Any one have to wait until after AF is late for a BFP?

[pieceofpie]

Hi everyone, how are you ladies doing.

Amanda, I hope AF shows up for you soon.

MrsD I hope you have more success with this month than the previous ones now that you kind a have an idea of what is going on with your body. I still think the doctor could have been more insightful but hey who knows.

Kla, I would start using the opks just to get a feel for them and I am truly hoping that this cycle someone on this board can again be pregnant. That is the second one so far however the first ended in a M/C and we don't want that.

I am with you in regards to Amanda attitude on distressing because this ttc is too much on the mind and it you don't watch out it will consume you. I am therefore on board with you ladies, this cycle I wont to symptom checking or anything just chilling and taking it easy and let whatever happen just happen.

AFM: AF rear her head this morning and of all the time when I was getting some serious loving. I mean from last night to this morning, I would not have mind if she had given me some warning yesterday that she would be on her way but none. I tell you ladies she is one jealous woman and would put a damper on your fun if she can. She surly did that to me and I am so upset.

Ladies have a wonderful weekend and lets all pray that at least two of us gets our positives this month.

 

[Shylin]

Hello Ladies,

AF was due yesterday 7-6 and shes still not here. i got a bfn this morning. ive been off the pill for about 2 months now. im might test again in the morning. hoping for my bfp!

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[Cookie1979]

Hey ladies, I will join you with not testing til af is late if that is ok? I learnt the hard way that testing early can just cause problems. I'm new to ttc and i used some cheap internet tests and got evaps on about 4 of them, plus my opks were getting darker. Naive me didn't know about evaps so really thought a bfp was on its way. That's it no more testing til af is late...testing early caused me nothing but problems.

You live and you learn I guess.

 

[pieceofpie]

Hi Cookie and Shylin welcome and I am keeping my fingers cross that you each get your positives this month and yes testing early can sometimes play with one mind and is such a stressful situation, all the best.

 

[KLa826]

Hi everyone and welcome Cookie and Shylin.
Cookie- I agree with you! My first month TTC I tested nonstop...Caused myself so much unnecessary stress and wasted too much month on tests! As hard as it is, I think waiting until AF is due or late is definitely the best bet. Here's hoping she stays away from you!

Shylin- I have been off the pill for just 5 months now and I will warn you that AF was far from normal the first few months. Month 1 off she came on day 28, just like when I was on. Month two, not until day 32- which stressed me out quite a bit as I was getting BFNs and 5 days late still no AF...I am certainly not saying this is the case for you, but I was just at the Dr this am and she said it can take 3-4 months for your body to regulate after going off. FXd for you that it is a BFP but be aware that going off of BCP can cause some screwiness for a little while...I learned the hard way! My cycle has been 30-31 days the past three months now so I think it's finally settled but being 5 days late that second month off played major games with my head. On the flip side, we just had a woman on this thread who didn't get her BFP until 2 weeks after AF was due. Hoping your outcome will be the same!

Piece, so sorry AF got you!!! I was really hoping this would be your month Any new developments in your IVF plans? Double sorry that she interrupted your fun!!!

Dr this morning was pretty much what I expected. She said that they don't start running any tests until it's been 365 days of TTC (which will mean March, 2014...seems FOREVER away and -*hoping* I don't get there) and prescribed me a prenatal vitamin to start taking in place of my normal multivitamin. She told me that as long as my cycles are between 25-36 days they don't tend to worry about them and that it's normal to feel PMS symptoms much more now that I'm off the BCP (well DUH! haha!). I did decide to try the OPK- said to test around CD 10 and it's 12- no dice. FF says I should "O" around the 13th so we shall see how accurate that is compared to the OPK.

Hope everyone has a good day!

 

[pieceofpie]

Hi everyone,

Kla good to read what the doctor say and that you will be opk soon. I hope it does go as long as one year for you as well and you catch that egg soon enough.

I will be doing a test next week Wednesday and hopefully this can be good. I have been having a weird dream since Sunday night and last night. Sunday I dream seeing a rabbit that I had in my arm and some kittens, last night I dreamt something similar but this time it was thousand of rabbits the same color as Sunday night and instead of kitten it was lots of new born puppies and young ones just days old. My mom claims that it means after checking in a dream book that I will meet with a very bad accident and be disappointed in love. Whoa, still reeling from that one.

How is everyone else feeling? I would love to know if there is any changes since yesterday. Fingers cross for all you ladies.

