An update

[Rumpskin]

Hello ladies

Firstly, thank you for sending through such kind messages. You have been so lovely.

I am no means an expert on miscarriages but wanted to post my experience on this thread as a way of not frightening people but informing them.

This is my second miscarriage this year. My first one started at just over 9 weeks in the New Year. Both miscarriages started off with brown blood (I know that brown blood is old blood and does NOT always mean miscarriage), turning into brown thicker runnier blood, red blood then cramps/contractions. I passed LO in the comfort of my own home and I was at peace. I had a scan a few day later which showed I had a completed miscarriage and no need for a d&C.

With this one, discharge started on Monday, followed by cramps on Tuesday pm, red blood, together with stronger cramps on Wednesday. By Thursday, I had stupidly cancelled my scheduled d&C as I thought I could cope with the pain. Without going into too much detail, I called the ambulance yesterday to take me to the hospital as OH was at work, where I had the d&C last night. The operation itself was absolutely fine, I have slight pain and bleeding.

Miscarriage is not a pleasant experience by far but with help and support, physically and emotionally, you can and will get through this. The ambulance and hospital staff who dealt with me were amazing, I could not fault them at all and deserve more credit and recognition for their hard work.

Sorry for mumbling and I know this is a website mostly about ttc, pregnancy and childbirth, the topic of miscarriage and what women go through needs exploration too.

If I have offended anyone, I am very sorry. Moderators, please take this message off if you feel it is inappropriate.

Rumpskin xxxx

 

[tansey]

Thanks for sharing hun, i think it is very informative and lots of us have been through similar! xx

 

[miel]

thank love ...
No need to take this post down...i believe it will help a lot ladies up here to know...
take care

 

[Flossie03]

Sorry for your loss No need to remove the post, I think it's good to share experiences, take care of yourself x

 

[buffycat]

hi....

for what it is worth, i think that you are incredibly brave for writing about both experiences so soon after your recent mc.......

it is a difficult thing to go through, and i agree with you , in that having this place, even if it is only a little corner of the room, is a must to all of us that go through this sadness...

hugs to you all....

 

[JASMAK]

It's great that you can talk about your experience. One of the biggest mistakes I made with my m/c's of 2007, was that I kind of hid them under the rug so to speak, and the it resurfaced later, because I hadn't delt with it all. So, I think that this shows that you are dealing with your losses, although painful to talk about, you aren't keeping it bottled in. I don't think that there is anything wrong with this post, since it is in the Miscarriage and Loss forum. I am sorry for your loss.

 

[xclairex]

your so brave babe! its good to let it all out and talk about well done you now have some rest my lovely xx

 

[nightkd]

I think this is a very informative thread, as there are quite a few people worry about spotting etc and if they're having a miscarriage because they don't know what to expect or look out for. Just wanted to add that and think you're very brave to be able to post your experience in such detail.

 

[bethyb]

Babe, still really upset for you..
Having two in a row I know this is going to hit you hard but ur so brave talking about it.
I always found it dificult to talk about it, and even now I know lots of my friends have no understanding of whats involved with miscarriage. So many women think it will never happen to them - I was one of those women until I had mine and the oh its so very very rare to have two in a row isnt always true as we arent alone are we?!
Your in my thoughts and prayers, hope ur OH and family are around you..
And i have got this far this time, dont give into to negative thoughts. It will be ur turn soon im sure.
much love xx

 

[xxxjacxxx]

Oh Rumpskin, I didnt know!!! This is the first I have heard!!!
I am so so sorry for your loss sweetie and Im sitting here now shedding a tear or two for you and the LO you lost. The feeling is still very much raw inside of me, so I know exactly how you are feeling.
I want to wish you peace and that someday soon you will get your little baby

 

[Dona]

My thoughts are with you. Sending you some

 

[Drazic<3]

Thank you for having the courage to share such a detailed and informative post.
Im so deeply sorry for your loss

 

[becky77]

so sorry for your loss great thread your very bave and i hope you are getting lots of support .

 

[Logiebear]

Oh hunny I didn't know, only just seen this post. You poor thing. I know how you feel as I too had a mmc in Jan and then again in May. I have had to have d&c's with both of mine and it was awful.

I am so sorry for your loss and I am sending you massive massive

 

[SJK]

so so sorry xxx

 

[Alexas Mommy]

I am sorry to hear of your loss. Thanks for sharing.

 

[wishing4ababy]

I don't know what to say hun. so instead i will send you a and a wish that I could do more.

 

[wantababybump]

I am so sorry for your losses hun. I have also had 2 m/c in a row with the second ending in a d&c. If you ever need to chat I am here. xx

 

[Wishfull]

Just to let you know im thinking of you.
hope your feeling ok today?

Take care

xxxxxxxxxx

 

[dizzynic]

Aw rumpskin so sorry to hear about what has happened lots of love xx