Hi everyone,
Over the last four and a half years my husband and I have been ttc. The first two years were more ntnp, then a year of actually trying, and the last year and a half trying with a fertility clinic. Ultimately, we were told that I have PCOS so I don't ovulate on my own (super fun!) and his sa came back with morphology levels juuuuuuuuuuuuuuust on the border of okay. With that in mind we went through seven rounds of femara with timed intercourse. That made me ovulate six of the seven times, but unfortunately nothing happened beyond that. Since our insurance has a lifetime limit for medications for fertility treatment, we decided to skip the IUI step and went straight to IVF with ICSI after that. After our second transfer, we got the ever elusive positive. I don't think I've ever been more excited to see two lines on a stick before! Everything was going great, I had a scan at 5w4d, measured 4 days behind, but everything that was supposed to be present was there. I had the nausea, fatigue, headaches... the whole shebang. At our 7w4d scan, we were able to see the heartbeat, but still measured 4 days behind. Since it was less than a week behind though, there was really no worry. Then almost two weeks later (two days short of the mark) I started to spot a little and had faint cramps. I figured maybe it was due to having sex that morning since it was really BARELY anything. Since it didn't stop by the next day, I decided to stay home from work to rest and called my OB. When they finally spoke to me they told me to just come in the next day to get checked out for peace of mind. They sent me off to have an ultrasound, but since the tech that did it was not associated with my doctor they couldn't tell me anything. The following day I finally got the call that I dreaded, but felt in my gut was coming... There was no heartbeat. They wanted me to wait over the weekend and then go in for another appointment to see what my next steps were. My body decided it didn't want to wait that long and the night before I was supposed to go in I ended up having to go to the ER since I made my bathroom look like a murder scene with all the bleeding. Monday morning I had a D&C and was told that my little miracle had stopped developing at 7w6d.
Now that I've written a novel to bore you, here's the real reason I'm writing. My OB is the biggest turd in the world and I want to have as little to do with him as possible. I have a follow up in a week so I'll have to put on my nice face and deal with it then and will bring my questions up as well, but while I wait, maybe someone else has been in the same situation. I know I cannot try another IVF cycle until I "resolve" this pregnancy. Do they consider that to have happened just by your HCG level going back down to 0 or does it have to be 0 AND you have a period? Since I don't ovulate, I don't generally have them without tricking my body via birth control. Also, if it is (hopefully) just by HCG levels, how long after it's at 0 can you generally start trying to go through the IVF process again? We only have one frosty left so all my hope is in this one and I want to get my mind off the past as quickly as possible.
If you've made it this far in my mini book, congratulations and thanks for sticking with me!
Over the last four and a half years my husband and I have been ttc. The first two years were more ntnp, then a year of actually trying, and the last year and a half trying with a fertility clinic. Ultimately, we were told that I have PCOS so I don't ovulate on my own (super fun!) and his sa came back with morphology levels juuuuuuuuuuuuuuust on the border of okay. With that in mind we went through seven rounds of femara with timed intercourse. That made me ovulate six of the seven times, but unfortunately nothing happened beyond that. Since our insurance has a lifetime limit for medications for fertility treatment, we decided to skip the IUI step and went straight to IVF with ICSI after that. After our second transfer, we got the ever elusive positive. I don't think I've ever been more excited to see two lines on a stick before! Everything was going great, I had a scan at 5w4d, measured 4 days behind, but everything that was supposed to be present was there. I had the nausea, fatigue, headaches... the whole shebang. At our 7w4d scan, we were able to see the heartbeat, but still measured 4 days behind. Since it was less than a week behind though, there was really no worry. Then almost two weeks later (two days short of the mark) I started to spot a little and had faint cramps. I figured maybe it was due to having sex that morning since it was really BARELY anything. Since it didn't stop by the next day, I decided to stay home from work to rest and called my OB. When they finally spoke to me they told me to just come in the next day to get checked out for peace of mind. They sent me off to have an ultrasound, but since the tech that did it was not associated with my doctor they couldn't tell me anything. The following day I finally got the call that I dreaded, but felt in my gut was coming... There was no heartbeat. They wanted me to wait over the weekend and then go in for another appointment to see what my next steps were. My body decided it didn't want to wait that long and the night before I was supposed to go in I ended up having to go to the ER since I made my bathroom look like a murder scene with all the bleeding. Monday morning I had a D&C and was told that my little miracle had stopped developing at 7w6d.
Now that I've written a novel to bore you, here's the real reason I'm writing. My OB is the biggest turd in the world and I want to have as little to do with him as possible. I have a follow up in a week so I'll have to put on my nice face and deal with it then and will bring my questions up as well, but while I wait, maybe someone else has been in the same situation. I know I cannot try another IVF cycle until I "resolve" this pregnancy. Do they consider that to have happened just by your HCG level going back down to 0 or does it have to be 0 AND you have a period? Since I don't ovulate, I don't generally have them without tricking my body via birth control. Also, if it is (hopefully) just by HCG levels, how long after it's at 0 can you generally start trying to go through the IVF process again? We only have one frosty left so all my hope is in this one and I want to get my mind off the past as quickly as possible.
If you've made it this far in my mini book, congratulations and thanks for sticking with me!