Am I oversensitive or are people just insensitive full stop?

[CurlySue]

Another day, another stupid comment, this one at work from a woman who is notorious for lying through her arse about just about everything in the world.

Today we had a client come in. She is charged with wilful neglect of her children, two of them, one aged nineteen months the other aged almost-three. Recently, she was arrested for shoplifting. She was taken to the police station where she was for six hours having a rest period and being questioned. After eight hours she decided to inform the arresting officers that she had to get back home immediately. When asked why, she said "Because my children are home alone."

Nineteen months. Not quite three years. Home alone for eight hours whilst their mother goes out shoplifting.

"I feel so sorry for this girl," says Clare at work. When I look at her and ask "What the fuck, WHY? She showed LOADS of concern for her kids when she sat in a police station for eight hours without even telling anyone they were at home and at risk. Shouldn't you feel sorry for the kids?"

"They were screaming," she says. "She was home alone with them. She couldn't cope."

Screaming? SCREAMING, I ask? Is that not what babies do?

Clare then glares at me and says "What would you know about post natal depression? It's not like YOU'VE got any kids, is it?"

To which point I just glared back and reminded her that wasn't by choice; reminded her, also, that I would not be so fucking stupid as to go out shoplifting and leave my babies home alone.

She shut up, then.

She's not speaking to me, now.

I am just in quiet disbelief, at this moment.

 

[maz]

What a stupid bint... I can't believe the stupidity of some people. How can a work colleague be so disrespectful of your feelings? I don't get it. Especially when she is aware of your situation...



As for that stupid woman leaving her children home alone - those children should be given to foster families who will care for them properly...

 

[MrsF]

Clare then glares at me and says "What would you know about post natal depression? It's not like YOU'VE got any kids, is it?"


WTF????!!!!

That is not you being sensitive hun, that is her being completely insensitive - in a professional setting there is absolutely no call for that kind of remark. It sounds like you have a tough job as it is (although i dont know your exact role), without some no-mark in your team giving you crap.

It's hard enough as it is going through the journey's we are in our private life, it's then hard enough as it is trying not to take it into work, we really dont need some ...... throwing it back.

not sure if you need it, but to you x

 

[miel]

i keep saying some peoples are soooooooooo ...don't think they are words for them ..."stupid" is to nice ...

to you.

 

[CurlySue]

What a stupid bint... I can't believe the stupidity of some people. How can a work colleague be so disrespectful of your feelings? I don't get it. Especially when she is aware of your situation...



As for that stupid woman leaving her children home alone - those children should be given to foster families who will care for them properly...

She basically told me I was not qualified to pass comment on this woman because I had never had children.

I will admit that I have no knowledge of post natal depression but I very much doubt this selfish bitch has anything of the sort. Seems funny, doesn't it, that she only has post natal depression now she has been caught not only shoplifting but neglecting her kids.

Oh, Clare claims she had post natal depression. She also claims she gave birth with half a womb. She has told me that she has had nine miscarriages. Then eight. Then four. Now it's five and she had a stillborn daughter. She told me it took her four years to conceive. Then she told me it took her three months. Now she is telling people she got pregnant the first time she ever had sex with her husband.

As you can see, this woman is a fantastic human being...

 

[mer01]

stupid cow some people should really keep their mouths shut, i hope you gave her a black eye (or at least an imaginary one)

I'm so sorry you had to hear that sweetheart





xx

 

[CurlySue]

Clare then glares at me and says "What would you know about post natal depression? It's not like YOU'VE got any kids, is it?"


WTF????!!!!

That is not you being sensitive hun, that is her being completely insensitive - in a professional setting there is absolutely no call for that kind of remark. It sounds like you have a tough job as it is (although i dont know your exact role), without some no-mark in your team giving you crap.

It's hard enough as it is going through the journey's we are in our private life, it's then hard enough as it is trying not to take it into work, we really dont need some ...... throwing it back.

not sure if you need it, but to you x

It was her insistence on feeling sorry for the mother yet having no concern for the babies, babies I would kill to have as my own, need I say. There she is, excusing the neglect of two beautiful children to a person who is about to embark upon IVF in order to have one of her own. Then, to top it all off, she simply brushes aside my input into the situation because I don't have children and therefore what the fuck would I know?

I know that this woman has never seen a psychiatrist. I also know that she has shown no sign of remorse or guilt or anything of the sort for what she did. I know that every time I have seen her she has been on the phone giggling away like a stupid idiot and that when she was caught shoplifting it was make up and DVDs - things for her, so she did not even have the excuse of saying she was stealing for her children. She was doing it because she is selfish.

This woman has not mentioned post natal depression. Clare is just looking for some form of defense that she can exploit in this case and I find that sickening; sickening that she is looking to make a mockery of a condition simply because she 'feels sorry' for this woman.

Ugh.

 

[chefamy1122]

Sooo sorry you work with such an awful person!

 

[CurlySue]

This same person, I found out rather accidentally, blames every mistake she ever does on me. She lies constantly. She takes on this superior attitude at all times and, ugh, I want to deck her.

