Anxiety/depression during pregnancy?

[chelsdavison]

i really hope you feel better soon. its a horrible feeling and an unpleasent state of mind to be in. i wouldnt wish it upon anyone. i suffered during my first tri. lack of motivation, feeling useless, just wanted to cry. but there didnt seem to e a reason as to why i was feeling like this. planned pregnancy, job i love. amazing partner, nice home. supportive friends and family. i had no reason to feel low. yet i was struggling to drag myself out of bed in the morning. i quickly recognised that something was up and even though i talked to several people about it, aswell as the midwife and doctor. i still felt crap. somehow i managed my own way out of it without meds. (i was offered them though) but i did find that writing down how i felt helped. and now i cant wait for my due date to arrive. i hope you feel better soon and know that you have support on bnb. good luck babe x x

 

[7brebri]

Oh wow, personally I envy you for pushing through all that, you are stronger than most in your decisions. I do plan on breastfeeding that is if I don't get put on medicine that could cause problems. And yea I was thinking that if your on meds when your pregnant can't that cause them to withdrawal? Did your son have any problems if you don't mind me asking.
And no. I switched dr.s when I was 26 weeks I think. I don't think this dr. Even knows honestly. My old dr. Wasn't concerned about my health or baby's health at all though, they never tried to put me on medicine or anything, I went there 9 weeks told them I was bi-polar and that my other dr had been trieng to find a medicine that worked well for me and that I had just stopped taking the last meds since they did no help but were in fact causing nerve damage and heart palpitations. The nurse said ok wrote it down and never did they talk to me about it. and I moved to a dif. State at 24 weeks and found a dr. Here I like. But it's never seem to come up. So idk.. Hope that makes sense. Lol

And no I have no idea what that is lol is it for depression?

 

[7brebri]

i really hope you feel better soon. its a horrible feeling and an unpleasent state of mind to be in. i wouldnt wish it upon anyone. i suffered during my first tri. lack of motivation, feeling useless, just wanted to cry. but there didnt seem to e a reason as to why i was feeling like this. planned pregnancy, job i love. amazing partner, nice home. supportive friends and family. i had no reason to feel low. yet i was struggling to drag myself out of bed in the morning. i quickly recognised that something was up and even though i talked to several people about it, aswell as the midwife and doctor. i still felt crap. somehow i managed my own way out of it without meds. (i was offered them though) but i did find that writing down how i felt helped. and now i cant wait for my due date to arrive. i hope you feel better soon and know that you have support on bnb. good luck babe x x

Thank you for the support, I'm happy you made it through your depression, even though Im feeling Down it makes me happy to know other women got through it! It's awesome to hear

 

[GemBaxter]

Oh wow, personally I envy you for pushing through all that, you are stronger than most in your decisions. I do plan on breastfeeding that is if I don't get put on medicine that could cause problems. And yea I was thinking that if your on meds when your pregnant can't that cause them to withdrawal? Did your son have any problems if you don't mind me asking.
And no. I switched dr.s when I was 26 weeks I think. I don't think this dr. Even knows honestly. My old dr. Wasn't concerned about my health or baby's health at all though, they never tried to put me on medicine or anything, I went there 9 weeks told them I was bi-polar and that my other dr had been trieng to find a medicine that worked well for me and that I had just stopped taking the last meds since they did no help but were in fact causing nerve damage and heart palpitations. The nurse said ok wrote it down and never did they talk to me about it. and I moved to a dif. State at 24 weeks and found a dr. Here I like. But it's never seem to come up. So idk.. Hope that makes sense. Lol

And no I have no idea what that is lol is it for depression?

I managed to stay off meds until after Ben was born so never experienced withdrawal. I was too scared to put him through that and thought it would only make me feel worse.

I have no family near me as my husband was in the army so we had to be quite firm with our decisions. Luckily our communication skills are quite good so things like this were easier dealt with.

I would def go back to your doc and say you are quite concerned. May even be better speaking to your midwife (if you have a seperate one in the US) as they may be able to have a bit more clought because they will be focusing on baby's health too.

The WRAP thing was something I was introduced to when I had my lowest point. I was seen by a crisis team - I basically called my doctor and said I was considering suicide and I didn't know what to do. (Long story short my husband "left" me - sort of fight or flight - and said I needed to get help or our marriage was over. Unfortunately he knows me too well and knew this would give me a kick up the bum. Within hours I had a medical team at my house getting me through the first 48 hours and then on to subsequent care. Sounds way more dramatic than it actually was!)

They advised that the plan would allow me to see triggers and then have an action plan to work from. I know the other website I was recommended was called something like living life to the full. Very similar to CBT and gives you activities to work through to try and work on your thought process. They are fairly non-evassive methods of care should you wish to avoid medication just yet.

 

[LadyHutch]

SOmething many have suggested in threads like this is if you are too embarrassed to speak about how you are feeling, print your post, or write something on paper and hand that to your doctor. That way you don't have to talk, you can just show them.

I have done that myself in the past, and it has helped a lot, as I start to bawl ususally when I talk about how I feel.

 

[shellb]

Hi Hun, lots of great advice above.

I was going through the same thing and my doctor wouldn't give me antidepressant (which made me feel really defeated and hopeless) and so I got this amazing book called the depression cure. Its really basic about how to get out of that funk without anti depressants, which don't work for everybody long term anyways. So basically, the concept is that even though our society has evolved into this internet based, post industrial world, our bodies and mind are still at the same place as when we lived in tribes as hunters and gatherers... so many aspects of life these days are opposite of our ancestors tribal way of life and therefore that is what he believes cause depression. So, what you have to do is mimic certain aspects of their lives. 1) their diet... he recommends a host of supplements that being pregnant we can't take... except fish oil. Which I've started taking 1 a day. Also good for babies brain development. Check with your doctor on what is okay to take. 2) try to sleep with the sun cycle. Obviously difficult in our state, but try to get up when the sun rises and not stay up too late at night. With naps in the day only if necessary. 3) our ancestors never had "alone time" and our brains are wired for socialization. In person. So try to get out of the house as much as possible. Even if its just window shopping or whatever. 4( excersise. Ugh. Lol. Necessary of course. He recommends a walk early in the morning. Something about the light at that time is good for you. I can't do this, so my husband and I go at sunset instead. Definitely is a nice thing to look forward to. And 5) and I think the most helpful is to keep busy! Basically, their studies have shown that when you lay around dwelling on things it starts a vicious cycle you can't get out of. So the book shows that when people force themselves to distract their minds and do some busy task it really helps people with depression. I recommend taking an online (or probably better in person) short class on something that interests you or is a hobby. I am taking an online photography class. Its light and fun and really interesting to me. Also, I've never been much of a cook but I've started reading food blogs and trying different recipes out. Maybe ill take a cooking class next. So basically, I go to work and get home and tidy up a bit. Then the rest of my evening is cooking (not a good option if you hate that though. Haha) then a walk for twenty minutes at sunset. Then I do work for my photo class until about 9pm and then its time to start getting ready for bed. And by then I just pass out. So, I'm basically keeping my mind occupied on stuff that's kind of fun for me and time consuming, but not too difficult or intense.

Anyways, I know its all basic, but I just made myself actually do it and I sweat I went from not getting out of bed and just staring at the wall for hours to feeling pretty normal again.

Good luck. I hope this helped