Any SMEPers!!!! 43 Testers! 22 BFP!!!!

[jf1414]

Oh Gemma I am so so sorry! Life really is not fair sometimes. I am heartbroken for you that you have to go through this.

As Jamie said, thank god they caught it early enough before it ruptured.

You will have a beautiful wedding and marry the love of your life and you will most definitely get your rainbow baby soon

 

[threemakefive]

Gemma I'm so sorry to hear that....life is cruel sometimes...but I know your day will come I'm pulling for ya girl you deserve it so much!!

 

[mammaspath]

oh goodness gemma!!!! my heart is so broken for you!!!!! ahhh i don't even know what to say

 

[krystinab]

Gemma, any update on your BP? Do you think they will let you go soon?

 

[Sunny skies]

Gemma, my heart sank when I read the news, I lost my baby and tube in Dec and I know how scary and awful it can be. There is nothing I can say as only time will help. Take care of yourself and hope the physical recovery goes well. I'm so sorry for your loss. Were they able to save your ovary too?

 

[Bride2b]

I came out of hospital yesterday,I've never felt pain like this ever,I almost got andy to call an ambulance last night as I coughed and it just felt like my insides ripping. My chest is sore where I've had a cold & they said the anesthetic may cause it to develop into a chest infection. My tummy is huge and full of gas where they did the procedure & causing me alot of pain.
I am gutted about losing another baby but I didn't allow myself to get attached,I think because I didn't see this baby it's not so hard emotionally for me to deal with,I think the physical pain is keeping me busy at the moment.
Andy isn't taking it well at all,he didn't cope last time when I lost Bertie,I think he thinks I can't have children,I keep trying to tell him I can but I think he can get past it. He wasn't there when the doctor came to see me when they said I could be discharged so he didn't hear them tell me that my other tube is ok. There is a chance it could happen again,there is a small bit of my left tube left & said it could happen again in there but also could happen in the other. Next time I will have a scan at 6 weeks to make sure it's in the right place so it can be dealt with if it isn't. If I was to lose my other tube I can get IVF,although not ideal I should be able to have kids. It might just take us a little longer than normal. I think again this is getting to him as its coming up for 2 years since we started trying. He is really down about the wedding, which through everything is the one thing that has kept me going. I just don't want our day to be overshadowed and with him not really feeling like he wants to do it as that's not a good start to married life. This couldn't have come at a worse time!

Sunny have they given you a plan of action for when you fall pregnant? Do you mind me asking how many weeks you were when you found out it was ectopic.
I don't know about you but it's almost like these things happen to other people and you don't expect them to happen to you.

 

[jrowenj]

gemma

I am sure that this will not overshadow your special wedding day. I hope that your fiance will be able to focus on the fact that the wedding day is all about the love that the 2 of you have for each other...

 

[jaynehard74]

Oh Gemma, I am so sorry for your loss, there are no words to make it better.

xoxoxoxxo

 

[Sunny skies]

I came out of hospital yesterday,I've never felt pain like this ever,I almost got andy to call an ambulance last night as I coughed and it just felt like my insides ripping. My chest is sore where I've had a cold & they said the anesthetic may cause it to develop into a chest infection. My tummy is huge and full of gas where they did the procedure & causing me alot of pain.
I am gutted about losing another baby but I didn't allow myself to get attached,I think because I didn't see this baby it's not so hard emotionally for me to deal with,I think the physical pain is keeping me busy at the moment.
Andy isn't taking it well at all,he didn't cope last time when I lost Bertie,I think he thinks I can't have children,I keep trying to tell him I can but I think he can get past it. He wasn't there when the doctor came to see me when they said I could be discharged so he didn't hear them tell me that my other tube is ok. There is a chance it could happen again,there is a small bit of my left tube left & said it could happen again in there but also could happen in the other. Next time I will have a scan at 6 weeks to make sure it's in the right place so it can be dealt with if it isn't. If I was to lose my other tube I can get IVF,although not ideal I should be able to have kids. It might just take us a little longer than normal. I think again this is getting to him as its coming up for 2 years since we started trying. He is really down about the wedding, which through everything is the one thing that has kept me going. I just don't want our day to be overshadowed and with him not really feeling like he wants to do it as that's not a good start to married life. This couldn't have come at a worse time!