 

[amanda111308]

No AF yet but since I started the maca late last week I can feel my normal pms symptoms coming on!! Yay!! Never thought I would be so happy to be breaking out hahahahaha

 

[kitcat42]

AF started today for me. On to the next cycle. Hopefully I go back to normal and O around cd19 and not cd 27 like this month!

 

[KLa826]

Piece-
Sounds like a pretty innocent dream...Not sure how puppies, kittens and rabbits can be interpreted so negatively! Here's what I found about rabbits: "Conventional Interpretation of dreams relevant for Rabbit.
Rabbit: To see rabbits in your dream, signifies luck, success and fertility. Alternatively, rabbits indicates cowardice and inability to face dangerous situations. - Source: interpret-dreams-free.com

Rabbit: Rabbits are often associated with reproduction so symbolize your reproduction. This is particularly the case if the rabbits have young. - Source: www.dream-analysis.com

Rabbit: magical - a tendency to drift off into childlike fantasies - cute and harmless - Source: www.unclesirbobby.org.uk

Rabbit: Many rabbits in your dream signify an increase in responsibilities which will be pleasant rather than onerous; rabbit fur or anything made of it is a sign that you will eventually be able to afford sable. - Source: The Dreamers Dictionary by Stearn Robinson and Tom Corbett

Rabbits: fertility. A white rabbit is seen as a guide into the inner spiritual world. - Source: www.dreaminterpretation-dictionary.com

Rabbits: To see a rabbit in your dream, foretells of luck, magic and of a favourable turn of events and a positive outlook in your future endeavours. Alternatively, rabbits symbolize your sexual activity. To see a white rabbit in your dream, symbolizes faithfulness of a lover. To see many rabbits hopping about the meadows, signifies fertility and that children will bring you much joy. - Source: Brilliantdreams

Rabbits: A rabbit stands for sexual desires, fertility, feelings of inferiority, insecurity or anxiety. If you dream of a white rabbit, expect a pleasant experience in the near future. Catching a rabbit in the dream means that you will meet a young person. Breeding rabbits denotes a long life."

Puppies: "To see a litter of newborn puppies in your dream is indicative of the amount of time that an idea has been developing or will take to develop. Look to the number of puppies to give you that approximate amount of time"

So I think that is MUCH more optimistic!

Amanda- Did you ever think you'd be excited about PMS symptoms? Haha! Glad to hear the maca is working!

Kit- Sorry AF got you! Hopefully this month will be more normal for you!

For me- CD 13. OPK was negative yesterday and today. We shall see!

 

[pieceofpie]

Thanks Kla,

I did read some of the same info on the net. Just don't normally dream the same dream twice in a row so I thought it had some meaning but nothing to it.

Amanda, I know how you feel, sometimes its a happy event just to have AF so that things can get moving along.

Kit, so sorry that she showed up for you, Kla is right hopefully next month would be your time.

Kla, keep testing, you have to test up to seven days I think. What I normally do is for the four days I skip a day in between and just continue everyday until the day of O.

AFM: Still on AF which is strange because she usually stop on day 4, kinda depress this morning and not much into, I guess my mood is with the time because we are expecting a storm. This cycle I am putting away opks, I wont be symptom checking and just pure relaxing, wont stop having my drinks or anything. I am trying to wean myself from this ttc sickness that is controlling my life.

Ladies have a wonderful day.

 

[amanda111308]

Exactly piece!! I find for the first few years on ntnp my mind was actually in ttc mode and month after month nothing happened. The week I began to accept it wasn't something that was gonna happen for me naturally was the same week I conceived. I stopped stressing and symptom spotting and stopped pressuring myself to get pregnant and sure enough it happened!!

I am trying to do it again but it is SO hard to make the mind quiet and cut down on expectations. But it can be done and pregnancy is achievable! The doctors all told me years ago that I had PCOS and that it was unlikely I would ever get pregnant and if I did I would likely not carry the baby long and certainly not to full term... Well doctors can be wrong and in this case they were!! I tiptoed around when I got pregnant with my son because I was afraid to be happy because in my MIND I had already lost him.

But now I have a VERY BUSY little guy and all because I let go of trying to manipulate every little thing in hopes to conceive. I didn't know / care when I was ovulating I wasn't checking cm or cervical position none of that stuff and I just BD for fun and because I love my DH.

It WILL happen for all of us!!! But for now there is no reason to not enjoy our lives!!! Enjoy being baby free for as long as you can and have no regrets. When baby does come life will be something completely different and I'm sure when I get pregnant again life will hold a whole new set of challenges and joys.

