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I've started dating this guy, and though it is very early days yet, it's clear we both really like each other, so hopefully he will be around for a while.
However, i kept thinking, even if we were in a serious relationship, i would count myself as a single mum. I mean, i would still be looking after Bella on my own, she would still only have me as a mother and no father about. He would exactly be taking on any parenting abilities or anything, not really. So would i still be a single mum? Even if i wasn't technically 'single'?
Would it be, if in sometime in the distant future, we moved in together that i would stop being a single mum? As even then i think i would still feel like a single mum even if i'm not. I can't see him getting up with her in the middle of the night, or feeding her her dinner, or changing her nappy or giving her a bath. I would still be doing everything on my own.
But then, at the same time, at least i would have someone there. Someone to play with her while i cook dinner, someone to calm me down if she winds me up, someone to comfort me if she gets ill, someone to watch her while i have a bath.
So when is it exactly that i shouldn't class myself as a single mum? Or is it really, once you a single mum, you are a single mum for life?
However, i kept thinking, even if we were in a serious relationship, i would count myself as a single mum. I mean, i would still be looking after Bella on my own, she would still only have me as a mother and no father about. He would exactly be taking on any parenting abilities or anything, not really. So would i still be a single mum? Even if i wasn't technically 'single'?
Would it be, if in sometime in the distant future, we moved in together that i would stop being a single mum? As even then i think i would still feel like a single mum even if i'm not. I can't see him getting up with her in the middle of the night, or feeding her her dinner, or changing her nappy or giving her a bath. I would still be doing everything on my own.
But then, at the same time, at least i would have someone there. Someone to play with her while i cook dinner, someone to calm me down if she winds me up, someone to comfort me if she gets ill, someone to watch her while i have a bath.
So when is it exactly that i shouldn't class myself as a single mum? Or is it really, once you a single mum, you are a single mum for life?