Sunny have they given you a plan of action for when you fall pregnant? Do you mind me asking how many weeks you were when you found out it was ectopic.
I don't know about you but it's almost like these things happen to other people and you don't expect them to happen to you.

I never found out how far along I was as I didn't know I was pregnant until my tube ruptured. I suspect I was 8-9 weeks however I was still getting what I thought was my period so I don't know for sure. Maybe it was better this way. I had suspected something was wrong however I had an ultrasound and trnsvaginal a month prior that came back as normal after I was experiencing some dull pains on my left side and almost fainted. Unfortunately my doctor never though to check for pregnancy.

I couldn't believe I was pregnant and didn't know and although I only knew for a few hours I was devastated and couldn't believe how I could be so unlucky to be one of the 1 % who have etopic pregnancies. Physically and emotionally I have never experienced so much pain. MY husband didn't even want to think about trying again as he was so devastated that I almost died (I lost so much blood and had 2 blood transfusions).

We were told to wait 3 months or two full cycles. It took me 6 weeks to get my period back. The first week I was super bloated but it got better after I started passing gas (sorry TMI). I had a c-section cut so I couldn't pick up anything heavy and couldn't bend for about 2 weeks. You should heal better as your tube hadn't ruptured but I'm surprised they kept part of your tube. I have both ovaries which is better for my chances if I need IVF but I should be able to get pregnant again.

The OBGYN that did my surgery told me at my 3 month follow up appointment that if I get a positive pregnacy test I should come in right away for bloodwork to monitor my hormones are increasing as they should and I can get an early scan to ensure its in the right place. If it is found early enough they can give a shot to terminate the pregnancy or a less evasive surgery. After 6 months of trying the doctor said I could be seen to see if there are other fertility issues and or if I want to explore IVF. We've decided to see how things go until the end of the year then I will look into other options.

I'm sure your on an emotional rollersoster and you both need time to heal, especially as this is your second loss.. I can only imagine how you feel. I think our husbands want to protect us but sometimes they don't know what to say but its just as hard for them. My husband said that he would be ok if we don't have kids as he rather not risk my health but I feel like later on I would always regret not trying and know more than anything now how badly I want to be a mother. Let me know if you have any questions... I am here even if just to vent.

 

[Bride2b]

Thanks for sharing your experience, you actually answered some of my questions. Thats so scary about your rupturing - that is the thing that has freaked me out the most - the "could have been" scenario as no one was going to scan me until 12 weeks, so the scan on Thursday was just luck!

I wondered how long it takes for bleeding to start. I still havent started to bleed yet and was getting worried, I know my hormones have to reduce down enough for my lining to shed, obviously last time due to going into labour I bled straight away. This feels like a waiting game!

My tummy is massive where they pumped me full of gas....its getting bigger & can not wait to expel some of this gas. I am supposed to be trying on my wedding dress tomorrow to get the length altered - there is no way the dress is going to go on at this rate as my tummy is so big! I am also bloated elsewhere - thighs, love handles, legs, feet. And I've not had a bm since thursday - which is really unusual for me and probably not helping the bloat!

I think they have only left a tiny piece of tube on the left as most of it was taken up with the ectopic - it was pretty amazing to see what had gone on in there. I dont think the emotional side has really kicked in for me yet - I have been in so much pain & just been glad that it was found before its too late. I just hope whole 'I've lost another baby' emotion stays away as quite frankly I am not sure how I will feel/cope if that makes sense.

