Any SMEPers!!!! 43 Testers! 22 BFP!!!!

[krystinab]

Lisa, that's like when my vibrator stopped working and I got all upset, it was the battery's..LMAO

Stacegirl, I paid $1800 for the IUI & monitoring. I asked the DR for samples of the injections but have to pay $80 for the trigger...hope that helps..

Tasha, glad that spotting was a false alarm. Take it easy lady

KD, congrats lady...I am trying to convince DH that we should quit our jobs and invest in a food truck...food is my passion...corporate America pays the bills...ugh

May, lets get it girl!

AFM, nothing to report...next cycle due in 2 weeks, Im guessing Im in the 2ww...super excited about the IUI...I keep dreaming about babies

 

[stacergirl]

Krystina, Love the vibrator comment!!!
Geez, $1800!!! Ugh now im really hoping the first one works!! So you've had the IUi done before then? It doesn't sound horrible, I just hope I get a good doc that will be there for us!! Hopefully you won't have to have the IUi next month. I still haven't O'd this month yet so I'm hoping we're on target for the IUi next month!!! Dh is very anxious, as am I!

 

[krystinab]

Krystina, Love the vibrator comment!!!
Geez, $1800!!! Ugh now im really hoping the first one works!! So you've had the IUi done before then? It doesn't sound horrible, I just hope I get a good doc that will be there for us!! Hopefully you won't have to have the IUi next month. I still haven't O'd this month yet so I'm hoping we're on target for the IUi next month!!! Dh is very anxious, as am I!

No I haven't done it yet...just finished paying for it. Feb will be my first try...and hopefully my last... supposed to be calling my nurse on cd1 to get all the testing started. Im so excited!! I got a discount through parent steps because my insurance doesn't cover it. The regular price is $2400 plus meds...so the $1800 was helpful...Where are do you live?

 

[stacergirl]

Oh okay gotcha! I live in Florida. My insurance has paid to find out what's wrong and if something was detected and can be corrected they would pay for that too, but they won't pay for the insemination. Not sure if they cover the meds or not. $2500?! And they say this is the cheaper route! Lol I mean it is cheaper than ivf but still. I don't really want to try the ivf, so hoping it doesn't come down to that!! Good thing you got a discount! I hope I can get one too!

 

[snowflakes120]

Stacer - I had low progesterone & a shorter LP (11/12 days which appeared after the MC) and my main reason for getting the IUI was that I don't have any fertile CM at all. And just basically just trying for over a year. All my CD3 bloods came back great. The P4 (progesterone) was not good. Hubby checked out great.

Mine was not covered by insurance either. And since it wasn't covered I decided to be a self-pay patient and not run anything through my insurance at all. By doing that they gave me a 40% discount on blood work, ultrasounds and the IUI. Dr. costs/fees & Hospital costs/fees (Office was in the Hospital so I had to pay for their facility fees) were reduced with a 25% discount. RE/FS reviewed all ultrasounds and blood work so I had to pay for her to do that. There was no discount given for Hubby's Sperm Wash (you have to have this done for the IUI - you have no choice) because for some reason they don't give one. It was $500. Even if I had run all the stuff I just mentioned through insurance - I didn't get any sort of discount and it didn't go towards my super high deductible anyways so it made no sense in using insurance at all in my situation. In the end I believe with my drugs and everything it cost about $2K for that one cycle (would have have been wayyyyyy higher without the discounts I got!!) - I paid it all off right away (they will do payment plans) but it seems so far back and I don't want to think about how much it cost so I am pretty sure it was right around there price wise!! It will depend on which drugs they want you to use - Injectibles are much for expensive and will increase your cost significantly. Hope this helps.

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Hey girls, just wanted to drop in and say that I vow never to go out with any of my girlfriends again. This happens everytime. I met up with a friend who has a two year old. She is one of the first people to know I was struggling to TTC. She started trying a few months after me and no surprise, she is 3.5 months pregnant. Oh, and so is her sister. This really makes me feel like crap.

 

[Tasha S.]

Hey girls, just wanted to drop in and say that I vow never to go out with any of my girlfriends again. This happens everytime. I met up with a friend who has a two year old. She is one of the first people to know I was struggling to TTC. She started trying a few months after me and no surprise, she is 3.5 months pregnant. Oh, and so is her sister. This really makes me feel like crap.

I'm so sorry May!!!!

.........ladies, I'm spotting again. I called Canada's health line, and they said rest tonight and walk-in clinic tomorrow. It looks like that's happening....*sigh*...I was really hoping this would go well, no scares. Looks like it's going to be the bumpy road!

