Anyone doing FET/IVF in Jan 2013 till everyone's BFP (Everyone Welcome)

[MoBaby]

Em!! Yay for saving ovary!! Fx pathology is nothing serious

 

[WannabeeMum]

I've been silently reading posts on here for weeks. I'm in the dreaded 2ww and trying to stop myself from testing. This is my first IVF cycle. I did an antagonist cycle with egg retrieval done on 2/1. They retrieved 16 eggs, 15 matured, and only 4 fertilized with ICSI. I had my transfer done on 7/1 - one good looking 5 day blast that began to hatch. Nothing to freeze. I was hospitalized on 8/1 due to severe pain. Nothing was found, and now I'm pain-free. I'm looking for any and every sign to give me hope that I'll get a BFP. Are any others in your 2ww? How are you coping? Are you testing??? My blood test isn't until 18/1.

 

[everhopeful]

Wanna - hatching blast is the best you could ask for! The 2ww is awful but hopefully it will pass quickly for you!!
Glad the pain is over!
Xx

 

[FirstTry]

Lotus: To where in VA are you moving? I'm in the DC area and there are a few good clinics to choose from here.

Wanna: FX'd for you!!! I am an early tester (as shown in my siggy, got my BFP 5dp5dt). But it does suck when you get BFNs and you have to keep taking progesterone until your OTD. So, do what you think is best for your emotions.

AFM, I'm waiting for AF so we can do a fresh IVF cycle. In the meantime, I'm temping (BBT). Temps have been screwy, but FF says I ovulated 4 days ago. We've been bd'ing every other day. Hoping for a natural miracle this month But realistically, I know that's unlikely.

 

[Sandy83]

Welcome wanna hope your 2ww goes quickly for you. Sounds very promising so far

First, hope af arrives soon. We can always hope for that natural miracle fx'd for you

Phantom, Good luck for ET today

Hope everyone else is doing well. xxxx

 

[BabyD225]

I had some cramping on one side when I woke up from ER, so they gave me a heating pad and it went away. I never had to take anything for pain after the ER. I know it all seems very overwhelming, but take it one day at a time. It's really not so bad, especially when it ends in a beautiful BFP.

Thank you for everything.. it's so helpful, really.... how are you feeling?

I'm struggling. My husband had to leave the morning after we found out I will miscarry, so I've been alone. One moment I think I can rationally understand why this happened (maybe a chromosomal issue) and the next, I am just inconsolably sad and angry. I had shared the pregnancy news with friends who knew about our IVF cycle and when I told them what is happening, they didn't know what to say. I understand that because I wouldn't know what to say either, but it still sucks. The ones who have offered to hang out all have children, who they would bring along. One asked me yesterday if I wanted to come over and hang out with her and her sick baby. Yeah, no. The next asked if I want to keep our Friday lunch date, but now she intends to bring her sick 4 yr old. Right. Finally, the friend who I am having lunch with today is so busy with her newborn that I am getting lunch for the two of us and she's coming over with her baby. Awesome. I'm not sure why they don't realize how this is not helpful to me. If she's coming over to be with me and try to make me feel better, why do I have to pick up the damn food? To top it off, she is allergic to dogs (not her fault) but we have to eat/hang/talk outside which is fine except that my neighbor is the nosiest woman on the planet who doesn't hide the fact that she listens to my conversations. I can't even talk on the phone inside my house (with windows open, this is Hawaii) because she has responded to questions I've asked to others through my window! I didn't even know she was standing there!

On another note, the Dr said I could have some bacterial infection because I didn't take antibiotics, so the last thing I want to do is be around sick kids when I need to avoid being sick. I guess I'll take the antibiotics this time and take a chance of getting c. diff again.

I'm sorry for rambling. As I was writing I realized how frustrated I am... The only reason I am going along with the plans for lunch today is that otherwise I will spend the whole day on my couch again and that probably isn't the best choice. Now I just have to remember to breathe...and move on with my day.

I wanna sit and cry with you through this... People don't understand and that makes it so much worse for all of us. I have chosen not to tell my DH family that we are going through this because their questioning and speculating drives me insane...

Ramble away all you want, whenever you want... we're all here for you.. sending hugs through the chat....xo

 

[BabyD225]

Sorry to rant everyone...
But... my husbands cousin had her second baby yesterday, and although i couldn't be happier for her.. and she made me the godmother which is so wonderful, i've been crying so much... I feel so irrational and selfish for being upset for someone else's wonderful news, but i can't help how i feel.. My husband just doesn't understand how I can't compartmentalize the situations and be so excited for her without having my own anxieties. He said people try for years and then they get upset... we've been trying for under a year, it's not that bad.

