Any single mothers due soon wanna chat ?

[Linzi765]

Hi

I'm Lynsey , 28 from Durham . 32 weeks pregnant tomorrow and broke up with my fiancé 6 weeks ago, although things have been heading that way since week 9 or so.

He decided my pregnant mood swings were "abuse" although I get the feeling that was his excuse to get out so he didn't look like the bad guy

He's been partying each weekend since although he never did that in the 18months we were together previous

It's like he's totally changed . He is not the man I feel for

I've 8 weeks to go ! Finding it hard as my baby girl was planned and I just dunno how he could leave us !

Anyone ????
Xx

 

[Proserpina]

I'm not pregnant anymore --- had my baby in September --- but I was where you are now not so long ago: pregnant and splitting up from my baby daddy.

My husband and I had talked and agreed to try for another child. He had told me he understood that he'd need to step up the help around the house and be there for me. We began TTC and amazingly, I got pregnant on my first cycle of trying, and the baby stuck. Instead of being there more for me, he began to be there less. In fact, he began helping out a female co-worker who didn't have a car. He was spending 2-3 hours a day chauffeuring her around, giving her hundreds of dollars a month in free rides, all the while bringing in less than minimum wage and insisting that he didn't even have 15 minutes a day to do some dishes for his exhausted, nauseous pregnant wife. He also began going out and partying until 6 AM on weekends with this woman and his loser boss and other loser co-workers.

Things came to a climax about 1 week before my due date when he stole money from my bank account to loan to his loser boss, then told a string of lame lies when I caught him. I didn't ask for a divorce until about 6 weeks later---I had to focus on having our son---but that was probably when my marriage died. I realized that if that was the way he treated me when I was 9 months pregnant, it was never, ever going to get better.

He was always a little irresponsible and immature, but this was not the man I married. Looking back now, I realize this was never a great relationship with a great man. It was an okay relationship with an okay man and I chose to see what I wanted to see, and made excuses for the rest.

Now I'm filing for divorce and suing his loser ex-boss for a pretty chunk of money (I'm not sure the exact amount of the suit yet, but our attorney said his boss will probably be liable for 50k after court costs and attorney's fees).

 

[Linzi765]

So, how are you feeling about it all now? What happened with him and the lady from work ?? How often does he see the children ?

I have a mediation meeting on Tuesday to put forward my suggestions on visitation with my newborn . I've no idea what is the normal . He wants to be involved but I'm not willing to have him in my home a lot of the time. I want to totally get over this feeling of rejection and betrayal. And with him around it will be harder. Obviously you already had your first born so you knew what it was like.... Do you think when my baby is born I'll care less about his sudden change and partyin etc? Not like to take him back! I never want that.... Just to feel less lonely and as I said rejected . If he can pick partying over me whilst carrying his baby... That's a pretty big block back
Xx

 

[MissRhead]

Hello! I'm currently 29 weeks pregnant I've been single throughout my entire pregnancy and am already a single mum of my 4 year old. My situation is a little different, as FOB to this baby isn't involved in any way what so ever. If you ever want to chat just pm me x

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Well, not due until July, but am single and expecting!

 

[surprisepg]

I'm 33 weeks. FOB and I broke up when I was 10 weeks pregnant. We still talk and I do it because I want LO to have a father but its becoming increasingly difficult for me to remain 'friends' when I know hes moved on.

I still have feelings for him even though I know hes not right for me. He says hes going to be here for LO but he has said many things in the past that lead me not to trust his word plus he wants a paternity test just to be "safe".

What complicates this is that he lives in the US and I live in Australia. For the most part I've been ok and accepted that I'm going to be doing this on my own then I have bouts of loneliness and depression where I just cry and cant seem to wrap my head around this situation and how unfair it is that I've been left like this to do this on my own with no support.

 

[Linzi765]

Yeah I feel the same . Each day that goes by when he doesn'temail me to ask how I or the baby are doing it really really hurts and makes me feel sooo lonely. Like nothing I've ever felt before .

He's been on to his solicitor about when he should get overnights and how many times a week he wasn't a to see her which is fair enough she is also his child. But I feel like he should at least acknowledge what I am going through now and the upcoming birth! It's so upsetting as each day passes and he makes no contact. But I guess at least I can say to my solicitor , he never once asked how I am or how baby was, he's not going to seem that caring then.

I've 5 weeks 3 days to go today , feels like an enter both away even tho I know it's not! I just want to not feel lonely anymore xx

 

[WantingABubba]

Due in April and been alone since the beginning. Her Dad didn't want to know from the minute I told him and finally stopped responding at all at 6 weeks I have struggled with it but mostly try not to think about it. It hurts a lot though, and I wish things were different to be honest xx

 

[surprisepg]

Ive been having a stressful week. My OB is stepping up the monitoring of LO and she scared me when she told me to expect the worst and thats to deliver him at 36 weeks. Less than 2 weeks away. I find out definite in 5 days time when I see her again. If I can get to 37 weeks I'll be much happier.