Any SMEPers!!!! 43 Testers! 22 BFP!!!!

[Tasha S.]

YAYYYYYY!!!!! So happy Dove!!!!!

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Dove - Glad to hear all is OK!

AFM - CD 1 today. Freaking bitch got me today with the worst cramps ever. I guess it's time for me to schedule my HSG for next Friday. And now I really need to get a move on with changing my health insurance plan to cover things like IUI and fertility drugs before open season is over. I was so hoping I would get a surprise BFP this cycle so that I can skip the HSG and changing of insurance. That's life for ya!

 

[dove830]

Thanks so much ladies....I'll ride this wave of relief, until the next worrisome event

BamBam...I say go for it! Fresh start, new options, and fingers double-crossed for you!

 

[Sunny skies]

Dove, great news, I'm so happy for you.

May, life can really be a bitch sometimes. Sorry about AF.

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Had a great big cry while talking to DH about changing insurance plans. All my frustrations came out in the open about how angry I am that people around me are getting pregnant without even trying and we have worked so hard but keep failing. There's always a return when I have worked hard at things but this is one of those things that no matter how hard you work/try, you might still not get what you want. I also finally realized how even without a baby it would not ruin my relationship with DH and I draw the line at IUI. I don't think I would explore IVF nor don't think we can ever afford it. If that's our only option, we would just go without a child. With that said, I am still praying I get a natural BFP sometime soon.

 

[Sunny skies]

Had a great big cry while talking to DH about changing insurance plans. All my frustrations came out in the open about how angry I am that people around me are getting pregnant without epven trying and we have worked so hard but keep failing. There's always a return when I have worked hard at things but this is one of those things that no matter how hard you work/try, you might still not get what you want. I also finally realized how even without a baby it would not ruin my relationship with DH and I draw the line at IUI. I don't think I would explore IVF nor don't think we can ever afford it. If that's our only option, we would just go without a child. With that said, I am still praying I get a natural BFP sometime soon.

I totally understand May, sometimes it's hard to accept that some people can get pregnant so easily and don't even appreciate it. All the stress can really affect our relationships so I'm glad you have s strong relationship with DH and despite all your struggles your still there for each other. I know you'll get your happy ending. Only you know what's best for you. Don't forget to enjoy life's little pleasures as TTC can consume us sometimes. Sending big hugs.

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Thanks, Sunny. It's so true how TTC has taken over my life the past year. Every moment I am worrying about O, AF, temping, supplements, BD, etc. DH thinks I am too stressed out about it and hates seeing how absorbed I am. What can I say, I am a perfectionist and I always have to make sure things are going a certain way. I sometimes really dislike that about myself. For this month, I am going to try and relax. Easier said than done, I know. May God give me strength. DH's birthday is coming up next month and I really would love to give him the best present of all... BFP.

 

[jrowenj]

Dove, i am so happy to hear the good news... Let's spread some of the dust and blessings on the other ladies!

 

[snowflakes120]

Dove - Great news! I had a feeling that everything would be OK. My sore boobs would go away for a number of days and then return again. Weirdest thing ever. Just changing of hormones in our bodies! But I totally understand, I had lots of freak out moments for sure!!

May - Sorry huns. It still bothers me when I hear of other girls getting PG with ease as well - even though I am PG. I found out 3 of the girls that we played kickball with are PG as well. 2 of them are 2 weeks behind me. But one of the girls has twin 9 yr old boys and OPPS! they got PG again. The other girl got PG her 1st month and the 3rd girl had been trying but I don't know for how long but I am sure it wasn't long. Take some relaxing time for you and hubby. Would you ever consider not BBT temping?? It might take some of the stress off you. I know it did for me.

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Hi everyone! Can anyone tell me what the HSG is like and if I can go by myself or make DH go with me? I scheduled it for next Friday and I am a bit nervous about it.

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

May - Sorry huns. It still bothers me when I hear of other girls getting PG with ease as well - even though I am PG. I found out 3 of the girls that we played kickball with are PG as well. 2 of them are 2 weeks behind me. But one of the girls has twin 9 yr old boys and OPPS! they got PG again. The other girl got PG her 1st month and the 3rd girl had been trying but I don't know for how long but I am sure it wasn't long. Take some relaxing time for you and hubby. Would you ever consider not BBT temping?? It might take some of the stress off you. I know it did for me.

Thanks, girl! I guess I am just bitter. I really should be happy for those people who can get pregnant at the drop of a dime. I saw a patient yesterday where she told me she was 5 1/2 months pregnant and was successful the month after she stopped BCP. It was like a slap in my face even though she has no idea what I am going through personally. I just received a xmas card my bff sent out and she announced her pregnancy. It was like a knife in my heart. DH told me to rip it up. lol. At this point, I just don't know if it will ever happen with me. I am going to see what my HSG results say. If I am ok, then it's not me and we need to start finding a doctor for DH to treat low sperm count. I am seriously considering not temping/charting this month. I wouldn't want to miss an opportunity so i'll probably still do OPKs when i know O is near. Thanks for listening to me rant. Hope you are doing fabulous with your pregnancy!

