any FOB get bored?

[xxsteffyxx]

FOB has harvey loads at the moment and I don't feel comfortable with it, but because I already agreed to it I have to stick with it for the time being until mediation where I will change it, harvey is too unsettled.
Currently... Monday and tuesday 4-9pm and friday 8pm till saturday 8pm.

I was just wondering if any of your LOs Fathers were 'full on' to start with, very much 'I have a right to see my child when I want etc etc etc' and want to see them all the time and then after a while, get bored and give up.

Curious? How long till they got bored?
- I still think harvey's dad will give up as he is very immature, but he is full on right now and doing my head in!!! Harvey is less the 6 weeks and needs routine. I can't get into that routine whilst his dad has him so much.

Plus whenever he comes back he is always so unsettled, not sure why. He just... Is? X

 

[angelpkj]

my fob started to get bored after 2 weeks then it got less and less,i think you should act not bothered,it seems fobs getting told no-it just makes them do it more to piss u off not because its for the child

 

[dustbunny]

I know, without doubt, if FOB got involved it would be smothering to begin with and peter off after a couple of weeks... tops a month. But he would not be having overnight access at all during his minor moral upholding month.
Men suck, end of.

 

[xxsteffyxx]

The overnight access will stop once we go to mediation, I'm building up a case right now and then use it at the assesment meeting. Whenever Harvey comes back he is very unsettled. He sleeps 10-5\6 during the week, no problems, then saturday night when he comes back he'll sleep 10-2ish...

 

[Jinty]

6 weeks is very young! If i was in your position i would say that is not a very good schedule. For me i would say every other day for a few hours. If he was that bothered but to miss a few days then have him for so long at that age... I wouldn't think that would do any of you any good. If you know what i mean?

 

[teal]

I don't have any contact with my ex (FOB) but I do agree that 6 weeks is really young for your LO to be overnight. xx

 

[Octobermommy2]

R you living in the united states? Because I know in my state fob does not get over night rights until child is 3 and can sleep though the night in its own. My girls are 2 and gets supervised visits with their father. Which he pays for. At first he wanted over nights and because they were early I was scared to leave them with even my mom! So I told him u want them u get me too. It didn't go very far.

 

[xxsteffyxx]

Spoke to my health vistor today and she is writing a note to give to the mediation company on Thursday to state as a medical professional she cannot agree to the overnight stays.

I am in tears tonight, hoping so much this is the last time he has to go overnight, it's so hard to be without him!! I need him with me x

 

[Laura--x]

hun. 6 weeks old is very young to be away from his mother for that much time! Especially overnight imo. Your baby needs to be with you for the majority of the time at that age. Hope you get it sorted soon! xx

 

[jemmie1994]

my FOB got bored before he even started having contact with Evie once we split...at first he was like I have a right to see my child blah blah (wasnt stopping him) then met to talk about it he walked off and havent heard from him since