Anyone doing FET/IVF in Jan 2013 till everyone's BFP (Everyone Welcome)

[time2deal]

MoBaby, just read your blog, and so sorry for your loss. So heartbreaking.

 

[MoBaby]

thanks for taking the time to read it! it helps getting words written down even if no one sees them

 

[Sandy83]

Cheers ladies. I know it gets us down from time to time - I think maybe I'll just have dinner and go to bed.

We will be doing ICSI, and it's too late for DH to do things for his sperm, as it takes three months to have any impact. Mind you, I still think he should - just in case we do have a chance in the future!

Sandy, sorry to pry, but are you using your husbands sperm? What has been the impact of the cancer treatment? 2010 is very recent too... it's so hard when you have to deal with all these things together.

Em - I had read around a bit and saw your story earlier today, and it sounded familiar. It's a hard thing when people freak out about the cancer, but in reality the thing getting me down more is the impact on fertility. I know that's probably a bit silly, but it something we have been so focused on the last few years, its scary to have the door closed so suddenly on it all.

It's early evening here, and very tempted to go to bed! Maybe I will.. nice and rested for back to work tomorrow.

You are not prying at all, we were able to freeze dh sperm prior to treatment and got the chance to freeze two lots so plenty for when we needed it like now. Dh had to have intense chemo and a stem cell transplant so side effects were a 95% chance of becoming sterile which we tested a year after treatment and this was the case so having to do icis with frozen sperm. They have said there is still a chance fertility might return but still uncertain. Our first cycle was unsuccessful but moving on to FET cycle this month so fingers crossed. Xx

 

[Em260]

Time - I know exactly what you mean. I was more upset about possibly not being able to have children than I was about the cancer too. I don't think it's silly to feel that way at all. We were already trying too when I found out about the cancer returning so maybe that is part of it. I think I've read something about L-carnitine and arginine being good for sperm. I have my DH on folic acid and CoQ10 along with me.

Mo - I really don't want to be around pregnant women either. We've had so many close friends and family announce pregnancies in the last month and I really can't bring myself to be around them. I felt pretty guilty about it but I've realized we need to do whatever makes us feel better right now and protect ourselves from more pain.

Ali - thank you, that was such a nice thing of you to write. I feel so lucky to have the support on this forum. Seriously don't know where I would be without this place!

 

[Mells54]

Time, Em, Sandy - I give you ladies so much credit. Dealing with cancer and fertility issues together must be very difficult. But to hear your positive thoughts makes me feel so much more positive about my own journey. Thank you for sharing your stories.

 

[Edamame]

Hello everyone,
I hope you don't mind my joining in! I have been trying to catch up with this thread and read everyone's stories, but wanted to introduce myself too- I'm starting Lupron shots tomorrow to get things going for my first FET, scheduled for February 7, after a chemical from my fresh transfer in October. I'm hoping this is a successful try and that we all have good luck!

 

[alicatt]

Hello everyone,
I hope you don't mind my joining in! I have been trying to catch up with this thread and read everyone's stories, but wanted to introduce myself too- I'm starting Lupron shots tomorrow to get things going for my first FET, scheduled for February 7, after a chemical from my fresh transfer in October. I'm hoping this is a successful try and that we all have good luck!

Welcome Edamame!

I was just reading your signature, so sorry your IVF didn't work. Hopefully your FET in a month will!

 

[MoBaby]

Hey Edamame....Glad to see you here (although I'm sorry you are here).....

I see your transfer if feb 7th.... The clinic can make it happen on a certain day for you?? I wonder if my clinic can do the same because I just looked at work schedule and so many people have already requested the time off work for when I was hoping to do it.... I will have to talk with my RE about the day and maybe he can control me so I can have it done when I can take time off work.

 

[alicatt]

Hey Edamame....Glad to see you here (although I'm sorry you are here).....

I see your transfer if feb 7th.... The clinic can make it happen on a certain day for you?? I wonder if my clinic can do the same because I just looked at work schedule and so many people have already requested the time off work for when I was hoping to do it.... I will have to talk with my RE about the day and maybe he can control me so I can have it done when I can take time off work.

Mo-yes They can control your cycle. I didn't get the whole story at my last appt, but will at my next one! The nurse mentioned lupron and BCP much like an IVF cycle. So I'm sure they can adjust your cycle to fit your timeframe. You just need to ask.

I want to know the pluses and minuses of doing controlled versus natural. I'm leaning towards doing a natural cycle if possible.

