tells us it's statistically impossible. Which puts doubt in our heads and affects our bodies. And it's nonsense. If you are having periods and ovulating you can still get pregnant. Trust and believe. Relax and know that it will happen when it's meant to.
I hope this helps. I've lost 4 and have none. But I won't be sad and I won't quit. Neither of those things get me any closer to my goal. I know it's hard. Heartbreaking and so frustrating each month. Use this next month while you are traveling to retrain your thinking. And then try again without the stress and negative thoughts affecting everything.
I sound like Pollyana Sunshine. I'm not. It's taken me a longggg time to get to this place. And some days it's so hard to follow my own advice. But quitters never succeed so I won't quit. But I can't crash emotionally every time it's another failed month. Big hugs and baby dust.

 

[TTC74]

That's beautiful, Sophie. I couldn't agree more. I think DHEA is extremely beneficial as an egg Heath supplement for us older ladies.

 

[CaliDreaming]

Mitchnorm :hugs No 43 is definitely not the end of the road so don't lose hope! You are getting pregnant very easily which is a sign you still have some good eggs left. What kind of investigations are they doing after your miscarriages? Were the embryos tested for genetic abnormalities? I'm just wondering because for us 40+ ladies, any problems we have are automatically chalked up to age when it's really something else entirely.

 

[mitchnorm]

Thanks ladies....lovely words Sophie. I should be happy that I am getting pregnant and still having periods....I always wonder if it's tougher getting pregnant an d losing or not getting a bfp at all

CPs obviously no reason I guess cali dreaming x x

First mc was at 9 weeks....partial molar
Second at 9 weeks ...luckily not a molar after testing but didn't have genetic testing either
Third at 6 weeks so no idea...miscarried on a flight to Dubai...not best timing.

For egg quality I am taking ubiquinol. Also taking vitD, sometimes soy isoflavones, high dose folic acid, baby aspirin and multivitamins. Might need to introduce something else.

 

[TTC74]

Mitch - I was taking Prenatal, omega 3-6-9, Vit B, Vit E (for CM), Ubiquinol, Maca, and (most importantly I think) DHEA. i got a BFP 2 months or so after starting the DHEA. Obviously, I can't say whether this will truly be my rainbow. I can hope and pray, though!

 

[Sophie2015]

I second Maca root (but only before ovulation) and DHEA.

As for which is worse, not getting pregnant or miscarrying. Having lost 4 and having had up to a year of BFNs before getting another BFP. I can say that seeing all those BFNs is far worse. At least for me.

 

[mitchnorm]

I can't seem to find dhea in uk

Just checked amazon and no joy.

 

[Sophie2015]

If you google it there aren't places that sell it there? You want the ultra micronized btw. And it takes about 3 months of use to affect your eggs. But it works. I increased my AMH from 1.1 to 3.8 using it. 😄
I buy mine from Amazon usually. Google Fertinatal or Micron 5 (name brands I've used) and see if someplace online ships to the UK.

 

[AngelUK]

mitchnorm have a look here:https://www.dhea-uk.com/product.php?productid=1

 

[Sophie2015]

Thanks Angel!

Mitchnorm- Angel's link is the brand I'm taking now and the brand I took before my pregnancy last year. It's the brand that increased my AMH to 3.8 and my unmedicated follicle count at OV was 29! Only one was dominant but still I had 28 small ones and no cysts although I've never had cysts. Anyway I think it works. There is a clinic in New York who puts ALL their 35+ patients on DHEA prior to any fertility treatments. Center for Human Reproduction. Look them up for more info. Good luck. Stay positive. It'll happen.

 

[mitchnorm]

Thank you ladies.....and thank you for the link. Am off to buy. Do you take all through your cycle? 1 or 2 tablets? Xx

 

[TTC74]

Because it takes time for it to build up in your system and work, I took it the whole cycle until I got my BFP. Then, I discontinued it.

 

[Sophie2015]

^^What TTC said. The tablets are 25mg. The clinic I referred to in New York recommends 75mg a day (although I only take 50mg) and their recommendation is to discontinue after the 2nd positive pregnancy test (although I stop as soon as I get my first BFP). It cannot be taken during pregnancy. Good luck!!