Any absent fathers that have changed their mind?

[Lemonflower]

So... Fob doesn't want my LO. He denies paternity and blanks us when we pass each other in the street.

I'm fine with this now... What I wanted to ask is

Have any of your FOBs not wanted your LOs and then changed their minds months/ years later?

If so.....

Can they do that, I mean if they took you to court would a judge still grant visitation even if they have been absent and you had proof they denied paternity.

My concern now is that fob will change his mind and will want LO. I'm always gonna tell LO the truth but I hate the thought of him being all confused and upset that this "stranger" now wants to start playing dad to him.

Anyone got any experience with this? Xx

 

[JennyBLove]

Alls I know is its in records he denied n when I was young n my father decided to come around I wanted NOTHING to do wirh him, n was cruel to him. Still he was nvr there only met few times n now wants to talk again n ill nvr wamna statt a relationship. Kids will kno whats best n that they dont need him.

 

[Charlotte-j]

I'm going through that, He was absent for 4years. I can't go in to too much detail on here atm, But feel free to inbox me if you need and advice/answers etc.

 

[Jade--x]

In all honesty the courts are all 'Justice for Fathers' so if he went to court I'd think they would still grant visitation, but..His denying it and being absent by choice will go against him and leaving it so long,and he'll just have to prove himself more. Hopefully it won't come to that though and he will just leave you both alone, or at least do it when you LO is at the age he can decide what he wants and the court will listen to him as oppose to your ex.x

 

[Dezireey]

Just keep records/ logs of things if you can e.g if you have an e-mail exchange between you and you are e.g begging him to come seemhis child and he says it's not his, print it out and keep it . If you have text messages or even can remember a phone conversation, write it down. If he appears years later you will have some good evidence against him. Sadly I think that if he is a normal bloke with a normal job he may be granted access. But if your child is now 5 or something, no judge will just hand him/ her over to a stranger ( which is what FOB will be if he shows up years later). Like others have said, don't worry too much. There is a world of difference in the realm of 'fathers rights' from a genuine, lovely man who has always wanted to see his kids and a man that has abandoned them, then changes his mind. Those types are not looked on favourably in court at all.

 

[Mummy1995]

Not advice, but you aren't alone, Im in the same position! x

 

[teal]

I've not seen my ex since before I found out I was pregnant. I was scared to see him in person so I told him over the phone. Not on birth certificate, never met my son...