To me its HORRIBLE.. especially when I think about it every day.. he just waits to see if I get AF. He said if i'm thinking about it everyday I'm being obsessive and should relax.. He's typically very sensitive and caring to this situation- especially because our issues are only because of MFI... but it doesn't help.. Im just down...

 

[LotusBlossom]

Lotus: To where in VA are you moving? I'm in the DC area and there are a few good clinics to choose from here.

Wanna: FX'd for you!!! I am an early tester (as shown in my siggy, got my BFP 5dp5dt). But it does suck when you get BFNs and you have to keep taking progesterone until your OTD. So, do what you think is best for your emotions.

AFM, I'm waiting for AF so we can do a fresh IVF cycle. In the meantime, I'm temping (BBT). Temps have been screwy, but FF says I ovulated 4 days ago. We've been bd'ing every other day. Hoping for a natural miracle this month But realistically, I know that's unlikely.

I'll be in VA Beach. It is a little scary to change Drs twice during my (fingers crossed) pregnancy. I just hope I get to have a full pregnancy this time.

Oh that would be wonderful if you could get a BFP without IVF. I have my fingers crossed for you!

 

[Mells54]

BabyD, I wish there were some magic words I could say to make you feel better. Just know that you are doing all you can to get your miracle baby. And if things don't work, at least you know you tried and will be ready to deal with moving on. It is during this stage of trying that makes it hard to compartmentalism. Women are more emotional then men (usually) and better at separating their feelings. Explain to him that you are happy, but that you are just looking for some empathy from him. Most of the time when I'm upset or rant I'm just looking for a little reassurance. I know DH can't promise we will have a baby, but I want to hear that we will get through this together and that it is ok to be sad.

We have all been there so don't feel alone in this. Hugs to you!

 

[Mells54]

Lotus: To where in VA are you moving? I'm in the DC area and there are a few good clinics to choose from here.

Wanna: FX'd for you!!! I am an early tester (as shown in my siggy, got my BFP 5dp5dt). But it does suck when you get BFNs and you have to keep taking progesterone until your OTD. So, do what you think is best for your emotions.

AFM, I'm waiting for AF so we can do a fresh IVF cycle. In the meantime, I'm temping (BBT). Temps have been screwy, but FF says I ovulated 4 days ago. We've been bd'ing every other day. Hoping for a natural miracle this month But realistically, I know that's unlikely.

I'll be in VA Beach. It is a little scary to change Drs twice during my (fingers crossed) pregnancy. I just hope I get to have a full pregnancy this time.

Oh that would be wonderful if you could get a BFP without IVF. I have my fingers crossed for you!

We lived in Hampton Roads and loved that area. Fx for your BFP!

 

[LotusBlossom]

Welcome, WannaBee! You've made it so far. Only a few days to go! I got my BFP at 6dp5dt, although it was faint and I recommend waiting an additional day or two if you plan to test early.

Thank you so much for the support, BabyD. I completely understand what you are feeling. It's frustrating to deal with this infertility journey every single day and unfortunately, it is hard for partners to understand since they aren't feeling every little cramp or twinge. They aren't peeing on sticks constantly. They aren't dreading needles and transvaginal ultrasounds. Let's be honest. They get off so easy in this journey. Whenever my husband acts like I am obsessing, I remind him that he isn't allowed to give me a hard time since I'm the one who has to deal with all the pain and discomfort. He seems to get it when I point that out.

It's hard to separate your feelings about infertility while you watch others get pregnant so easily. It's incredibly frustrating and unfair. I don't know how to help in that situation. I'm struggling with it myself. You are not alone, that's for sure.

 

[BabyD225]

Thanks for the support!!! Onward and upward for us all... VA Beach is a blast btw... have been there a bunch for summer weekend getaways.. Very pretty area and lots to do

 

[Edamame]

Welcome, WannaBee! You've made it so far. Only a few days to go! I got my BFP at 6dp5dt, although it was faint and I recommend waiting an additional day or two if you plan to test early.

Thank you so much for the support, BabyD. I completely understand what you are feeling. It's frustrating to deal with this infertility journey every single day and unfortunately, it is hard for partners to understand since they aren't feeling every little cramp or twinge. They aren't peeing on sticks constantly. They aren't dreading needles and transvaginal ultrasounds. Let's be honest. They get off so easy in this journey. Whenever my husband acts like I am obsessing, I remind him that he isn't allowed to give me a hard time since I'm the one who has to deal with all the pain and discomfort. He seems to get it when I point that out.

It's hard to separate your feelings about infertility while you watch others get pregnant so easily. It's incredibly frustrating and unfair. I don't know how to help in that situation. I'm struggling with it myself. You are not alone, that's for sure.

This might sound a little silly but my way of including dh in all the shots and procedures (which I stole from another B&B'er) is to make him do a set of 10 sit-ups or push-ups for every shot I have to take. Some days he had to do 40!

