Am i the only one not obsessed with knowing baby's sex before bith?

[Mindy_mini]

We found out with dd because from the day I conceived I thought I was having a boy. I was worried that I would struggle to bond if it was a girl after spending 9 months thinking I was having a boy. Good job I did because we had our beautiful daughter who i fell in love with the moment they said girl.

This time I don't have any feelings so we won't find out

 

[lozza1uk]

I really want the surprise, i'm hoping it will give me extra incentive to push at the end!! Plus I think it will stop the in-laws buying loads of stuff in either pink or blue!

 

[Bunska]

My sister made a good point the other day, she was asking if we still dont want to find out and i said yeh we are going to wait and she thought its good, because we know someone who is about 34 weeks now and they found out the sex at 16 weeks and had the name picked the next day and my sister was saying, theres nothing to look forward to now, theres no surprise, all we're waiting for is to find out how much he weighs!!
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We havent firmly decided yet so sill up in the air BUT I do disagree with that if you find out you have nothing more to look forward to and its one of my 'against' reasons when people say this. Surely the arrival of the baby is enough to look forward to! The other thing I wonder is that, by the end of the labour you just wont care, you will just be glad it is over and that your baby has arrived safely. Therefore, I wonder if there is more enjoyement to be had by finding out the sex earlier...

 

[Celesse]

I didn't find out cos its like woah, exciting. It just makes it a bit easier to plan things.

For me I needed to know to be able to keep out, or pack away my baby girl clothes as we are in a tiny flat and space is at a premimum. I know I'm having a boy so I've packed them away, sorted them out and have started makng arrangements to get some baby boy clothes from my sister.

Also its nice for my toddler to be able to call the bump by his name and hopefully build up some association for her.

 

[littlelady23]

you have nothing left to look forward to?! what apart from the gorgeous baby uve just given birth to! lol.

2 people I know recently have given birth. 1 kept it a secret, the other didn't, and we knew her girls name aswell. both were equally exciting for me, there was certainly no disappointment from anyone because we knew what flavour she was gonna pop out!

I just couldn't wait, I had to know and it has helped me bond with my baby, I love calling her 'she' instead of 'it' - but I do understand where ur coming from, if I had a little more patience I might of wanted to wait. but I don't and I'm more than glad I found out! xx

 

[Jennifaerie]

It's swings and roundabouts IMO, I can understand why you wouldn't want to know but at the same time there are plenty of reasons to find out. It never stressed me out - I was just excited, and I think that excitement is the same whether you find out at 20 or 40 weeks. For us it helped us bond with our baby girl and really imagine her, especially for DH. Plus we thought we she was a boy - rubbish intuition so I'm glad I know she's
At the same time I can understand wanting the surprise on the day you have them, esp since my sister doesn't find out in advance. But knowing has allowed us to gather lots of freebies from friends/ family and helped us to decorate x

 

[kimbo46]

I'm not finding out with this one, but my OH really wants too. I am just going to keep saying no. I found out with all my others, so this time I want a surprise. I've even told him that he can choose names, if we wait.

 

[ilovebabybean]

Hi ya i have never been able to wait! Never in a stressed out way but an o so very excited to find out and buy loads of cute outfits way! Though i have to say there is still everything to look forward to...meeting baby for the first time is exciting enough, nothing feels is as mind blowingly amazing, the way i see it im spreading the excitment about...or is that just me excusing my impatience ;P Can totally see why people do and dont wait though, its all exciting stuff xx

 

[babyjoy10]

hi, im not going to find out and oh isnt bothered about finding out so its goning to be a suprise anyway knowing my luck i would probadly be told its a girl and id go away and stock up on pink stuff and get a massive suprise we're told at birth its a boy !!

 

[Saphira]

Yes, although I'll admit, when the doctor asked if we'd like to know the gender I nearly lost it! Since then it hasn't really crossed my mind often although I do wonder every now and then what baby could be. Definitely not stressed about it though - the stress I feel is worrying about baby's health! Shopping can be more challenging as even newborn sizes are almost all aimed at baby boys or girls. But we've gotten what baby will need for the first few months and then afterward we'll get more gender-related outfits. I was actually given a very "boyish" outfit as a gift, it's dark green and navy striped with a yellow truck on it and I know some women wouldn't dare put it on their baby girl. We kind of laughed about it and that was all - who cares! We've also gotten a lot of blue items, which typically blue is always associated with boys, but I don't see why it can't be a nice color for girls too (heck, I'm a gal and I love blue way more than pink)! But, I'm getting off topic - just wanted to let you know I'm in the same boat. Have considered finding out the gender for the 2nd baby just to try it both ways though. Just want a healthy baby in the end, that's what matters most.

