Am i the only one not obsessed with knowing baby's sex before bith?

[Stargazer77]

We are not finding out, its only 9 months we have to wait so i figured i can wait a wee bit longer, we have bought everything in nude and white so it can be used again, i don't mind either way if people do or don't the only thing i am not keen on is picking a name before baby is even born, what happens when he/she comes and they don't suit that name but everyone already knows it, i love hearing when a baby is born but i love waiting to hear what the name will be. this is only my opinion though.

I understand what you mean, but I'm the total opposite. I've had our second LO's name picked out since our first was born eight years ago..... if its a girl.....still no clue on boys names though....can't find one I like. Grrrrr.

 

[Scottishgem]

if we had definate names we liked them am sure we would use them but we don't have any names that we would use for definate, i just know the rest of the pregnancy will fly by and we need to have some names, no pressure lol, friends of ours who had a wee boy two weeks ago on Thursday still don't have name for there wee boy eeekk!!!!

 

[Stargazer77]

Lol!!! Goodness.... my sister changed the name of their baby after two weeks!

 

[animalcracker]

I'm one of those people who can't WAIT to find out! Neither can hubby! When we do find out, we're not telling anyone. It's just for us to know.

For me - it makes life easier when it comes to decorating and buying things. I am so excited to know if we are having a girl or a boy!

 

[weffi82]

They are thinkin of changin laws so ya cant find out!

When I had my first we lived in huntingdon and the local hospital, hinchingbrooke, had a 'no tell' policy due to the high number of girl terminations by a particular religious group.

Yeah thats the reason for the law change! Cant believe any1 could do such a thing.

 

[animalcracker]

They are thinkin of changin laws so ya cant find out!

When I had my first we lived in huntingdon and the local hospital, hinchingbrooke, had a 'no tell' policy due to the high number of girl terminations by a particular religious group.

Yeah thats the reason for the law change! Cant believe any1 could do such a thing.

I'm a little confused about the law change. I was under the impression that you can't tell gender until about 17 or 18 weeks? By that time it is AGAINST the law to terminate, isn't it? What am I missing? LOL

 

[Stargazer77]

They are thinkin of changin laws so ya cant find out!

When I had my first we lived in huntingdon and the local hospital, hinchingbrooke, had a 'no tell' policy due to the high number of girl terminations by a particular religious group.

Yeah thats the reason for the law change! Cant believe any1 could do such a thing.

I'm a little confused about the law change. I was under the impression that you can't tell gender until about 17 or 18 weeks? By that time it is AGAINST the law to terminate, isn't it? What am I missing? LOL

It's because of illegal terminations carried out by shady surgeons in dirty 'clinics'. Men forcing women to terminate.... endangering Mother too.

 

[littlelady23]

They are thinkin of changin laws so ya cant find out!

When I had my first we lived in huntingdon and the local hospital, hinchingbrooke, had a 'no tell' policy due to the high number of girl terminations by a particular religious group.

Yeah thats the reason for the law change! Cant believe any1 could do such a thing.

I'm a little confused about the law change. I was under the impression that you can't tell gender until about 17 or 18 weeks? By that time it is AGAINST the law to terminate, isn't it? What am I missing? LOL

you can find out the sex from 16 weeks and in the UK the law is upto 24 weeks for termination. xx

 

[animalcracker]

They are thinkin of changin laws so ya cant find out!

When I had my first we lived in huntingdon and the local hospital, hinchingbrooke, had a 'no tell' policy due to the high number of girl terminations by a particular religious group.

Yeah thats the reason for the law change! Cant believe any1 could do such a thing.

I'm a little confused about the law change. I was under the impression that you can't tell gender until about 17 or 18 weeks? By that time it is AGAINST the law to terminate, isn't it? What am I missing? LOL

you can find out the sex from 16 weeks and in the UK the law is upto 24 weeks for termination. xx

Holy crap - 24 weeks?? I had NO idea you could be so far gone and still have an abortion in the UK. I think it varies by state in the US (no idea what the law is over here either).

 

[littlelady23]

They are thinkin of changin laws so ya cant find out!

When I had my first we lived in huntingdon and the local hospital, hinchingbrooke, had a 'no tell' policy due to the high number of girl terminations by a particular religious group.

Yeah thats the reason for the law change! Cant believe any1 could do such a thing.

