Another day without seein my daughter!

[daveww]

well here is the end to just another day of not seein my daughter not noin if she is safe well and happy, and there is absoloutly nothing i can do about it any time soon , lots more of these days to come in the future.

 

[Laura2919]

Do you not have contact with anyone at all from her family who would give you an update. Just to know she is well. I cant imagine what your going through.

 

[Rhio92]

 

[dustbunny]

You could look at it as one day closer though to finding a solution to getting your rights. Although I'm sure its hard to see it that way.

 

[daveww]

well good night again people , still another day not noing how my daughter is! , ... maybe something for both men and women on this forum to think about ! ... if a mother or father wants to be involved think how u would feel if you did not no your son or daughter is safe and well and the legal system just said... go thro the proccess and be patient. ... rant over just needed to say that.

 

[daveww]

well another day goes by... love my daughter with all my heart cant wait till i can see her again

 

[Rhio92]

I can't imagine how hard it is for you

 

[Laura2919]

Keep strong dude! Its only your ex that will have to answer questions when your daughter is older..

 

[MummyJade]

Agree with Laura, your ex will have to answer your daughters questions....

Hope you get to see her soon x

 

[Laura2919]

It makes me angry when I see mums do this. There is no reason for not letting you see her.

Any news?

 

[bek74]

It makes me so sad when couples split and one or both use their child as a pawn . Hope u see her soon *hugs*

 

[daveww]

i hope so too , i got another letter from my solicitor yesterday with a copy of the letter that has been sent to the mother.. it basicaly requests specific days and times for access and also a refferal to mediation , but considering she did not bother to respond to the previous letter i pressume it will just go straight in the bin
I have already accepted the fact i will not be seeing my daughter this christmas and i will just have to continue this long long process and hopefully by around march time next year i should be able to see my daughter
i wanted to go right ahead with the court proceedings but apprantly the court will not entertain you unless you have demonstrated you have tried every other alternative to resolve the situation , hence the reason its such a long process

 

[emlubu]

It's really sad because my daughters didn't bother seeing her for a long period of time and I wanted him to... He does on a Saturday now but he didn't and men like u wow u keep fighting as your want your daughter!! All credit to u mate.

 

[daveww]

well just had a phone call from mediation ..... its in a weeks time on my birthday!!! , i belive in fate so am taking this as a very positive sign

 

[bambinoccino]

Thats great news mate!

Keep your chin up, getting contact is hardest bit when the mum is being a b*tch. Even if mediation goes well I would push for a court order. Once you've got a court order it tends to settle down abit!

Make sure you go for 6 monthly reviews as well! x

 

[Laura2919]

Ahh thats fantastic news dude. I so hope it works out for ya

 

[daveww]

Thats great news mate!

Keep your chin up, getting contact is hardest bit when the mum is being a b*tch. Even if mediation goes well I would push for a court order. Once you've got a court order it tends to settle down abit!

Make sure you go for 6 monthly reviews as well! x

yeh i will be getting a court order without a doubt so its legally binding... have you been to mediation or court ? would you be able to advise me on what happens at mediation for example?

 

[bambinoccino]

Thats great news mate!

Keep your chin up, getting contact is hardest bit when the mum is being a b*tch. Even if mediation goes well I would push for a court order. Once you've got a court order it tends to settle down abit!

Make sure you go for 6 monthly reviews as well! x

yeh i will be getting a court order without a doubt so its legally binding... have you been to mediation or court ? would you be able to advise me on what happens at mediation for example?

I kind of have, I attended a mediation session but my Ex didnt turn up, The woman was nice, spoke to me about my feelings on the problems, what I wanted out of mediation, what kind of access would suit us etc...

It would have been the mediator spoke to me, then spoke to him, then we all would have into a room together and tried to be adults haha.

You'll be fine as long as you stay calm and remember that this is about you and your daughter and feelings towards your ex are a seperate issue.

 

[daveww]

Thats great news mate!

Keep your chin up, getting contact is hardest bit when the mum is being a b*tch. Even if mediation goes well I would push for a court order. Once you've got a court order it tends to settle down abit!

Make sure you go for 6 monthly reviews as well! x

yeh i will be getting a court order without a doubt so its legally binding... have you been to mediation or court ? would you be able to advise me on what happens at mediation for example?

I kind of have, I attended a mediation session but my Ex didnt turn up, The woman was nice, spoke to me about my feelings on the problems, what I wanted out of mediation, what kind of access would suit us etc...

It would have been the mediator spoke to me, then spoke to him, then we all would have into a room together and tried to be adults haha.

You'll be fine as long as you stay calm and remember that this is about you and your daughter and feelings towards your ex are a seperate issue.

thats helpfull to no, i can certainly tell them the kind of access i want so they can relay that to the mother, but as far as sitting in a room together and being adults i will also "haha" lol

 

[daveww]

feeling very frustrated ... still no response to solicitors letters and no response to attend mediation , i understand why the court requests you try other methods first but this is just stupid , they have to allow the mother time to respond (which she wont) so its not going to be at the earliest late january early febuary when a court date is set , i then have to wait till that court date which will probably be around march.
this is time i can never get back with my daughter and a christmas i will not spend time with her!. its a very cruel thing