 

[BabyD225]

Welcome, WannaBee! You've made it so far. Only a few days to go! I got my BFP at 6dp5dt, although it was faint and I recommend waiting an additional day or two if you plan to test early.

Thank you so much for the support, BabyD. I completely understand what you are feeling. It's frustrating to deal with this infertility journey every single day and unfortunately, it is hard for partners to understand since they aren't feeling every little cramp or twinge. They aren't peeing on sticks constantly. They aren't dreading needles and transvaginal ultrasounds. Let's be honest. They get off so easy in this journey. Whenever my husband acts like I am obsessing, I remind him that he isn't allowed to give me a hard time since I'm the one who has to deal with all the pain and discomfort. He seems to get it when I point that out.

It's hard to separate your feelings about infertility while you watch others get pregnant so easily. It's incredibly frustrating and unfair. I don't know how to help in that situation. I'm struggling with it myself. You are not alone, that's for sure.

This might sound a little silly but my way of including dh in all the shots and procedures (which I stole from another B&B'er) is to make him do a set of 10 sit-ups or push-ups for every shot I have to take. Some days he had to do 40!

HAHAHA LOVE IT! My DH might laugh! But couldn't hurt!

 

[ttcbaby117]

Hi ladies....I would like to join if thats ok...I will be doing my first IVF cycle in March...but actually start in Feb. I love that idea about the injections......I will have to propose that one to my DH!

 

[alicatt]

Hi ladies....I would like to join if thats ok...I will be doing my first IVF cycle in March...but actually start in Feb. I love that idea about the injections......I will have to propose that one to my DH!

Hey TTC! WannaBee! Welcome! I'm glad you've joined us, I think you'll find this thread very helpful as IVF is way different than other methods, and having the support of people going through what you are going through (sometimes at the same time) really helps!

Welcome

 

[FirstTry]

Edamame: great idea!

 

[Mells54]

Welcome, WannaBee! You've made it so far. Only a few days to go! I got my BFP at 6dp5dt, although it was faint and I recommend waiting an additional day or two if you plan to test early.

Thank you so much for the support, BabyD. I completely understand what you are feeling. It's frustrating to deal with this infertility journey every single day and unfortunately, it is hard for partners to understand since they aren't feeling every little cramp or twinge. They aren't peeing on sticks constantly. They aren't dreading needles and transvaginal ultrasounds. Let's be honest. They get off so easy in this journey. Whenever my husband acts like I am obsessing, I remind him that he isn't allowed to give me a hard time since I'm the one who has to deal with all the pain and discomfort. He seems to get it when I point that out.

It's hard to separate your feelings about infertility while you watch others get pregnant so easily. It's incredibly frustrating and unfair. I don't know how to help in that situation. I'm struggling with it myself. You are not alone, that's for sure.

This might sound a little silly but my way of including dh in all the shots and procedures (which I stole from another B&B'er) is to make him do a set of 10 sit-ups or push-ups for every shot I have to take. Some days he had to do 40!

Awesome idea!

 

[BabyD225]

I just posted this in another thread.. so for those of you that I know from there please disregard!

I just got my medication/injections delivered... They are as follows:

Ganirelix acetate 250mcg/.5ml,
Gonal F 1050iu,
Menopur 75iu,
Crinone progesterone gel 8%,
HCG Shot,
Doxycycline 100mg for me and DH,
Medrol 8mg

Anyone use the Crinone gel before? I thought I was getting PIO but then these showed up....Any suggestions or experience with my protocol meds.. please explain! xo

 

[alicatt]

I just posted this in another thread.. so for those of you that I know from there please disregard!

I just got my medication/injections delivered... They are as follows:

Ganirelix acetate 250mcg/.5ml,
Gonal F 1050iu,
Menopur 75iu,
Crinone progesterone gel 8%,
HCG Shot,
Doxycycline 100mg for me and DH,
Medrol 8mg

Anyone use the Crinone gel before? I thought I was getting PIO but then these showed up....Any suggestions or experience with my protocol meds.. please explain! xo

First up: Gonal F and Menopur they promote lots of folllicles and make them grow (don't be surprised if your FS modifies the doses along the way, that is normal).
Next up, is ganirelix for when your follicles are getting close to being mature, to keep you from ovulating
Then the HCG shot to trigger ovulation
36 hours later they'll harvest the eggs
Take Doxy and Medrol for a few days, the doxy will make sure you don't get any infections from the ER (not sure why your DH would take it)?
Medrol helps with swelling after ER
Crinone is gross, but effective in making your progesterone levels in the normal range.

I'm not sure why DH needs to take the doxycycline other than perhaps to make sure he doesn't have any infections when he makes his deposit. I was using donor sperm so there was no need for any doxycyline for my DH!