Any other October 2013 babies

[goddess25]

I didn't find out with either of my kids and I have not found out this time. I like the surprise.

 

[PuddlePuppy]

we haven't either times, 1st time we were sure we didn't want to know as DH put it 'one of the last surprises you can get these days'. 2nd time around we waviered a bit about it and nearly found out but at the last minute, ie in the scan said nope we don't want to know so DH and I just looked at each other whilst she scanned that area to make sure neither of us could peek!

 

[grace10209]

We had to find out, we could never wait til the baby is born, too much planning and stuff we wanted to do.
How are you all doing in this heat? It's been 95+ everyday here and all I want to do is stay inside - which is normally not like me..

 

[grace10209]

Also, how many kids does everyone have? I am 37 and this is #1 and I'm very torn on if I should have a second one. I wish I was younger so I could wait a few yrs.
Really prefer to not be over 40 and ttc - how hard is it to be preg and have a little one? And then how much harder is having two?
Sometimes I just want one so we can focus 100% on her and financially it would be easier - then I worry about her being an only child?

Thoughts?

 

[goddess25]

Grace I am 39 and expecting #3. I have a 4 & 2 year old. Being older expecting and havimg 2 other kids is utterly exhausting. Thid will be my last. I also don't like the extra worries that come with being older. I didn't want to be over 40 ttc but that s just me.

 

[grace10209]

Grace I am 39 and expecting #3. I have a 4 & 2 year old. Being older expecting and havimg 2 other kids is utterly exhausting. Thid will be my last. I also don't like the extra worries that come with being older. I didn't want to be over 40 ttc but that s just me.

I hear you, that's why I am so torn, if I want a second - I really need to do it right away...... I need to find some only children and see if they regret not having a sibling. I just don't know if 1) it will be too much for me to have a 2nd so quick at my age and 2) if we can afford it?
Right now I'm trying to figure out how we can afford daycare - stinks - wish I could stay home - I think that would make decision easier - but we can't afford house on just dh's salary.

 

[goddess25]

I have a few friends that were only children and they were fine growing up, now they all have ageing parents and i know that they are finding that growing sense of responsibility alone to be quite tough with no one to share it with. I grew up with a sibling and even though I hated it at the time I love him very much now.

FInancially I have not found an extra kid to be too much more, it will be much harder as they get older for sure.

You have to do what is right for you and your family.

 

[buzzy]

Is there anybody who has decided not to find out the sex of the baby? It's been interesting how people decide on that and stick to the decision.

As for me, I couldn't wait till the end.

Me!! Didn't find out with baby #1 either

 

[goddess25]

Quite a lot team yellow.

 

[grace10209]

I have a few friends that were only children and they were fine growing up, now they all have ageing parents and i know that they are finding that growing sense of responsibility alone to be quite tough with no one to share it with. I grew up with a sibling and even though I hated it at the time I love him very much now.

FInancially I have not found an extra kid to be too much more, it will be much harder as they get older for sure.

You have to do what is right for you and your family.

Thanks for this. very tough one........DH and I "tried" actively for a while to get pregnant with this baby and we had help, iui, etc.
we lost one along the way, i guess we could always "not prevent", if we are undecided still and if it "happens" then we can say it was meant to be.
who knows - im sure my feeling will change once this baby girl is here.

 

[buzzy]

Also, how many kids does everyone have? I am 37 and this is #1 and I'm very torn on if I should have a second one. I wish I was younger so I could wait a few yrs.
Really prefer to not be over 40 and ttc - how hard is it to be preg and have a little one? And then how much harder is having two?
Sometimes I just want one so we can focus 100% on her and financially it would be easier - then I worry about her being an only child?

Thoughts?

I'm 37 and this is my second. Not having anymore. DD was born 4 years ago and we've suffered 2 losses. We knew we wanted two children, this pregnancy isn't the walk in the park that the first was. So even if we wanted more I'm not sure I'd have what it takes to do it all a third time...

 

[goddess25]

Third time around for me is pretty unpleasant.

 

[grace10209]

Thanks for everyone's comments. Sometimes I really want a second, but then I think - seeing im pregnant now, it would be SO DIFFICULT for me to be preg AND HAVE baby girl to take care of. Just dont know if i could do it.