 

[toria_vin]

My sister made a good point the other day, she was asking if we still dont want to find out and i said yeh we are going to wait and she thought its good, because we know someone who is about 34 weeks now and they found out the sex at 16 weeks and had the name picked the next day and my sister was saying, theres nothing to look forward to now, theres no surprise, all we're waiting for is to find out how much he weighs!!
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We havent firmly decided yet so sill up in the air BUT I do disagree with that if you find out you have nothing more to look forward to and its one of my 'against' reasons when people say this. Surely the arrival of the baby is enough to look forward to! The other thing I wonder is that, by the end of the labour you just wont care, you will just be glad it is over and that your baby has arrived safely. Therefore, I wonder if there is more enjoyement to be had by finding out the sex earlier...

I would like to point out that MY SISTER said this, as it's been picked out quite a few times now! I just thought it was nice to repeat an opinion of an outsider (someone not pregnant) and the experience of THEM knowing the sex and name of another's baby, because for us just as her friends that's all there is to know (and what it looks like, which I did point out to my sister as being a BIG factor)

I'm actually quite offended that so many of you would think I wouldn't be looking forward to meeting my baby if i knew the sex.

ANYWAY....

BlaireUK...how are you managing to keep that to yourself!? EEKKK if i knew i'd HAVE to tell people lol However i do think thats sweet, keeping it a surprise for them still

x x

 

[Pocketmonster]

Don't worry...people get defensive just cos they've choosen to do things differently...

Everyone here just wants a healthy baby....and everyone 'fees/experiences' excitement in a different way. If we were all the same life would be boring...

Like you it is the 'ultimate' to me to have my babies sex a complete surprise on the day! Enjoy the count down x x x

 

[firsttimer1]

Hi - not read whole thread but we are not finding out the sex. HOWEVER all the posts i see on gender guessing are fun and exciting posts - not women stressing out xxx

 

[VickieLP]

Personally, I have always believed if you were meant to know the sex, then you would know. It's just one of those things in life thats meant to be a surprise.....
Fortunately both me and DF agree so have stayed Team Yellow...... It must be awful if one of you wants to know, and the other doesn't.
As for being able to decorate the nursery - The baby won't be in the nursery straight away - We will decorate it neutral, then add accessories once baby arrives to make it girly or not!!!.... The same for shopping for clothes.... Will definitely be out in the January Sales getting lots of pink or blue..... So far I have picked up some lovely colourful outfits that will look great on a little boy or girl....

I haven't been tempted at all to find out - I love the fact that we have to shortlist both girls and boys names.. (mind you we can't agree on anything)

Like somebody already said - If everybody was the same life would be boring......

My only pet hate is calling baby it - I really need to find something to call him or her for the next few months..... Anyone else feel like this???

 

[weffi82]

They are thinkin of changin laws so ya cant find out!

 

[BlaireUK]

ANYWAY....

BlaireUK...how are you managing to keep that to yourself!? EEKKK if i knew i'd HAVE to tell people lol However i do think thats sweet, keeping it a surprise for them still

x x

Toria_vin - I thought keeping the gender secret would be the hardest secret to keep but since we found out we have both been very protective of it. As much as we want to shout it from the rooftops some days, we LOVE knowing something about our pregnancy that no one else does and I'm convinced it's helped us both bond with our wee boy. I can't wait to meet him and I can't imagine being any more excited about the lo if we didn't know his gender. X

 

[Pocketmonster]

Personally, I have always believed if you were meant to know the sex, then you would know. It's just one of those things in life thats meant to be a surprise.....
Fortunately both me and DF agree so have stayed Team Yellow...... It must be awful if one of you wants to know, and the other doesn't.
As for being able to decorate the nursery - The baby won't be in the nursery straight away - We will decorate it neutral, then add accessories once baby arrives to make it girly or not!!!.... The same for shopping for clothes.... Will definitely be out in the January Sales getting lots of pink or blue..... So far I have picked up some lovely colourful outfits that will look great on a little boy or girl....

I haven't been tempted at all to find out - I love the fact that we have to shortlist both girls and boys names.. (mind you we can't agree on anything)

Like somebody already said - If everybody was the same life would be boring......

My only pet hate is calling baby it - I really need to find something to call him or her for the next few months..... Anyone else feel like this???

Ahhh we just say baby, or monkey, our little monster...we generally refer to the baby as a him out of habit and few times I've been questioned...my friends always refers to baby as her! Is all sooooooo very exciting!!! x x

 

[Scottishgem]

We are not finding out, its only 9 months we have to wait so i figured i can wait a wee bit longer, we have bought everything in nude and white so it can be used again, i don't mind either way if people do or don't the only thing i am not keen on is picking a name before baby is even born, what happens when he/she comes and they don't suit that name but everyone already knows it, i love hearing when a baby is born but i love waiting to hear what the name will be. this is only my opinion though.

 

[Stargazer77]

I didn't with our first one but this time round I really want to know.. and should find out this Friday at 20 week scan all being well

 

[Stargazer77]

They are thinkin of changin laws so ya cant find out!

When I had my first we lived in huntingdon and the local hospital, hinchingbrooke, had a 'no tell' policy due to the high number of girl terminations by a particular religious group.