Live.Laugh.Love nothing has been more true and wonderful in life than what living these words can do for us all. Have a fantastic day ladies!! Much love!

 

[MrsAJC]

Hello,

Could I join the party please. My AF is due today but not appeared. I am 14 DPO and have felt very different to normal since OD. I would normally come on first thing in the morning but nothing. I tested with FMU and got a BFN
I have sore and swollen breasts and have had AF type cramps for 3 days which is not normal in my cycle.... feeling very confused and emotional, I just want to know!!!

 

[Shylin]

i figured it could be from the coming off bc. i stopped taking them completely about 2 months ago but ive been not taking them very well for most of the year. id been on them for 4 years. had 2 normal periods since then. ive never in my life been this late. i just want to know one way or the other. i dont feel like im going to start any time soon and i always had really bad cramping right before i was due. only thing strange with me is bad acne on just one side of my face and it isnt even the side i sleep on. im so worried about not having started thinking if im not pregnant then somethings wrong.
hoping for the best for everyone.

 

[pieceofpie]

Amanda, you and shared a lot more in common that I had originally thought. 12 years ago when I got pregnant with my son the doctors told me I had PCOS and only if JC (Jesus Christ) come down and get me pregnant would I ever conceive, I was excited because I was very thin, used to model and full of myself, I had a wonderful boyfriend and we used to make love like crazy with no regards to baby so when we got the green light that nothing would happen we become rabbits in terms of sex and guess what exactly one month later I was pregnant had a beautiful green eyed little boy- he died at 10 days. Fast forward two years ago, really was not thinking about baby because I had made some lifestyle changes and guess what again Pregnant only this time M/C. So I agree with you it can happen only we have picked up an habit we cannot drop and that is symptom checking. I have just decided to give up and move on because I am a lot older and don't have the energy.

Today I am spotting bright red which never happen before because normally on day 5 I would be finish with period but with bright red I don't know and I really not even going to check into just wait it out cause it better stop by tomorrow because I plan a romantic night then.

How are you ladies doing and welcome to our thread MrsAJC.

 

[amanda111308]

Aww Piece I'm sorry to hear of your losses. I lost a set if twins September 2010 at 16 weeks. It was devastating for sure and it only confirmed more about what the doctors said about not being able to carry a baby to full term... Don't give up! It will happen it is just a matter of when.

I won't pretend as though I understand what it was like to deliver a baby and lose him at 10 days old... My Aunt lost her first son. He died 12 hours before he was born... The stupid doctor let her go over 2 weeks past her due date. I was at his funeral and his casket looked like a bassinet... Even as I type this I am bawling. It is so unfair.

 

[KLa826]

Hi everyone! MrsAJC welcome and good luck! I think we would all agree that the hardest part of TTC is all the uncertainty and waiting!

Piece and Amanda, So sorry to hear of all you've both been through. You both have maintained such a positive outlook and are quite inspirational, in my opinion! I've definitely gone from ntnp to TTC without even realizing I did it, and I know I need to try and step back... Started OPKs, what with DH and I temporarily living with my parents and BDing being at a minimum, I figured it couldn't hurt to try and learn a little more about my cycle and try to make BDing doubly enjoyable and possibly productive? It's just so darn hard when everyone around me seems to be having babies, pregnant or just had a baby... But I am really going to do my best to take a lesson from you both and just RELAX. Whats meant to be, will be, right? Afterall, I'm on CD15 and still no postive OPK. Things are really out of my hands, so why try so hard to control them??

Best wishes to you ladies and thanks again for sharing and supporting

 

[MrsD140810]

Hi ladies. Sorry I haven't been in touch again for a while. Been another busy week at work!

Fingers crossed for you Piece. Hope AF doesn't show up and you get a positive test soon!

I am also taking the relaxed approach this month. Every month when I have tracked ovulation, it has been inaccurate and it has thrown my timing off. It has also made me paranoid when I thought I was so many DPO and wasn't. So this month, I am not trying to figure out when I'm ovulating. The OPK's have been put away, I'm not symptom spotting and I'm just DTD every other day. Feel so much more relaxed for it.

Also, me and hubby are used to going on holiday in the summer and we've had some pretty big adventure holidays. We hadn't booked anything up this year for the hope that I would be pregnant. Because I'm not so far, we're thinking of having a small holiday. Thinking of going to Greece. The sensible part of me thinks don't spend your savings on a holiday because you could be pregnant soon. The other part of me is thinking..who knows when this is going to happen? I shouldn't put my life on hold for it.

