Anyone else alone for xmas?
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Over the years my family has gotten smaller & smaller! My mom has this tendancy to fight with people & then we lose whole groups of relatives at once. We used to go to my aunt's every year & it was a huge celebration with like 30+ people........... and then we started going to my dad's brother's house........... which was also a big celebration! But... my mom no longer "gets along" with either so that all stopped. And then my Grandfather passed away.
That just leaves:
My Mom (although as she is getting older she now says every year "I don't even feel like celebrating this year" -- she never seems to remember that she said the same thing the year before!)
My Dad (who has to work almost every holiday)
My Brother (who now spends holidays with his GFs family instead of us)
My OH (who i met after i had my son -- and also has to work alot on holidays)
Sounds depressing, huh?? Lol
Well, i decided after i had my son that as his mommy it is my job to make holidays as special as possible for him! I spent many holidays crying as a teenager bc it seemed all my friend's had huge families & so many wonderful things to do on the holidays!
Now, every year i do all sorts of Christmassy things with him! Luckily i met my OH now & that has been wonderful but even when it was just me & my son i was determined to create special magical memories for me & him! We do all sorts of community holiday events leading up to xmas: breakfast with Santa, train rides with Santa, holiday parties...... and we always get a tree, decorate it, decorate the house........ and have so many special traditions like an advent calendar, making cookies & leaving them out for Santa, wearing xmas pjs on xmas morning, eating monkey bread on xmas morning, watching the santa parade on TV on xmas day, playing with all his toys! We also started having xmas dinner at our house... rather than hearing my mom complain about "how hard it is" to cook xmas dinner. So........ i don't let that negativity drag us down........ we cook the meal & if my mom comes over to eat: great...... if my dad can make it: great...... if my brother stops by: great! And if not........ that's ok too!
Sometimes we need to just create our own special family memories......... and your LO will treasure those memories always!
Over the years my family has gotten smaller & smaller! My mom has this tendancy to fight with people & then we lose whole groups of relatives at once. We used to go to my aunt's every year & it was a huge celebration with like 30+ people........... and then we started going to my dad's brother's house........... which was also a big celebration! But... my mom no longer "gets along" with either so that all stopped. And then my Grandfather passed away.That just leaves:
My Mom (although as she is getting older she now says every year "I don't even feel like celebrating this year" -- she never seems to remember that she said the same thing the year before!)
My Dad (who has to work almost every holiday)
My Brother (who now spends holidays with his GFs family instead of us)
My OH (who i met after i had my son -- and also has to work alot on holidays)
Sounds depressing, huh?? Lol
Well, i decided after i had my son that as his mommy it is my job to make holidays as special as possible for him! I spent many holidays crying as a teenager bc it seemed all my friend's had huge families & so many wonderful things to do on the holidays!
Now, every year i do all sorts of Christmassy things with him! Luckily i met my OH now & that has been wonderful but even when it was just me & my son i was determined to create special magical memories for me & him! We do all sorts of community holiday events leading up to xmas: breakfast with Santa, train rides with Santa, holiday parties...... and we always get a tree, decorate it, decorate the house........ and have so many special traditions like an advent calendar, making cookies & leaving them out for Santa, wearing xmas pjs on xmas morning, eating monkey bread on xmas morning, watching the santa parade on TV on xmas day, playing with all his toys! We also started having xmas dinner at our house... rather than hearing my mom complain about "how hard it is" to cook xmas dinner. So........ i don't let that negativity drag us down........ we cook the meal & if my mom comes over to eat: great...... if my dad can make it: great...... if my brother stops by: great! And if not........ that's ok too!
Sometimes we need to just create our own special family memories......... and your LO will treasure those memories always!
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