Am I ok?

[Chilli]

I'm feeling soooo much better tahn last week, and many thanks to all who have helped. I keep thinking I'm ok and that perhaps I should be thinking about going back to work, but it's the small things... putting the cereal back in the fridge and the milk in the cupboard, making LOADS of typos when I write and having to correct them all... stuff like that. My head is swimming, but with nothing much going on, I've stopped sobbing whenever I'm alone, but still carry that sick, heavy feeling with me all the time. I've kept very busy and all those friends I didn't know had mcs have come out of the woodwork and fessed up, so like I said I feel ok, quite well supported... but...
Off to a party with my toddler now, last time I saw them all announced pregnancy, they all know and will be lovely, but I'm dreading it.

 

[becky77]

Hun it takes a long time to get over it and there are different stages for everyone, oncei stopped crying i kind of felt numb and detached for a while, sounds like your perfectly normal to me, and its great that you have so much support, but give your self time there is no set time for when you will be ok , its a cliche but in this case true , time is the only healer.
so sorry for your loss .
x

 

[Peach Blossom]

I'm feeling soooo much better tahn last week, and many thanks to all who have helped. I keep thinking I'm ok and that perhaps I should be thinking about going back to work, but it's the small things... putting the cereal back in the fridge and the milk in the cupboard, making LOADS of typos when I write and having to correct them all... stuff like that. My head is swimming, but with nothing much going on, I've stopped sobbing whenever I'm alone, but still carry that sick, heavy feeling with me all the time. I've kept very busy and all those friends I didn't know had mcs have come out of the woodwork and fessed up, so like I said I feel ok, quite well supported... but...
Off to a party with my toddler now, last time I saw them all announced pregnancy, they all know and will be lovely, but I'm dreading it.

Big hugs hon. I went back to work this morning and I honestly feel much better for it. I'm still so sad and am still living in a bit of a haze, but being busy has helped me feel like time is going faster and that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I deliberately came in on a Friday so that there was only one day to cope with before the weekend. Ease in gently. If you're feeling stronger then perhaps it is worth trying to go back to work. Only do what you feel you can when you can.

Hope the party isn't do distressing for you.

 

[Las78]

Hun, good to hear you're feeling better. As the days go by it is that little bit easier to cope, the thought of your angel will never go away hun, I still 4 weeks on have days where I feel really sad but the pain isn't quite so bad as it was.

I would also recommend easing into work slowly, I went back a week and a half after and was sent straight home, it was all too much, went back wednesday and felt much better having done a taster as such on monday, it also gave me a chance to ask others to just keep things normal and not avoid me which understandably they did not knowing what to say.

Hope the party goes ok.

Hugs

Lisa

 

[mazza2003]

Good luck with the party. It difficult when you know they know....but I bet you find it a relief afterwards. Chin up and I am thinking of you. X

 

[Shazzy]

Good luck today, i know it was hard to see the ppl after my mc and wanted to hide for a while. To hear the same ppl who were congratulating you, now saying sorry. Most ppl understand and its good to have support.

 

[Chilli]

Well party brought me back to sobs, I just made it til my husband came home. I feel so exhausted and couldn't keep track of conversations, my mind just kept wandering off to nowhere. I am a teacher, so whilst I know that the other staff will be supportive I'm concerned whether I'll last a day with the kids. It's so full on, you need to be going at 110% to cope and I'd say I'm probably about 40% most of the time. At the same time I'm sure it would do me good... eventually

 

[toby2]

chilli i teach and i had two weeks off and then half term-i popped into work the week before half term to say hi to everyone, made going back easier to face-take your time,you wil know when you are ready. For me i got to the point when i was ok at home but not anywhere else and then i gradually was ok everywhere else and then i went back
good for you going to the party, must have been tough