Maybe 2nd pregnancy would be easier, maybe i would be more relaxed the 2nd time around and not so nervous. For those with kids now, can you pick them up and carry them around while you are pregnant?

 

[buzzy]

Third time around for me is pretty unpleasant.

Thanks for everyone's comments. Sometimes I really want a second, but then I think - seeing im pregnant now, it would be SO DIFFICULT for me to be preg AND HAVE baby girl to take care of. Just dont know if i could do it.

Maybe 2nd pregnancy would be easier, maybe i would be more relaxed the 2nd time around and not so nervous. For those with kids now, can you pick them up and carry them around while you are pregnant?

No, I can't pick DD up as I went into preterm labour 5 weeks ago and am on bed rest Bt she IS four and doesn't really need picking up! But if she were much younger, then I'd have a problem.

Godess25 sorry you're having a hard time too....

 

[goddess25]

It will fly past and our babies will be here soon enough.

 

[NR3]

Also, how many kids does everyone have? I am 37 and this is #1 and I'm very torn on if I should have a second one. I wish I was younger so I could wait a few yrs.
Really prefer to not be over 40 and ttc - how hard is it to be preg and have a little one? And then how much harder is having two?
Sometimes I just want one so we can focus 100% on her and financially it would be easier - then I worry about her being an only child?

Thoughts?

I am also 37 but this is my 3rd and last child. I agree with the over 40 part.

With the pregnancies after the first one you don't have time to even think that much about it. You have things to do, job, take care for daycare arrangements... Even I would often forget that I'm pregnant!

The difference between having 1 child and 2 children for me was big. Now I expect less changes.

I don't have siblings and growing up was OK, you just get used to what you have. Now as a grown-up, I wish I had brother/s/sister/s! And not only to share responsibilities for older parents but just as friends, people who would be close to me in every situation. Of course, there is no warranty that we would be in perfect relationship, but in my dreams we are like this.

 

[goddess25]

NR3 like you I found moving from 1-2 children a huge adjustment. I have been told going from 2-3 is nowhere near the same and I am just praying that this is true

 

[fairsinger]

Thanks for everyone's comments. Sometimes I really want a second, but then I think - seeing im pregnant now, it would be SO DIFFICULT for me to be preg AND HAVE baby girl to take care of. Just dont know if i could do it.

Maybe 2nd pregnancy would be easier, maybe i would be more relaxed the 2nd time around and not so nervous. For those with kids now, can you pick them up and carry them around while you are pregnant?

I was 35 when I delivered my first baby, and I will turn 40 a couple of weeks after this baby's due date. My first pregnancy had lots of complications, but this pregnancy and my last one have been far easier even though I am older. I had two losses between my son and daughter, so I was really stressed during my last pregnancy, but it was pretty much textbook-perfect. I was unable to pick up my older child during first tri this time because I had a subchorionic hematoma, but I have been able to pick up my toddler as much as necessary, especially once the hematoma resolved. My older child is over 40 pounds so I only pick him up when absolutely necessary. My kids and I cuddle on the sofa or in bed so they still get the physical closeness even though I don't pick them up as much.

I think this pregnancy is hard in terms of trying to give my kids enough attention and stay active with them during the heat of summer, but otherwise it's not too bad. The kids have done really well and my oldest is really excited (the toddler is too little to understand).

I have so many friends having babies at 39 and 40 that it just feels pretty normal to me. But it's definitely a very personal decision with a lot of variables!

 

[goddess25]

How is everyone getting on?

I can't believe our DD are getting so close. Reached 30w at the weekend..woohoo. Have my scan tomorrow to see if my placenta has moved. If it hasn't they will be scheduling a c section for 37w so potentially in 7 weeks my baby could be here. Scary thought.

 

[septbride]

Hi ladies, may I join? I'm 38 and due October 16 with my first. It took us 14 months to conceive, and boy was that a difficult time. IVF failed and then we got a natural BFP, so we're thrilled. I want to have more, but am concerned about my age and the fact that it could take me another year or more to conceive. So we'll see! We're open to adoption or donor egg for a second.