anybody else really struggle to leave the house??

[isabelsmummy]

Ever since I had DD i have really had to force myself to leave the house, that was 20 months ago, i fell pregnant again when she was 9 months and suffered really badly with SPD which made me even more housebound, and right at the age were she was such a pleasure to take out and didnt have to worry about her crying etc When i had DS 9 weeks ago there was 3 surestart playgroups in my area which all worked together and over the 6 weeks they had something on every day, for 2/3 weeks i forced myself to go to at least 3 of them a week but then one day i decided to give it a miss, and then the next and now the 6 weeks holidays are over and there is no playgroups on for another month or so, and ive got myself back into my old habits. i hate the thought of going out on public transport as i dont drive, i havent been living in this area long so dont really know my way around etc Tomorrow is DS injections and the doctors is over the other side of the town and im already panicing about it.
I hate to think my kids are missing out, dont get me wrong my dd is a very happy and intelligent little girl, we spend all day playing and reading and singing and dancing but i know deep down im letting her miss out on things, I wake up with the best intentions of "we`ll go to the park" or "we`ll pop into town" but when the time comes i just back out
please tell me im not the only one who does this? i know im not a bad mum but this is making me feel im not being the best mum i could possibly be
thanks you for reading such a long post!

 

[stardust599]

How about starting slow hun? Maybe 3 a week was just too much for you?

Maybe promise yourself that twice a week you will go out. Even if it's just a stroll to the park for 30mins or a walk to the shop to buy the kids a treat.

Do you have a garden - you can always play out there?

What about shopping etc.?

The more you avoid going out the worse it'll get sweetie.

xx

 

[isabelsmummy]

i have a yard that is has a roof on, to double as a garage, and high walls, so it doesnt really feel like a garden. My husband works five and a half days a weeks so we do our shopping when he is off, and take the kids out together to the arcades or the park etc, and thats usually the only time the kids really go out, unless their grandparents take them for day.
I know you are totally right, ive seen for myself how it has got progressivly worse as the months have gone on ... i cant quite put my finger on what it is thats stopping me though!

 

[stardust599]

Do you have anyone who could go with you?

Maybe twice a week is even too much if you aren't really going out at all just now.

I would say go to the park once a week and promise yourself you'll do it for 6 weeks and then see where you are. I know it's hard but try to think of the things you are missing out on with Isabel - when you take her out look at her little face as she plays in the swings or runs around. Take the little one in a sling so you can round around and play with her. And think of how good the fresh air and exercise are for her. Go when the kids are at school so it's quiet and you don't have to see anyone if that makes it easier.

x

 

[Coleey]

I know exactly how you feel sweetheart.
I moved countries with my OH and I found it really hard, as I felt like I didn't fit in. I had no motivation to leave the house as I missed my home town, family and friends.
It's a lot better now, I'm hopefully starting work soon so I can meet new people. I'll miss my boy loads, but I need to do it for me and him!

It'll get better hun and easier, I promise!
If you need someone to rant to, I'm all ears xx

 

[chloeandbaby]

Hey huni,

I know exactly what you are going through! I live in a flat on the 3rd floor so have no garden which really gets me down especially when the weathers nice, my flat is cramped and a mess as it isnt really big enough for me, my husband and my lo, i just have no storage!! But anywayy... i dont drive either and atm we have no car as we were in a car accident.

The last few weeks iv been getting really down but this week iv decided im going to get my arse out the house, like tomorrow im walking to the shopping centre and meeting a friend for lunch with my lo, wednesday iv got another friend coming down to my flat with her lo to chill out with me, and friday iv arranged a catch up with a friend that i havent seen in a while. Im also going to have a look at what baby groups are around locally to me. Its so hard to get out the house, i know exactly where you are coming from but nobody will do it for you and you will feel way better for getting out! Or if there is a day like today for me im staying in but iv planned to watch a film this afternoon, wash the hubbys shirts for work and im going to cook a curry! Just simple little things help me get through the day and try not to look too far ahead as sometimes when i do that i think oh god iv got the whole week alone while hubby at work, just take things as they come

inbox me if you need to as im usually on here to chat!!

xxx

 

[isabelsmummy]

my mum was working every day of the week and she has just cut her hours by more than half so she can spend mroe time with us so i will speak her about all of this tomorrow, she is the one who is pushing me to get ut more so i know she would join me if we were to start going out. thank you for your advice i am going to try so hard x

 

[isabelsmummy]

its so nice to know im not alone, but not nice to think you are feeling like this too! i love sundays because thats the day my husband has off work, but it gets to tea time and im feeling down in the dumps thinking about the week ive got ahead. i LOVE my children with all my heart, and have considered going back to work (with dd i went back to work 3 days a week when she was just 3 months ) but unfortunatly i dont actually have a job to go back to as in a shop which has now closed, so will have to find a job that gives me the flexibility i want when caring for 2 children.
thanks everyone xxxx