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Oh Tasha, I hope all goes well and the spotting goes away. Thinking of you!

 

[Kdk24]

Tasha... I'm so sorry hun! I'll keep you in my thoughts. Keep us posted tomorrow!

 

[Tasha S.]

Update this morning: So the spotting went away within an hour or two that it came yesterday afternoon. I took it easy all evening and tried 2 clinics this morning, but they were both closed--obviously, it's Saturday! I'm still trying to wrap my head around why the nurse would have said to go to a clinic on the weekend--maybe she forgot that yesterday was Friday?! So we ended up going to emergency to speak to the nurse. Basically, she said just don't worry about it, that some women spot in early pregnancy, especially on the weeks that they would have gotten their periods (she said that she did with her 4 pregnancies!). So I'm trying to not care or worry about it if it happens again...but it's SO hard! They wouldn't give me a scan or anything, not even let me hear the heartbeat! Just don't worry, they say! So I'm trying to do just that!

All you girlies (Krys, Stacergirl, ... and Sunny, were you going to try it too?? Sorry, I forget now!!) doing IUI soon, keep us updated on when you're starting!!! Fx for all of you!!!

May-Are you feeling a bit better after yesterday?? I'm so sorry that happened! That was insensitive of your friend. I think it would have been better if she had let you know earlier in her pregnancy and NOT at a time when you would have to be around her afterwards. I know when my older sister got pregnant (she's 9 weeks ahead of me), she gave me a call, and I was so happy for her on the phone, but then I bawled my eyes out after the call! And it's not because you're not happy for the person, it's just it's hard to deal with the topic of pregnancy. I'm thinking of you May!

 

[armymama2012]

I dont know what to say anymore. It seems doing basically any activity that involves bending over makes me cramp up. Grocery shopping for an hour had me in quite a bit of pain last night. .

 

[stacergirl]

Ughhhh sooo sorry May! That so sucks!! I haven't yet gotten the call yet but I know it will come (but I pray it's after mine to them)!! I have a friend who started ttc a year after me and wanted sympathy when it didn't happen as soon as she wanted. Needless to say I avoid that topic with her. But fear they will fall pg before us. And my sister is going to start ttc soon so that stresses me out too bc if it's easy for them (as much as I'll be happy bc I don't wish this on anyone) it will still be hard and put a damper on our relationship.. It's so frustrating being in that age group where it's time to get pg but it's not happening easily! Then another friend has announced her 3rd accident-come on!! Use bcp-her 2nd accident wasn't even a year old when she found out she was pg. and then of course there's those others that got pg on their first attempt.

I hope it happens soon for all of us. I'm starting to get a little bitter and I don't like it!!

 

[stacergirl]

Stacer - I had low progesterone & a shorter LP (11/12 days which appeared after the MC) and my main reason for getting the IUI was that I don't have any fertile CM at all. And just basically just trying for over a year. All my CD3 bloods came back great. The P4 (progesterone) was not good. Hubby checked out great.

Mine was not covered by insurance either. And since it wasn't covered I decided to be a self-pay patient and not run anything through my insurance at all. By doing that they gave me a 40% discount on blood work, ultrasounds and the IUI. Dr. costs/fees & Hospital costs/fees (Office was in the Hospital so I had to pay for their facility fees) were reduced with a 25% discount. RE/FS reviewed all ultrasounds and blood work so I had to pay for her to do that. There was no discount given for Hubby's Sperm Wash (you have to have this done for the IUI - you have no choice) because for some reason they don't give one. It was $500. Even if I had run all the stuff I just mentioned through insurance - I didn't get any sort of discount and it didn't go towards my super high deductible anyways so it made no sense in using insurance at all in my situation. In the end I believe with my drugs and everything it cost about $2K for that one cycle (would have have been wayyyyyy higher without the discounts I got!!) - I paid it all off right away (they will do payment plans) but it seems so far back and I don't want to think about how much it cost so I am pretty sure it was right around there price wise!! It will depend on which drugs they want you to use - Injectibles are much for expensive and will increase your cost significantly. Hope this helps.

Thanks so much for this post! Love all the informstionx I was thinking the IUi would be around $800, but I was way wrong. So glad it was worth the money for you. Dh wants to be pretty aggressive with the assisted reproduction so were not wasting money, and because were ready to get our BFP. So I hope we jump right into what's going to actually work and not waste money on things that won't. I wonder about my cm too. I don't know if I have enough or what. We've been using preseed though for that. Did they actually test your cm or just do a check and noticed you didn't have any?<- sorry if that's a stupid question! Lol


Tasha-hang in there!! I'm sure you're going crazy but try to stay calm and relax the best you can!!