 

[Edamame]

Hey Edamame....Glad to see you here (although I'm sorry you are here).....

I see your transfer if feb 7th.... The clinic can make it happen on a certain day for you?? I wonder if my clinic can do the same because I just looked at work schedule and so many people have already requested the time off work for when I was hoping to do it.... I will have to talk with my RE about the day and maybe he can control me so I can have it done when I can take time off work.

Mo-yes They can control your cycle. I didn't get the whole story at my last appt, but will at my next one! The nurse mentioned lupron and BCP much like an IVF cycle. So I'm sure they can adjust your cycle to fit your timeframe. You just need to ask.

I want to know the pluses and minuses of doing controlled versus natural. I'm leaning towards doing a natural cycle if possible.

Hi Mobaby- I'm sorry that you're here too. I enjoyed the old thread but it was just too depressing to post there when it felt like nearly everyone had their BFP's (and babies!) and hardly anyone posted there anymore.

Yes, they can control the timing, it is pretty amazing! There are a couple of blood tests and one u/s ahead of time to make sure the lupron is working and the lining is building nicely, but if it all goes to plan it will be perfect on the day.

My doctor wanted to do a controlled cycle because my cycles are all over the place and the timing is so important, and also my estrogen levels were not great after my fresh transfer- this way I'll start delestrogen a couple of weeks before transfer, and progesterone the week before, and I can have a good base to build from. My transfer is actually 2/11, I put the wrong day!

 

[Sandy83]

Welcome Edamame

On the subject of FET i know my clinic prefer the medicated cycle as they can control it a lot better.

With this FET I called at the beginning of Dec when i received AF and was told to started Buserelin injections 6th Jan and to expect to get AF by the weekend. Once AF arrives i will call the clinic again and be told when to start Oestradiol and then i will be given a date for a scan and will have my transfer date confirmed at that appointment. Its been so much easier than a fresh cycle as a lot of it is just done over the phone and only need to have one appointment before transfer so hasn't interfered with work or anything a lot less stressful xx

 

[Boofle]

What clinic are you at sandy if you don't mind me asking?

 

[Sandy83]

I'm at Newcastle Fertility Clinic @ center of Life. xx

 

[MoBaby]

My clinic called what I did controlled but I didn't have transfer date until week before... They just gave me estrace and progesterone. No bcp or lupron... I'm going to ask though to see if we can plan it for late march/early April. have a good week ladies!

 

[Anxiously]

MoBaby my doc's going to put me on estrace and progesterone too...but he didn't consider that as controlled. Just giving me pills to aid in better ovulation and uterus lining. I'll still have to ovulate on my own.

 

[Anxiously]

Time, Em, I'm so sorry about what you are both going through Here's to a baby-successful 2013!

 

[Phantom710]

Welcome- Time So sorry about your diagnosis.

If I mentioned any of this in a prior post-- sorry. So on Friday I got the call to confirm transfer on Friday. Today I'm getting all the flight info as we fly out on Thursday. We are thawing two embies again So I'm praying they both take, but if only one does I know the parents will be thrilled.

Started progesterone yesterday and my steroid dose pack today.

I had some slight spotting yesterday, but it seems to have stopped, and they seemed to think it was okay, so trying not worry.

On that note.... on Friday they told my Uterus and Ovaries were looking "fantabulous" yes, that's what the nurse said. My lining was 13.5mm 1 week prior to transfer and all my blood levels are great. I am responding to meds so much better this round.

How are all of you?

 

[alicatt]

Welcome- Time So sorry about your diagnosis.

If I mentioned any of this in a prior post-- sorry. So on Friday I got the call to confirm transfer on Friday. Today I'm getting all the flight info as we fly out on Thursday. We are thawing two embies again So I'm praying they both take, but if only one does I know the parents will be thrilled.

Started progesterone yesterday and my steroid dose pack today.

I had some slight spotting yesterday, but it seems to have stopped, and they seemed to think it was okay, so trying not worry.

On that note.... on Friday they told my Uterus and Ovaries were looking "fantabulous" yes, that's what the nurse said. My lining was 13.5mm 1 week prior to transfer and all my blood levels are great. I am responding to meds so much better this round.

How are all of you?

That is great news! I hope it all goes well!

 

[Boofle]

Phantom that's great news - will be thinking of you Friday
Isn't there someone else having a transfer on Friday

 

[Phantom710]

I know boofle! I kept thinking and couldn't remember their name