 

[JASMAK]

Holy shit!!! That is so way off! Two things I can't believe came out of this chicks mouth...the part about how she feels sorry for this terrible terrible mother who would leave such young children at home alone...five minutes, eight hours...just HORRIBLE. For her to feel sorry for this mother just goes to show that this lady herself has some issues. Then, what she said to you....that is just plain WRONG. No way. I would have smacked her. I am so sorry you had to hear that. What a bitch!

 

[MrsJD]

OUCH!!!!! what a bitch! How dare she make that comment to you! insensitive MUPPET! Plus I think she's got a bloody cheek not talking to you when it was her with the megamouth.com, she should be apologising.

As for the shoplifter, she should have her kids removed from her for leaving them home alone.

Rant over

 

[CurlySue]

Holy shit!!! That is so way off! Two things I can't believe came out of this chicks mouth...the part about how she feels sorry for this terrible terrible mother who would leave such young children at home alone...five minutes, eight hours...just HORRIBLE. For her to feel sorry for this mother just goes to show that this lady herself has some issues. Then, what she said to you....that is just plain WRONG. No way. I would have smacked her. I am so sorry you had to hear that. What a bitch!

Would love to smack her sometimes. Am sick of her lies and her superiority. Everyone at work knows she lies. She is famed for it. The minute she told us she had conceived with half a womb we looked it up. It's so rare that there is actually a news article about a woman who did the same. No prizes for guessing it wasn't Clare.

She is doing that whole "politically correct" thing. This woman MUST have post natal depression therefore fuck the kids, we MUST pity her. Well, I'm sorry, but I don't. Even a mother with post natal depression would not purposely neglect to tell the people holding her in custody that her kids have been alone for eight hours. Why didnt she do it? Because she was too busy looking out for herself.

"No," Clare said, "She did it because her head was all over the place. You've never been there."

I assured her I would never leave my child and she said "You don't know that."

Oh, I can safely say that I DO know that. Bitch. Seriously, I don't know why I am so wound up by this woman. I think I've just had enough of her.

 

[CareBear]

You are definiatly not being oversensitive, if I had heard about the shoplifting woman leaving her kids at home alone at that age I would hav gone off on one major rant and I would not care about any extenuating circumstances. And as for saying you don't know you would never leave your kids alone well sorry but I think we can catagorically say we wouldn't do that and anyone who could put their children's needs before their own would. If I did feel that my head was all over the place and I needed time out I would ensure my children were being well looked after and cared for by my DH or my parents first. Sheesh what a stupid idiotic woman! I feel wound up for you

 

[Wishing4baby]

I think this woman needs to see a shrink...if you ask me!! Seems like SHE doesnt even know the truth from a lie! Im so sorry for you that you have to work with such an inconsiderate and RUDE person like her! As much as it hurts to hear someone like THIS FOOL say something like that to you, you just cant let people like this get to you. ("easier said than done", I know!) But they are absolutely clueless and are just out to hurt you. Dont let her know that you were upset or pissed. People like her feed off of stuff like that.......hurting people where it really hurts the most. Im so sorry Curly that you have to deal with an idiot like her.

 

[Wishing4baby]

Oh and if I was there with you when she said that...I probably would have punched her in the face for you.....or ran her over with my bike!! LOL
(I thought this smilie was appropriate, dont you! )

Thought you could get a good laugh!

 

[Trying4ever]

LOL WTF what an idiotic woman, if everyone knows she lies, cant you get your boss to get rid of her? Maybe you should tell your boss what she said...i.e. that she thinks that the woman leaving her kids alone for 8 hours while she was shoplifting is excusable and down to postnatal depression? You cannot say that she has PND unless it has been diagnosed by a doc or psychiatrist...as you said the woman is giggling on the phone and stealing which she probly did before she had her kids so that cant be an excuse! Not sure what job you do but Social services should definitley get involved and try and get the kids a safer home......thats exactly how baby P died.....how can these neglectful people be allowed to breed?

Sorry you had to hear insensitive comments from this woman at work esp when she knows you are having IVF

 

[CurlySue]

To be fair, its our job to find a suitable defense for a person who has committed a crime but I have no excuse for her. Thank God she's not someone I have to speak to.

As for Clare, well, she is pathetic. It just made me so mad that she KNOWS what my husband and I are currently about to go through yet she still felt the need to get in a little dig about how I have no children. Yes, I know that. I'm painfully aware of that.

But, like someone else said, if my head WERE all over the place I would not leave my babies home alone to go out stealing. I'd make sure they were safe THEN I'd go out stealing.

Just kidding.

Bints, the lot of them.

 

[tracybirduk]

Curly Sue (((((HUGS))))))
Inconsiderate cow! she needs to be taken down a peg or six! Well done for keeping your temper! CAn u make an offical complaint? Might shut her up for a while!
Tracy xxxxxx

 

[Farie]

what a stupid cow ... you did well not to lamp her one some people should really not be allowed to interact with others

 

[BizyBee]

Wow, I am getting all worked up over this. Seriously, what is she thinking? How can she even justify that behavior? What she said was completely insensitive and rude! Ugh, I am so irritated with Claire. She's just as bad as the stupid shoplifting mother...