Another rant, sorry :( Working...

[DottyLottie]

I realise all I seem to do on here lately is rant and moan, I am sorry, I really need to just get it all out there or I will go mad!

The last few weeks I have struggled physically, this has been such an uncomfortable pregnancy, I have tried to wind down my working hours (average 10-12hrs a day), but I run a business with two other partners (one of which is my OH) and I feel so guilty taking time off.

The worst part is my job can be quite physical, and this last month things have really started to go horribly wrong, and I am not able to fix them, because I am not physically capable of doing so, it makes me so frustrated and has left me feeling totally helpless. I also have to travel a lot, I have prepped all my clients that I won't be able to travel to meetings in September due to my advancing pregnancy, but have now been called to a meeting in the North (a 7 hour round trip) this week, and have no choice but to go, I am so worried about going into labour whilst away from home

OH has not been hugely supportive during this pregnancy, despite us talking about it so many times, he improves for a few days then goes back to forgetting to be more attentive or understanding. I have given up trying to talk to him about it, and just accepted things as they are, but we have hardly been speaking - I feel so upset with him that I just cannot muster the enthusiasm to be pleasant (although I am not horrible either, just a bit apathetic I suppose). I feel completely abandoned by him.

We are moving house on Friday, moving offices in 3 weeks, and work is just hectic, I just want to curl up and die, really am feeling so down with it all.
It sucks, everyone assumes I am such a strong and capable person, I just get on with it, but no one seems to understand how much harder it is to be that way at this stage in pregnancy.

I am working up until the baby is born, and probably going back to work almost immediately after, and I just feel like everything is closing in on me. I know there is no real resolution, I just MUST cope and get on with it, I understand there is a lot of pressure on my OH too, just wish he could do a little more to help with the daily grind.
Anyways, rant over, thanks for reading.

 

[reiller]

Aw hun im really sorry I didint' want to read and run?
Can you try hire someone to fill in for you so you can take a little time off after the birth and not have to go back so soon?
Can you put off any of the movings as it seems a lot of pressure for you to take so close to your baby due date?

 

[DottyLottie]

Nopes, if we could afford a replacement we would, business is slow and it just isn't an option.
As for putting off the moves, nopes to that too, have to move house on Friday and same for the office.

 

[reiller]

Can you try work from home as much as possible then?Maybe sit down with your OH and explain how upset you are and how lost you feel... THen explain to him you are rtying your best to do eveything and you need him to take on more.. You should in no way feel guilty for taking time off

 

[DottyLottie]

aww I know it sounds like I am being really negative about everything, but I have tried to do these things. OH says himself I need to slowdown, but when I do, he gets humpy about work not getting done and just stresses about things more, it is actually easier for my sanity at home to just go to work. I have had to have a few days working from home these last 2 weeks, and I have ended up in tears because of OH reaction.
He really is quite pigheaded at the mo! As I said, I am so tired of talking to him, he pretends to understand then a couple of days later, its like we never had that conversation, which almost makes it even more frustrating, cause then you feel that your feelings are deliberately ignored.

I can tell he is feeling very sorry for himself right now, there is no affection between us, and I pretty much just don't talk to him. I don't ignore him or anything, but I certainly dont go out of my way to be jolly and conversational, cause I am just so pissed off with him. I can tell he has noticed, but he hasn't addressed it or tried to to find out what is wrong.
I just feel very lonely. My parents both suck right now too, it sounds insane, but my two oldest daughters have been the greatest support! I am lucky to have them!

 

[Mrs IKW]

Just wanted to send

I run a business with my OH too and we cant afford to hire someone to replace me - and I do all of the marketing, organising and generating of sales/leads etc and look after our 3 staff while OH takes care of the other parts of the business.

I am lucky that I can work from home when I want too (although we are having building work start this week on the nursery so I'd rather be in the office!) and our office is 3mins walk from home although Im not sure what will happen when LO arrives - I guess I can do bits from home when she is asleep and we might need to hire a part time admin person to do some of my workload. Also, OH's Mum has said she would look after LO one day a week so I can have a whole day in the office....

I am very lucky that OH is 110% supportive... Could you talk to your OH and try and make him realise how much you have on your plate?