I texted my other half saying i want to keep the baby. Hes said to me since the day we found out he wants a termination, now hes saying that he feels his opinion doesn't matter when clearly it does, it takes two to make a baby, even though i said id talk about it later on today when i see him. I hade a pregnancy scare just after September just gone and we talked about it and he was all for keeping the baby and raising it with me. Now thats all changed? Why? I texted him this: 'What gets me is last time you were all for it, excited even, now your completely againsted it, tell me this if you knew you weren't ready for this and smart enough to know sex equals babies then why didnt you inist on putting something on the end of it?' I mean i pointed out to him that were basically NTNP and he agreed we where, he even said 'if it happens it happens'. If you were so against it why would you say that? If he said no im not ready i would have said ok well be careful! Hes making me feel like its my fault and im starting to believe it is! Am i right to be annoyed for him not wanting it? Or am i in the wrong?
We're not allowed to discuss termination on here hun, but ultimately it's your decision his opinion doesn't count for anything. It's your body, your baby. If you want to keep your LO then don't be pushed into something you don't want. I'm sure he's just a little overwhelmed at the minute. I was in a similar situation and now he's over the moon and so excited for LO to be here. If you ever need to talk pm me
Sorry!!!!! I so hope he comes around! Im really excited Aww thank you hun I see you have onyl 6 days to go! Good luck! And his name is adorable xx
Like everyone said, we can't discuss the "a" word here out of respect for people TTC. Short and simple, your body, your baby, your choice! Good luck, hon!
Thanks girls Just feel really scared and alone Sorry i glanced and saw 6 days not 1 How exciting Hope hes not late for you! Any sign yet? xx
Haha its okay And yeah been having lots of braxton hicks, period cramps and backache so it hopefully won't be long!!
over all its your decision because its your body. his opinion should matter to you, but you also have to do what you feel is right in your heart. at first my oh wanted an "a", i refused and he is now so excited to be a daddy! at first he was just scared...and now hes here with me at every appointment and everything...just make sure you do what feels right in YOUR heart
and anyways you already sound like you have your mind made up...im sure once that little gift is out and in your arms you will have no doubts and what he says wont change a thing! best of luck !
I second this At the end of the day, you are going to be this child's mother, you will be the one carrying it for 9 months and giving birth. I don't agree with the way he is reacting, if he didn't want the baby, like you said, he should have put something on the end of it. what the hell is it with men?! Or should I say boys... I'm glad my OH isn't that stupid. xoxox
Men sometimes :/ Hehe yep i really want to keep bean (got i feeling its a girl) My best friend is all for it i messaged her and told her i wanted to keep it and shes happy I want OH to want bean too though xx
Like others have said, it's your choice what you decide to do. My FOB and I were NTNP after a miscarriage I had a year before, we knew there was a possibilty we could get pregnant again, obviously we both didn't care much. When I found out I was pregnant the second time, we both were absolutely mortified. I wondered the same thing, why were we being so ridiculous NTNPing if both of us didn't want a baby at the time? I think you don't realize how scary and real it actually is until you're pregnant and than when you do get pregnant, all these different emotions hit you, plus hormones start coming toooo so you start feeling really emotional I'm sure. Anyways, like I said, make a decision YOU will be happy with, not him... he will come around I'm sure, it just takes time to get over the initial shock.
MissC, when you first found out, you were so excited, and you still should be. In your mind everything makes perfect sense, but he's scared... to him its horrible horrible news, which makes no sense. but he's a guy, he'll come 'round, and if he doesnt, you CAN do this. you dont have to "a" bc he says he wont be around. Im sure you'll have an awesome support system regardless... Just dont do something you feel you'll regret. bc chances are, you will. Think everything over sweety, we're all here for ya.
agreed, you do what u wana do..sounds to me like his in shock.i remember i use to say if it happens it happens, and that if i would get pregnant id just be happy and be a mum. but when i first fell pregnant, i went into shock and wanted an abortion, but coz of my mum i just chose to think about it. but then weeks went by and i couldnt believe i wanted to get rid of her!! so hopefully in time he wont be so scared and shocked anymore. and maybe when he sees ultra sound pics..that works with heaps of people i know LOL
Maybe he was supportive before because it was a scare? Most lads aren't as attached to the baby before it is born and are always having doubts and worries, even if they aren't presented vocally. At the end of the day, you are the ultimate decider. He can walk and go away but you are the one carrying the child. His opinion does matter, but it shouldn't dictate your own wants.
