Lara310809
Mum of 3 girls
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When our first baby was born we had 2 incomes; now we have one, and now we also have another child.
Understandably we had more money to spend on our first baby, so it wasn't a problem when her 1st birthday came around. We didn'tr buy loads for her; a couple of bigger things, like a doll and wooden blocks etc, but then I wrapped up a load of things we had already boughtt for her that she hadn't yet played with. I guess it was for the sole purpose of looking like we'd given her more than we actually had. I post photos to FB for family/friends, so these were in the batch, and I suppose I wanted to look as if I'd made a massve deal of her 1st birthday LOL
Anyway, things couldn't be more different this year; we're fighting to survive on one wage and obviously gifts come second to food. Yes, it really is that desperate It's her 2nd birthday now, and we managed to get her some Duplo and a duvet cover (for her "big girl bed" when she gets it in August). I had to fight to get these things, and we certainly can't afford anything else. The thing is I feel bad when people ask what we've bought her. I feel like I should lie, or avoid the question. I feel like she deserves more, and I can't give it to her And I'm half tempted to wrap a whole load of miscellaneous items just to bulk it up a bit
Please say someone else is in a similar position. I'm not materialistic, I just want my girls to have nice things, and I hate that we can't provide them.
Understandably we had more money to spend on our first baby, so it wasn't a problem when her 1st birthday came around. We didn'tr buy loads for her; a couple of bigger things, like a doll and wooden blocks etc, but then I wrapped up a load of things we had already boughtt for her that she hadn't yet played with. I guess it was for the sole purpose of looking like we'd given her more than we actually had. I post photos to FB for family/friends, so these were in the batch, and I suppose I wanted to look as if I'd made a massve deal of her 1st birthday LOL
Anyway, things couldn't be more different this year; we're fighting to survive on one wage and obviously gifts come second to food. Yes, it really is that desperate It's her 2nd birthday now, and we managed to get her some Duplo and a duvet cover (for her "big girl bed" when she gets it in August). I had to fight to get these things, and we certainly can't afford anything else. The thing is I feel bad when people ask what we've bought her. I feel like I should lie, or avoid the question. I feel like she deserves more, and I can't give it to her And I'm half tempted to wrap a whole load of miscellaneous items just to bulk it up a bit
Please say someone else is in a similar position. I'm not materialistic, I just want my girls to have nice things, and I hate that we can't provide them.