I'm a little confused about the law change. I was under the impression that you can't tell gender until about 17 or 18 weeks? By that time it is AGAINST the law to terminate, isn't it? What am I missing? LOL

you can find out the sex from 16 weeks and in the UK the law is upto 24 weeks for termination. xx

Holy crap - 24 weeks?? I had NO idea you could be so far gone and still have an abortion in the UK. I think it varies by state in the US (no idea what the law is over here either).

yeah although its something like only 1% are over the 20 week mark, and the vast majority of them are for medical reasons - however u can still do it upto the 24 weeks without medical reason unfortunately xx

 

[AmyMumToBe]

We're not finding out! Can't wait till my OH tells me boy or girl xxx

 

[happy4three]

I don't want to know. My husband does. We are still discussing what we will do. This is my third and last pregnancy. I have one boy and one girl, so it doesn't really matter what I have this time. (unless you as my son, or my daughter ). I just think this is the last time I can have such a huge and wonderful surprise. And, I want to wait until the day the baby is born. I wonder if I'll give in to my husband, or if he'll give in to me...

 

[SouthernC]

I'm finding out, I wouldn't say I'm obsessed about knowing, but this is my first baby and I want to be prepared for when they baby arrives, I dont want to have everything be gender neutral, and want to prepare the nursery, buy gender specific clothing etc before baby arrives.

 

[ggbaby2]

I wouldn't say i'm obsessed or stressed about it , but i definitely prefer to find out beforehand. I'm a big planner and I really enjoy knowing so that i can prepare get to pick out a color and decor for the nursery and my biggest thing is i can start shopping for little clothes. I know u can still shop for neutral if u don't know but as i'm hoping for a girl i can't help but notice all the cute little dresses when i'm at the store. Unfortunately my baby was closing its legs at the last US so i was told it looked like a girl but didn't get a good enough look to be sure. I'm still hoping that if I have another US they'll be able to confirm

 

[helenas81]

I don't want to know, didn't with my 1st either! It's lovely after all the effort of labour, that lik surprise of is it a girl or boy 

 

[Bunska]

My sister made a good point the other day, she was asking if we still dont want to find out and i said yeh we are going to wait and she thought its good, because we know someone who is about 34 weeks now and they found out the sex at 16 weeks and had the name picked the next day and my sister was saying, theres nothing to look forward to now, theres no surprise, all we're waiting for is to find out how much he weighs!!
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We havent firmly decided yet so sill up in the air BUT I do disagree with that if you find out you have nothing more to look forward to and its one of my
'against' reasons when people say this. Surely the arrival of the baby is enough to look forward to! The other thing I wonder is that, by the end of the labour you just wont care, you will just be glad it is over and that your baby has arrived safely. Therefore, I wonder if there is more enjoyement to be had by finding out the sex earlier...

I wasn't making an observation about you, or your sister. Sorry, wasn't very clear. I was just thinking/debating out loud as I have been doing for weeks and weeks on this whole gender thing, prompted by that quote. That's all. Promise and sorry!


I would like to point out that MY SISTER said this, as it's been picked out quite a few times now! I just thought it was nice to repeat an opinion of an outsider (someone not pregnant) and the experience of THEM knowing the sex and name of another's baby, because for us just as her friends that's all there is to know (and what it looks like, which I did point out to my sister as being a BIG factor)

I'm actually quite offended that so many of you would think I wouldn't be looking forward to meeting my baby if i knew the sex.

ANYWAY....

BlaireUK...how are you managing to keep that to yourself!? EEKKK if i knew i'd HAVE to tell people lol However i do think thats sweet, keeping it a surprise for them still

x x

 

[Bunska]

God sorry, nit sure what happened there, bloody iPad. Mymcomment is in there somewhere... The bit about I wasn't meaning it to come across as an observation on you or your sister. Just debating out loud as I have been arguing with myself over it for weeks...

 

[Amethyste]

I am finding out personally but if the baby doesn't cooperate it wouldn't be a problem for me and i would pay for a private scan. I think the gender guess thing is more for fun but i agree that sometimes some ladies seem very impatient, lol.

 

[Arcanegirl]

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[mamawannabee]

We didn't find out and I am so excited to find out at birth! How many surprises like this do we have in life? At every scan they ask if I want to know and I'm always afraid they will tell me, I really want to keep it a surprise! We want everything in neutral as they can be used for another baby, and I'm not big into all pink or blue anyway, I like neutrals! OH was not nearly as excited about waiting, he really wanted to know, but gave in to me. This just made me think I should ask him how he feels about it now, and if it's been as hard as he thought? My compromise with him was that we could find out with the next baby though so we won't have the surprise then unless he changes his mind!