Anyone doing FET/IVF in Jan 2013 till everyone's BFP (Everyone Welcome)

[Sandy83]

Ah Ann, i can't even begin to imagine how that must of felt. You are such a brave women to have made it through that and get to where you are today. When will your scan be are you getting one at 5 weeks, 7 weeks then move from the clinic to doctors mid wife for 12 week scan? xx

 

[annmc30]

My scan is at clinic on 25th Feb so Il b 7wks, I went to see my gp yesterday to tell her the good news and to refer me to midwife so Il get appointment between 8-10wks then another scan 12wks and Im going to ask to be seen more often after what happened last time

 

[Sandy83]

Don't blame you wanting to seen more often and sure you GP will make sure that happens.

The 25th will hopefully be the day i get my results xx

 

[Sandy83]

Good Luck for today L4 you will be PUPO after today! yay xx

 

[L4hope]

Sandy I'm so happy for you! Wonderful news to get the go ahead from your doctor and have a set date!!

Ann you most definitely are a brave and strong woman to go through what you have and still persevere to getting your baby!! I don't blame you for being nervous and wanting more scans. I would think that your doctor would want to monitor you more closely after what happened.

 

[L4hope]

Thanks Sandy, Only three more hours!!

 

[Sandy83]

3 hours WooHoo! L4 i hope this is the one for you! xx

 

[Boofle]

L4 you're next woohooooooo

 

[LotusBlossom]

I've been doing so well this cycle, but finally lost it yesterday.

Because my husband is in the military, there is a group that is supposed to support the spouses and provide "resiliency" activities. Well, I don't know about other groups, but our particular group is more like a sorority. It's ugly the way they exclude certain people and gossip about each other. I now stay away from them after seeing those behaviors. That said, the ladies who are involved in the group were very aware of a terrible situation my husband and I endured last year and they offered no support or even a phone call. It was frustrating for me because I see them offer help to those in less serious situations, but we were ignored. Then yesterday, my husband was asked to contribute to purchasing flowers for a couple who are experiencing "a devastating miscarriage", which we just experienced (and despite our efforts to keep it between us and close friends, everyone knows about). It just put me over the edge that once again, we are ignored and it feels like a slap in the face. This is something set up by the command, and I wanted to call someone and let them know how hurtful it is, but instead I just cried at dinner. This is one reason that I am looking forward to moving to the mainland. I will miss the island, but I won't miss the mean girls.

 

[time2deal]

Hi Ladies,

Sorry to have disappeared for a while, but hope everyone is doing well. Sounds like some exciting times. I can't work out who is where, but congrats Ann, and I am sure its a stressful time for you.
L4 are you getting a transfer today. Fingers crossed!

I've been off getting my first cancer operation. I had pelvic lymph nodes removed on Monday, and I'm still recovering. It's been tougher than I expected, and I'm still working on ensuring I keep my pain down. I'm also sooooo tired. I went for a walk today, about 1.5km, and I had to stop and have a sit down, and when we got there I was sweating like I'd been for a 10k high speed walk!!

I've never understood when people talk about being tired, but I get it now. I feel mostly ok, just tired.

Anyway, for those that remember me, I've started a blog! So I thought I would send you a link. Hopefully in a year or so's time it will include me transferring back one of my 9 little embryos. So, I'm still TTC... just on a much longer timetable.

https://alittlebitofcancer.wordpress.com/

Time

 

[Phantom710]

Sandy-- woo hoo!!

Sorry for the lack of personals, at work, but wanted to let everyone know...

It's TWINS!!!!! Details in siggy

 

[time2deal]

Wow Phantom! how exciting! The intended parents must be SOOO excited!

Congrats to you all.

 

[annmc30]

Congrats phantom its a great thing your doing a friend of mine is a surro her first pregnancy was twins x

 

[everhopeful]

Lotus - so sorry honey - you deserve the very same support that everyone else gets!!
Your move back to the mainland will be the fresh start that you need!!! New home, new baby(ies) new friends!!
Lots to look forward to!!
xx

 

[everhopeful]

phantom - amazing news!!!

 

[everhopeful]

time - thank you for sharing your blog - I'm honestly amazed that you have been walking that far already!!! Make sure you give your body time to heal!
I see that you are in London - we did have a lovely day for walking today though!
xx

 

[MoBaby]

Phantom!!! Yay!!! I'm secretly jealous of those that get twins b/c I can't carry twins yay!

 

[alicatt]

I've been doing so well this cycle, but finally lost it yesterday.

Because my husband is in the military, there is a group that is supposed to support the spouses and provide "resiliency" activities. Well, I don't know about other groups, but our particular group is more like a sorority. It's ugly the way they exclude certain people and gossip about each other. I now stay away from them after seeing those behaviors. That said, the ladies who are involved in the group were very aware of a terrible situation my husband and I endured last year and they offered no support or even a phone call. It was frustrating for me because I see them offer help to those in less serious situations, but we were ignored. Then yesterday, my husband was asked to contribute to purchasing flowers for a couple who are experiencing "a devastating miscarriage", which we just experienced (and despite our efforts to keep it between us and close friends, everyone knows about). It just put me over the edge that once again, we are ignored and it feels like a slap in the face. This is something set up by the command, and I wanted to call someone and let them know how hurtful it is, but instead I just cried at dinner. This is one reason that I am looking forward to moving to the mainland. I will miss the island, but I won't miss the mean girls.

So sorry that you are not getting the support that you deserve, but to then be expected to turn around and support others that are going through the same or similar thing is just callous. No wonder you want to leave! Don't let it get you down, we are here if only virtually for you, and feel our virtual IVF and TTC when you have problems is frustrating and fraught with ups and downs. Here is to an up period in your near future!

Have you figured out where on the mainland you are moving? I remember at one point you had mentioned FL, I'm in South FL, and have a pretty good FS, and I know that there are some good places in the Tampa area if you end up this way.

 

[alicatt]

Phantom - twins! WOW! You kind of figured that was the case, but now it is confirmed.

 

[LotusBlossom]

So sorry that you are not getting the support that you deserve, but to then be expected to turn around and support others that are going through the same or similar thing is just callous. No wonder you want to leave! Don't let it get you down, we are here if only virtually for you, and feel our virtual IVF and TTC when you have problems is frustrating and fraught with ups and downs. Here is to an up period in your near future!

Have you figured out where on the mainland you are moving? I remember at one point you had mentioned FL, I'm in South FL, and have a pretty good FS, and I know that there are some good places in the Tampa area if you end up this way.

Thank you so much, Ali. I'm usually pretty tough, but things are building up and I finally broke down. I wonder if the estradiol could be contributing to my emotional state right now, or if it's just too much. I think it's the latter this time...or a combo of the two.

I'm trying to look at this move and all the craziness as an adventure. Trying is the key word.

We are moving to VA Beach after all. We finally got orders in hand. I am going to stay with my in-laws in AZ for a bit and then join my husband in VA later. It's a bit complicated, but my in laws will be helping me with our two giant doggies because my DH will be busy.

Thank you for the support. I'm so glad I found this forum. This is a very tough time and friends don't get it. Plus, I feel like I'm always dumping my sad story on them, and that is too much to put on a friend who is not in the same boat. I'm trying to be productive today by packing and adding jewelry to my shop online. I sing my head off to Pandora while I work. It always makes me feel better.