Am I the only one who is lonely?

[jen1]

Ok, so I had kids young. I met my partner when I was 17. We had our first baby when I was 18. Moved away from where we grew up at 19. Had our second baby at 21. Moved back to where we were born that same month. Had our third baby at 25. I'm now 26 and I've been to loads of baby groups, met loads of mums at school, met new neighbours several times, etc.. yet I can't seem to make a decent friend. Is it me? Everyone I see seems to have a friend they can turn to but I haven't had that since school and it's starting to bother me because I'd love a friend

 

[mridula]

Hello dear Cheer up! You've stood up brave through all the hard times so just pat yourself and cheer up! You can sure have many friends as you're an honest person and have a kind heart... you can speak whatever you feel here.. so we all ladies can be your friends keep posting and talk to us! Take care and stay happy!!

 

[ClairAye]

Ok, so I had kids young. I met my partner when I was 17. We had our first baby when I was 18. Moved away from where we grew up at 19. Had our second baby at 21. Moved back to where we were born that same month. Had our third baby at 25. I'm now 26 and I've been to loads of baby groups, met loads of mums at school, met new neighbours several times, etc.. yet I can't seem to make a decent friend. Is it me? Everyone I see seems to have a friend they can turn to but I haven't had that since school and it's starting to bother me because I'd love a friend

I completely get this! I lost touch with all of my old friends when I had my first at 17, I'm about to turn 25 in a couple of weeks and my closest friend is my mum. I'm on my own with my kids and my eldest has additional needs so I don't really have time to build on any potential friendships. However I'm thankful that I know a wonderful group of people that I met on here all those years ago but it would be nice to have just one person that could come over or that I could meet up with even once a week!

 

[HLx]

I'm with you here! I have lots of people that I know and talk to on a daily basis, and a few people that are life long friends, however, I'm at that stage now where I feel I don't have anyone that I could really go to, that one girl friend that I could meet for a catch up if I needed to, all my friends have kids and I understand we are all busy, but I'm the type of person that makes time for friends, but my friends are always busy, so I give up asking. Now being pregnant again, I don't see anyone, but after a short hospital stay beginning of the month, I had people messaging me I haven't heard of in months possibly years, my heart was telling me they are messaging because they care despite living busy lives, my head was telling me they are just being nosey and they haven't wanted to know up until know! Maybe it's me! Who knows! My partner is my closest friend right now, we do everything together, but even he has his small handful of friends, that he goes out with once in a while, or visit/visit him. We joke all the time that I need a friend, and I also make a joke of it, but deep down I just feel like no one really gives a shit, I spend lots of time with my kids, my partner and my mum, they are all amazing people in my life so I can't complain. My closest friend and I don't really talk anymore, we was close up until about 2 years ago, We used to have sleep overs with us and the kids, pizza and movie nights, lots of wine and gossips, but since she got into a relationship I don't hear from her, EXCEPT when I was at hospital and she wanted to visit me.... and I made a shit excuse for her not too as once again, that heart/head battle, and the fact I'm a stubborn cow, and I've spent a lot of my life doing things for people only for it to end up biting me in the ass. Maybe the problem is me, maybe it isn't, i really don't know!

 

[Babybump87]

I moved away from where I grew up and didn’t keep in touch with any school friends etc . I basically started over again . I had jobs made a few friends but since leaving only speak to one or two of them. I’ve been to loads of play groups too and see those people out and about .

It wasn’t until DD1 started school that I made proper friends with the other mums in particular one Mum and we are now best friends ! Hang in there it’s sooo much harder making friends when your older !

Are there any coffee mornings / hobby groups aimed at adults etc where you live.

 

[SmartieMeUp]

I could have written this myself! I was 17 when I met my partner. Moved in with him at 18 (moved to his town) followed by our first child, moved back to my hometown, then back to his, then fell pregnant at 21 with our second. Moved back to my hometown when I was 23. I lost all of my school and college friends during the moves. Now I'm 26, my only social life is/was school runs, but I'm working all the time so that was taken away from me. I stick to online socialising now - no real life drama, but it would be nice to actually see a face occasionally which isn't blood related or colleagues.

 

[mrsmummy2]

Sounds just like me! Got together with DH at 17, pregnant at 18, married at 20, second child at 21, moved away at 22 and now 26, been in the area for 4 years and pregnant with 3rd child.
I have NO friends here at all. I did have... but last year they ALL suddenly stopped talking to me and have never spoken since. I have one actual friend and no "acquaintances". I live in a small Welsh town which is full of gossip and nosey people which doesnt help the situation!

If I didn't have my husband, kids and my mum and occasionally seeing my one friend I would be alone 24/7. It was difficult at first and caused me a lot of anxiety.. but now I'm quite "ok" with my little bubble of privacy. Of course I'd have liked to have friends to turn to and for my kids to have friends outside of school to go on playdates etc but mentally I just can't seem to go there and make the step to make friends after being burned by the people around here.

Not a very helpful reply, but it's just to let you know you're not alone

 

[Twag]

I am older than you all I think (39) but I lost all my friends when I was 25 when me & my ex split up (I was with him from 17) and guess they stayed friends with him (despite him being the one who cheated on me and left )

I have friends now couple friends that are friends with both DH and I but no one I would say I could turn too as a best girly friend or JUST my friends my DH does still from collage. I guess my best friends are my sisters and Mum but even then it would be nice to have a bestie - maybe I will still find mine but in the meantime I have here I guess