Am I making the right decision this month?!

Hope you're all well ladies and have a great weekend!

 

[Katie Potatie]

Exactly piece!! I find for the first few years on ntnp my mind was actually in ttc mode and month after month nothing happened. The week I began to accept it wasn't something that was gonna happen for me naturally was the same week I conceived. I stopped stressing and symptom spotting and stopped pressuring myself to get pregnant and sure enough it happened!!

I am trying to do it again but it is SO hard to make the mind quiet and cut down on expectations. But it can be done and pregnancy is achievable! The doctors all told me years ago that I had PCOS and that it was unlikely I would ever get pregnant and if I did I would likely not carry the baby long and certainly not to full term... Well doctors can be wrong and in this case they were!! I tiptoed around when I got pregnant with my son because I was afraid to be happy because in my MIND I had already lost him.

But now I have a VERY BUSY little guy and all because I let go of trying to manipulate every little thing in hopes to conceive. I didn't know / care when I was ovulating I wasn't checking cm or cervical position none of that stuff and I just BD for fun and because I love my DH.

It WILL happen for all of us!!! But for now there is no reason to not enjoy our lives!!! Enjoy being baby free for as long as you can and have no regrets. When baby does come life will be something completely different and I'm sure when I get pregnant again life will hold a whole new set of challenges and joys.

Live.Laugh.Love nothing has been more true and wonderful in life than what living these words can do for us all. Have a fantastic day ladies!! Much love!

Beautiful post and so true.

 

[Katie Potatie]

Hi ladies. Sorry I haven't been in touch again for a while. Been another busy week at work!

Fingers crossed for you Piece. Hope AF doesn't show up and you get a positive test soon!

I am also taking the relaxed approach this month. Every month when I have tracked ovulation, it has been inaccurate and it has thrown my timing off. It has also made me paranoid when I thought I was so many DPO and wasn't. So this month, I am not trying to figure out when I'm ovulating. The OPK's have been put away, I'm not symptom spotting and I'm just DTD every other day. Feel so much more relaxed for it.

Also, me and hubby are used to going on holiday in the summer and we've had some pretty big adventure holidays. We hadn't booked anything up this year for the hope that I would be pregnant. Because I'm not so far, we're thinking of having a small holiday. Thinking of going to Greece. The sensible part of me thinks don't spend your savings on a holiday because you could be pregnant soon. The other part of me is thinking..who knows when this is going to happen? I shouldn't put my life on hold for it.

Am I making the right decision this month?!

Hope you're all well ladies and have a great weekend!

Don't put your life on hold! In terms of the vacation...GO! Enjoy the time with your hubby. Enjoy the time for yourself. Because here's the thing..yes, babies are expensive. But you find ways in your budget to take care of their needs. Money you did not even know you were spending is saved when you have a baby. Going out to eat, going out for drinks, and entertainment life, in general, pays for lots of baby necessities. It's miraculous how you naturally find ways to make room in the budget after baby is born. I certainly appreciate your fiscal responsibility with bringing a new life into this world! But coming from a woman who obsesses about budgets and loves spreadsheets and tracking expenses, I can tell you that everything will fall into place when baby arrives. Take your vacation, enjoy your vacation! BD on your relaxing vacation! Have fun!

 

[pieceofpie]

MrsD.

Go and enjoy yourself with hubby, relax your mind and body including getting to know both you and hubby again. I love the way you are thinking about the finances of having a baby but you know what it will work out because once a child comes into the picture you will find yourself prioritising more where you cut back on many things and you would be amazed at how much you would save. I am a person who watch every penny and my BF is worst than I am. I have prepared for a baby for more than ten years and to date nothing has happen..I have baby clothes, cases of huggies, a new addition to where I am living and you know what I wish I had enjoyed some of that funds a bit more rather than limit myself....Enjoy Greece, its a beautiful country. (My ex and decease son father is Greek and he thought me a lot so I know you will have an adventure)

Sorry ladies I have nothing to share in regards of ttc journey, I have decided to not continue for awhile with this because it is too stressful and just try and relax, take it easy and re-focus myself. I think I was becoming too absorb into it and it was taking over my life. This cycle I did not chart and for a very long time was able to enjoy my partner and not just see him as a sperm bank.

I am keeping my fingers cross for you ladies and will be visiting every day to see how you all are doing.