 

[krystinab]

Dove I just knew your lil bean was doing just fine

May- the HSG went fine for me, I took a painkiller before the procedure. If you are more comfortable with DH then I say bring him If they see a blockage make sure they let you cough or turn to see if they can expel the bloackage. I wish I would have known that before I went. My RE told me that a lot of times even when they see a bloackage it could be a spasm or something that makes it look like there is an issue. In my case shes not sure if it was a true blockage or spasm but didnt think it was necessary to get a lap...heres to two healthy tube for you...and your chance of conceiving increase the three cycles after the HSG...

As for me, nothing really going on...this morning I thought my nipples looked funny but my eyes could be playing tricks on me...LMAO

 

[snowflakes120]

HSG isn't bad May - at least for me but I didn't have any blocked tubes. I hear it can be bad for those that do have blocked tubes. I went by myself - I had it done in the afternoon and took the rest of the day off from work. Take 4 IBU's 1 hour prior to procedure. Bring your own pads bc the dye will leak out. They will try to give you the big huge pads like the nurse's office in middle school!!

Thanks huns. I really hope your BFP is right around the corner. I will happen for you and the rest of the SMEP'ers! Stay positive hun!

 

[Tasha S.]

May: I'm so sorry you're going through a rough time. I'm sure we all struggle with bitterness at times, if I helps at all, I've come up with a reasoning that helps me get over it when I have a hard time: I figure that if I had a choice, I would want to be able to get pregnant fast and not have any complications. I'm sure we would ALL want that lol!! Those women are blessed, but maybe, just maybe we'll gain something through this experience that they'll never know. Maybe we'll be able to appreciate our future babies (God willing!) on a level that they'll never know. Maybe in the end, we'll be more blessed than them. I hope I don't sound overly optimistic, I don't mean to say beautiful poetical (and hoplessly idealistic) things, I'm sorry if it sounds that way! (And if you think it does, I totally understand if you're upset about it, I'm the first to get upset when people tell me things that sound hoplessly idealistic! ). I just have to believe that somehow, this is going to be worth it in the end. That said, it sucks (let's be honest! )!!!

Krys: Different looking nipples is good!! When are you testing?!?! BABY DUST!!!

AFM: CD 4. Uneventful! Waiting for that Fertility tea to come in the mail!

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Tasha, you are right. I try very hard to find some reasoning behind all of this. I can truly say that when and if we do get pregnant, we will treasure and appreciate every moment of the pregnancy and baby. I see so many women take it for granted. Thanks for the kind words.

Lisa - thanks for the advice. I am so not looking forward to the HSG. Hubby will most likely not be able to go with me.

Kristina - so coughing or turning on the side will help clear a blockage or it just helps see the blockage better? Good luck in your TWW!

 

[krystinab]

Tasha, you are right. I try very hard to find some reasoning behind all of this. I can truly say that when and if we do get pregnant, we will treasure and appreciate every moment if the pregnancy and baby. I see so many women take it for granted. Thanks for the kind words.

Lisa - thanks for the advice. I am so not looking forward to the HSG. Hubby will most likely not be able to go with me.

Kristina - so coughing or turning on the side will help clear a blockage or it just helps see the blockage better? Good luck in your TWW!

Apparenlty if it's just mucous blocking the tube it can expel it. But it's prob difficult to cough with a speculum in your whohaa

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Tasha, you are right. I try very hard to find some reasoning behind all of this. I can truly say that when and if we do get pregnant, we will treasure and appreciate every moment if the pregnancy and baby. I see so many women take it for granted. Thanks for the kind words.

Lisa - thanks for the advice. I am so not looking forward to the HSG. Hubby will most likely not be able to go with me.

Kristina - so coughing or turning on the side will help clear a blockage or it just helps see the blockage better? Good luck in your TWW!

Apparenlty if it's just mucous blocking the tube it can expel it. But it's prob difficult to cough with a speculum in your whohaa

Man, I am afraid something might fly out of the other opening. Lmao! :X

 

[Sunny skies]

May, I'm planning to get the HSG done too. After this initial testing, I'll be booking one. I've heard it's not too bad like the other ladies have mentioned.

Tasha, beautifully said. I love the optimism, we all need it once and a while. Thanks.

AFM, getting ready to O, hopefully will O this weekend, hoping I don't have another crazy cycle.

 

[AerisandAlex]

Beautifully said Tasha ^_^
I like to think of my 'complications' as good stories to tell the kids when they get older.
My parents love to talk about the labor of me and my siblings on our birthdays, it's like a grand old story...
I was breech and the doctors told my mother they were giving her an hour to see if she could get me to flip, if not they were going to do a c-section and I guess I, for whatever reason, did flip the right way at the last second... and then my youngest brother was delivered by a nurse who was brand new and had no idea what he was doing, they'd locked my father out of the delivery room because that nurse was SUPPOSED to be giving her an epidural, not delivering my brother lol, but he came quick and my mother was shouting like he was attacking her and my father panicked and kicked in the door to see the nurse holding my brother up by his one leg with the most terrible look of shock on his face lol

It's all a grand adventure... I get to tell my son that I went into labor and my water broke Christmas night two months premature... and just when I get the hospital, he decides he's NOT coming but then I'm stuck there for a week... he then decided to try again 5 days later, but then STOPPED again, but this time the docs weren't going to let him get away with not being delivered and did a c-section
I'm sure he'll laugh every time we talk about it

Sunny skies - I hope everything goes well and your cycle stays on track Maybe this month we'll all be so lucky lol


- We got our Positive OPK Today! Time for the 3 day BD escapade

 

[krystinab]

where the hell is everyone today?