Thanks for replying - I know you told us about some of your experience when you joined. There isnt much on BnB about ectopics so its hard to get info. I have heard lots of positive pregnancy stories after an ectopic from friends etc, but the next pregnancy is something I am terrified about. Last time I couldnt wait to start ttc again, I instantly had that desire. I want a baby so bad but I think the shock of all this has set me back a bit!

x

 

[Sunny skies]

Gemma, it took me almost a week to have a BM, did they prescribe a stool softener. This really helped me. Your swelling will go down before the wedding, the first week is the toughest.

There are a lot of people who have gone on to have healthy pregnancies after an etopic so I'm happy to have read stories that give me hope. One of the nurses at the hospital where I had the surgery had had an etopic between her two children. I've heard that many women within a year fall pregnant. Take the time you need, I remember feeling so numb and then all of a sudden I would start crying out of nowhere.

Will you have a follow up appointment?

 

[BeverleyLN]

Gemma I hope you're doing OK... Sorry to here your OH is taking it so hard.
It will be hard for you but I hope that you feel better for your wedding.

I know nothing any of us can say can make the pain go away and I am thinking and praying for you hun x x x

 

[jrowenj]

Krystina - Have you tested again?!?!?!?!?!

Bethany - aren't you testing soon?!?!?!?!

 

[Storked]

Who, me?

 

[krystinab]

Hey ladies!

I am so pissed off at my body right now! Still no sign of AF, tested Saturday and got a BFN...So I know I am not preggo just having a fucked up cycle! Hoping it will come today...but hell Ive been hoping that for the last nine days...ugh.

Bethany whats the deal?

 

[Sunny skies]

Krystina, sorry about your crazy cycle. Was hoping we could be in the TWW together.

Bethany, I'm waiting....

Jaime, your just sailing through your pregnancy, how are u feeling these days?

Cd 13 for me, I have to say that it's gone quickly as I've been focussing on other things. Hope I can stay relaxed this cycle.

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Can I rant on my body as well? My OPKs have been dark as hell but not positive for the past 2 days. I should have O'ed this past Saturday but didn't. I have been making DH BD with me every night since Friday to make sure we catch the egg but O still hasn't arrived! Now we are worn out and of course it is going to interfere with dh's performance once I do O. My plan was to BD every other day till O gets here but that's out the window. The shitty part is that it looks like AF will be here (if I don't get a BFP) during my vacation! Wtf??? Who wants to bring a box of super absorbent tampons with them flying to another country!! Who wants to stuff their vajayjay with tampons every hour when I can be sipping cocktails next to the pool/beach? My body hates me!!!!!

 

[mammaspath]

Morning ladies.

ahhh f*&(*& krystina i was so thinking i was gonna open the thread to a bfp!!!!

bethany - whats up with you??? test?

It's time for a july bfp ........... where are all the girls at?

Gemma - how are you feeling??? how's the wedding coming along??? i can't wait to see some beautiful pics!!!

 

[krystinab]

Morning ladies.

ahhh f*&(*& krystina i was so thinking i was gonna open the thread to a bfp!!!!

bethany - whats up with you??? test?

It's time for a july bfp ........... where are all the girls at?

Gemma - how are you feeling??? how's the wedding coming along??? i can't wait to see some beautiful pics!!!

Yea this is driving me crazy...the funny thing is one of those damn psychis told me I was going to miss my chance in May then get pregnant in late July. I told her that my periods are at the beginning of the month so it would be impossible for me to get pregnant late in any month...she responded with I dont know all that ovulation stuff all I know is that you will get pregnant in late July and find out late August...of course I wrote her up to beign wrong...but who the helll knows...

 

[jrowenj]

Krystina - WTF?!?!?!?!? I was sure to hear good news soon from you!!!

Bethany - TEST DAMMIT!!!

Janette - Glad you are relaxed! I am feeling GREAT!! Thanks!

May - WTF?!?!?! ARe you sure you didn't O?!?