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Tasha - I am glad that you at least got to speak with someone. I know you are worried but really try not to. Do as much resting as possible and wait to see on Monday.

I am doing ok, I guess. It's not the end of the world that another person got pregnant who started TTC after me. It just feels a bit like a slap in the face that we have failed for so many months. And you are right, my friend and I text each other to see how we are doing from time to time with TTC. I stopped hearing from her after early Dec and I should have known. I just wished she would have told me beforehand, instead of telling me at a group lunch. I feel like I was caught off guard and that I didn't know what to feel at the moment - although I definitely threw my arms around her and congratulated her out of automatic response. Afterwards, I just felt embarrassed that I had to deal with my feelings of "still not pregnant, but someone else is" in front of other girls. Thanks for listening to me vent. I don't know what I would so without you girls who can relate to me this much.

 

[Sunny skies]

Lisa, I do glad your still around. You have so much great info and nice to know we can turn to you. Hope your doing well.

Tasha, thinking of you, sorry the spotting happened again and you weren't offered any scan or reassurance. Take it easy and keep us posted.

Krystina, how's you TWW going?

Stacer, sounds like your DH is fully inboard which is great. A lot of men get all weirded out when treatment gets intrusive so It's nice to hear he's fully on board. Good luck, sounds like you have a plan.

May, I don'tind the vent, I often feel the way you do and it sucks when your taken off guard and have to put on that brave face. Few people understand how you can be happy for someone yet broken inside. I have a friend who's just opened up about starting fertility treatments and its nice to have someone to talk to about it but I worry about the day she announces she's pregnant with number 2 and I'm still trying. It's hard not to feel jealous and upset and I've realized it's normal and I can't be upset about how I feel.

Army, hope the cramping stops and you can resume normal activity cramp free.

AFM, tomorrow I get the HSG done. I hope I'm okay afterwards as I have to attend a meeting at work afterwards. I'm relieved I'm finally getting it done but nervous.

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Ughhhh sooo sorry May! That so sucks!! I haven't yet gotten the call yet but I know it will come (but I pray it's after mine to them)!! I have a friend who started ttc a year after me and wanted sympathy when it didn't happen as soon as she wanted. Needless to say I avoid that topic with her. But fear they will fall pg before us. And my sister is going to start ttc soon so that stresses me out too bc if it's easy for them (as much as I'll be happy bc I don't wish this on anyone) it will still be hard and put a damper on our relationship.. It's so frustrating being in that age group where it's time to get pg but it's not happening easily! Then another friend has announced her 3rd accident-come on!! Use bcp-her 2nd accident wasn't even a year old when she found out she was pg. and then of course there's those others that got pg on their first attempt.

I hope it happens soon for all of us. I'm starting to get a little bitter and I don't like it!!

It seems everyone I know who was TTC after me has already fallen pregnant. It's hard to think it might never happen for us. Hardest part is trying to be happy for someone when you are so heartbroken on the inside. I hope we all get our BFP soon.

 

[stacergirl]

Sunny-good luck on your HSG tomorrow. You should get some insight as to how the test went after its over. Hoping its good news! And thanks, it's nice my dh is on board. I think I'm more hurt by the fact we have to look towards treatments then he is...but it is what it is, even though it doesn't seem fair at times.

Tasha and army-hope you're both feeling better!

May-its so nice to know im not alone feeling this way. I've given very minimal information to my friends and even family about my ttc path. I don't feel as though they support me enough in how I'm feeling when I've shared information so ive stopped opening up. I'm not sure if that's better or worse because I get upset when they say certain things and they don't know it, but if they did know I think they would say the same things that upset me so whatever. Although I've known these girls my whole life, I've kinda find out they won't be there for me the way I'd like when I need them the most-which is unfortunate.

Afm I think I've ovulated today or will tomorrow. Temps haven't gone up but got pos opk yesterday and today, but dh isn't here so no bding for me. It will still be nice to see if my lp is lengthened .

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Good luck with HSG today, Sunny!

 

[Renaendel]

Well I am out again ladies, now for a few months. It turned out to be a heterotopic pregnancy. They found it Friday night at the ER. I ended up having my right tube removed that as a surprise to us all held a twin babe. Is there anyone in here I could pm about what they experienced after their salpingectomy? Ttc will be on hold for 3 months now.

 

[stacergirl]

So sorry renae!!! Hope your doing okay! I unfortunately can't help but I hope someone here can. Good luck!!