And I failed as a wife

[Maya23]

I haven't slept properly since I was 8 months pregnant.and that affects me,it's hard to be happy go lucky.I snap quickly, I became a witch in my husband's eyes....
And to top it up, I am on depo-vera shots and I have bled for the past 3 months(so less activity in bed because of this).I can't do anything about it until the end of october and god knows how long is going to be until the bleeding will stop.
My husband is getting frustrated, and started to accuse me of having someone else.(which I don't..coz love him so much and don't have the time !!!!!! )

And here we are today, after 24 hours of not talking.I'm scared it will be all over and I'll become a single mother after only 2 years of marriage.

 

[Mazzy17]

didnt want to R & R, hope you and hubby work it out

 

[storm84]

Hi sweetie Im sorry your going through this , I have been in the same situation.. what you need is too sit down and have a very honest and serious convo with DH . Trust me he will appreciate you explaining what's going on as most men are clueless when it comes to our emotions or fears.


I have was on depo provera for 3 years , It compromised 50% of my ovaries leaving me with 5 years of trying to have my first baby If i were you id opt for another type of BC. Depo will have you bleeding for months on end trust me I bled for almost a whole year.Take the time to see other options that can be good for you .

Communication is the key to any relationship , talk to your husband share your feelings and fears . Make him understand how much your tired and need his help .. even for the smallest things such as taking the baby for a lil while, while you go in a warm bath to decompres from your day .


If you need to PM me please do sweetie im here to listen xxx

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

the exact same thing happened to me with the depot shot with my first, the bleeding stopped around the same time as i should have had my booster shot - i decided to go on the pill because the thought of another 3 months bleeding depressed me lol - i went on the pill at the same time so that may have had something to do with it . . .

my hubby well he didnt accuse me of being with anyone else but he did keep asking are you sure you still love me are you sure you still find me attractive (i used to laugh because there he was looking how he did the day we met and there i was with saggy boobs, stretch marks everywhere saggy belly lol)

i think some men measure the success of their relationship and their attractiveness to the other person b the amount of sex they have and some mens trail of thought continues to well i am really horny after x time without it she must be too but hmmm she isnt maybe she is getting it elsewhere!

one thing i learned during ttc was men are a lot more sensitive than we realise and have much much stranger and well . . .stupid thought processes than we realise! this is an example of one of them

not to say that what you are going through isnt upsetting or worrying but i do think if you both sat down and talked frankly about how you feel you might learn alot about eachother and what you are thinking, you are worried he might leave you well he might be worrying the same thing about you you know just he may be showing it in a really stupid way

 

[EllaAndLyla]

i have also become a witch in OH's eyes its not fun.. sorry your feeling like this xxx

 

[minkymoo]

I don't have the Depo issue but I am also exhausted from little or broken sleep for nearly 9 months and snap at my OH all day, every day. I told him weeks ago that I just can't seem to help myself at the moment and it won't be forever. It's difficult because I am isolated and he is the only person I can vent to. I guess I am lucky he's so laid back.

Please talk to you DH. Believe me, if the shoe were on the other foot he wouldn't be too perky either

 

[georgebaby1]

Oh hun talk to him put your point across n hopefully u can wot it out.

 

[madcatwoman]

its hard when you havent had a decent nights sleep,i can vouch for that, i used to get 3 hrs max sleep on the couch durring the entire 3rd tri,and have done all the night feeds an early mornings since 4.5months later. sex is the last thing on my mind,i just wamt to sleep, im no superwoman. Sleep deprivation can also starve your sence of humour i know, so i sure my dh thinks im a miserable sod,but then again maybe things would be different if i could have a lie in once in a blue moon.

 

[NewMummyx]

Im not being funny, but couldnt you "give him a hand?"

Doesnt take long lol!
Also try and have a cuddle now and again as I find it soo needed, a bit of affection goes a long way x

 

[Feltzy]

I had the same problem with the depot, I had 3 shots in all so nearly 9 months of constant spotting and in the end my gp said it obviously didn't agree with me, apparently he said it happens in 10% of women who try it. Maybe you could ask for something else next time you see your GP and explain to your husband the problems you're having and that you are going to swap bc. My OH knew what was going on but it was still frustrating, for both of us.

We joked that the depot was extremely effective, because we could never have sex!

 

[brunette&bubs]

so sorry you are going through this hun.
the silent treatment is SO lame, no offense.
you need to be the adult and start speaking.
talk to him about how you feel.

And the fact of the matter is you guys do need some sexual interaction.
whether it be oral sex for him, but i know plenty of ladies who DTD while still bleeding.

Consider seeing a marriage counselor too.

Wishing you the best

 

[prettykitty]

Hi hun,

I didnt want to R&R, its awful with no sleep, I can relate to that, re contraception - have you tried the coil?

I have had this in before and its worked okay for me, and bleeding stopped for a long time, I have had the injection many years ago and it didnt agree with me and I put on a tremendous amount of weight.

Try and chat with your hubby, failing that why not write something down how about how your feeling and let him read it through? I hope you work it out, dont be too hard on yourself, its not easy. Just try and take one day at a time. Please PM me if you ever just want to offload or chat I dont mind xxx