Anyone else a secret TTCer?

[Tigerlicious]

*raises hand* We are keeping it a secret as well. My family are always battering me with questions about when we are having kids, luckily I have played the career card since I was 20 and am now 31 so can hide behind that.

I don't understand why people always ask that question, first it's you need to find a nice man and settle down, then it's so when are we hearing the patter of tiny feet...arg, so annoying.

 

[NotNic]

I'm a secret-ish one too! People might have guessed that we're considering in, but I have only told one person - the lady who does my facials! We got married fairly close to each other, and discussed coming off BCP and starting a family. She is now pg and told me at 8 weeks, and it would be odd for me to not to continue to confide in her too. No one else knows though, not even my pg best friend.

 

[Beccaboop]

We havent started trying yet but when we do we are going to keep it a secret because my husbands family dont want us to start a family yet as we have only been married 5 months (we have been together 8 years!!) and they think we are too young (we are both 25!!) we feel it's not their decision and we should do what we want with our lives so we arent going to tell them till I'm pregnant and then they can't try and talk us into waiting longer!!!

 

[1224family]

I was keeping it secret till apparently the word got out that someone "caught me" still don't know who purchasing tests at a local target. Knowing a lot of people dampers that... so if trying to keep secret order tests online lesson learned.

 

[MurphyTaylor]

You're not alone! We're keeping it secret from our families. My co-workers know and a couple of my cousins but our families keep telling us to wait... well, my co-workers do as well but it's different when your parents say it, isn't it?

 

[Marini_Mare]

only my hubby knows that I stopped taking my BCP I think its a little too personal to tell anyone, when we do get the BFP I'll let people know it was planned if they ask
we live 1500 miles from family/friends so new friends we met ask when (only if they have kids they ask lol) my DH just says "hopefully in 8 months"

 

[navygirl123]

You're so right. My hubby and I are in our early 20s, some say it's too young, and some say we need to start popping out some babies lol. The only person I've told we're ttc is my mom, but that's because I can't keep anything from her lol.

 

[beccad]

We've not told anyone. It's our business and no one else's!

 

[joeybrooks]

I'm keeping it a total secret too, I'd love to tell my mum, but that would put a lot of pressure on us with her waiting for the news etc, and as has been said, think how much of a surprise it will be when I tell people, with them not knowing we are even trying!

 

[karenlyn]

I'm keeping it a total secret too, I'd love to tell my mum, but that would put a lot of pressure on us with her waiting for the news etc, and as has been said, think how much of a surprise it will be when I tell people, with them not knowing we are even trying!

I know it might sound a little shallow, but this is a motivation for me to keep it quiet, too! I want the surprise factor. Not that it'll be a shocker anyway (I'm 29, work at home, and have been with my DH for 9 years, so it's about time), but I DO want it to be a surprise. If I called up my mom and told her I'm preg, and she said "Geez, about time... you've been trying for months!" I'd be seriously disappointed. I'm excited to surprise everybody with my news! Whenever it happens...

 

[EngineerGirl]

We're keeping it quiet too. So much so that I worry if people don't see me drinking in the 2WW they'll make assumptions, which all my friends totally do. But oh well!

We are having fun having TTC be a time for us, a thing we share with us (and my GP, who has probably promptly forgotten), and not a public thing. A few people know I quit the bcp, but I framed that as more being about how it affected me emotionally, which was true also.

 

[LovePurple]

Secretly going to start TTC, don't want the added pressure or anything from anyone! Want to have fun with it!

 

[Maidenet]

We are xx

 

[Twister]

I'm are secret ttcer to! Oh told his parents and I'm not sure if he told his brother or they did but I was not happy, I knew exactly what they were going to say and guess what? I was right, his brother gave us the whole "you should wait speach" in which I just nodded and agreed to because I didn't want the confrontation. And when he told his parents they told him we should see the world and all that stuff. We are still doing it anyway but it's just annoying that they know. He's very open with his parents and I'm quite the opposite, I feel like our privacy is being invaded, lol.

I'm definitely not telling my family, oh asked me when I'm going to tell them that we are trying and I was like "why do we need to tell people that we are trying? It's none of their business!". We are definitely keeping it quiet from now on.

 

[loveacupcake]

Only my two closet friends who recently have gotten pregnant/had a baby know. And only because I NEEDED to tell someone... so I could ask questions and vent to. Just don't want our families to stick their noses into this. Want it as our secret to eventually surprise everyone with.

 

[taylorxx]

We're keeping it a secret. NOBODY knows except OH.

 

[prepping]

We're keeping it secret-ish. Friends do not know but they all assume every time I turn down a drink that I am already pregnant.

My mum is really the only person that truly knows. I'm sure there are several people that assume but do not ask.

No matter what, I must hear pretty much every day from someone or another that I should get on it. It's like TTC is an open book that everyone feels privy to read and comment on. LoL

 

[TexasRider]

We are keeping it a secret too. I have told 2 friends of mine but they will not tell anyone. I'm already tired of hearing his mother ask me"Are you still on birth control?" I mean I just moved in with him! But we have been dating for 2 years so I guess it's time. Plus we aren't getting any younger.. Im 28 and he's 29. So hopefully it will not take too long and then we can let the cat out of the bag

 

[SunUp]

Wow, there are a quite a few of us.

Haha, I feel like we are in some secret club.

 

[welshgirl21]

I have told 3 close friends, 1 of which I work with who hasn't mentioned it since and 2 others who are the same so I'm happy they know but they don't talk or ask about it so I don't feel any preassure. I think OH may have told his best friend who was up on the weekend but he didn't tell me he had so I don't know for sure.