Anyone else not pregnant before their due date?

[Trying4first1]

Hi ladies

I had my second loss in April and I am still currently TTC. My due date would have been in two weeks time and I'm feeling very down about it all as really thought I would be pregnant by then. Don't know why but just thought I would.
Me and DH have tried so hard each cycle, perfect timing with BD, extra vitimins, pre-seed, bum on pillow after BD. Nothing is working. I know it has only been 7 cycles since but I am feeling so fed up already and feel like it's never going to happen for us again. I feel so frustrated and angry.
I think my due date needs to come and go. This is the hardest month yet. AF still isn't here but I know she is coming and it's horrible accepting it cycle after cycle.
Anyone else feel this way or had a similar experience? Sorry for the vent but just need to let it all out X

 

[RachelLynda]

I was exactly in your situation last year. Lost my baby at 12 weeks which was due end of March 2014. March started.. I knew I'd be due AF around my due date and my due date came and so did AF the week before. I was heart broken. We were doing everything we could, timed sex, laid there for ages after sex, no oral sex etc. and nothing. A year after my loss and a got my BFP which is now my daughter. You will get there sweetie, may not seem like it but you will x

 

[LoraLoo]

I'm currently ttc- my goal is to get pregnant before my due date. I think it's natural to aim for that date and be dissapointed when it doesn't happen.

With my last baby, I conceived her on what would have been her brothers due date.

Really hope it happens for you soon, I know how frustrating it is

 

[Trying4first1]

Hi Rachel
Thank you for your reply. It's lovely to hear of other success stories after having a loss. I am also sorry that you whet through a loss but I am so pleased for you that you had a rainbow baby girl.
Maybe I need to look further into the future rather than thinking ' this could be the month?'. I guess what also makes it hard is not knowing if we are trying for all this time just to have a third miscarriage. I wouldn't mind waiting if it meant I will definatley be taking home my rainbow.
We will get there one day. It's just a stormy ride. I'm sure that the sunshine is in the distance 😊 X

 

[Trying4first1]

I'm currently ttc- my goal is to get pregnant before my due date. I think it's natural to aim for that date and be dissapointed when it doesn't happen.

With my last baby, I conceived her on what would have been her brothers due date.

Really hope it happens for you soon, I know how frustrating it is

Hi LoraLoo

I think you are right it's only natural. Maybe I should t be so hard on myself. It is disappointing when it doesn't happen but I guess once the date has come and gone things may get easier as there is no longer that pressure.

That's really lovely that your daughter was conceived on her brothers would have been due date. Was meant to be

 

[Trying4first1]

LoraLoo I have just spent some time reading your journal.
I am so sorry for all of your losses. Completely heartbreaking. I pray that you get your beautiful rainbow baby soon

 

[LoraLoo]

Thank you. And you too. Ttc after a loss is so stressful! Xx

 

[Trying4first1]

Thank you. Also I couldn't agree more. It definatley makes us stronger 💗 X

 

[beemeck]

Me! I still have a little time before my due date but it was Xmas which I think will make it extra tough if I'm still not pregnant then. Everyone here sounds just like us - perfect timing, all the tricks, even tests run by the docs saying all is okay but nothing. I remember when someone comforted me after the loss saying I would be pregnant again by due date and I scoffed at that thinking I better have a huge belly by then! How naive I was. But trying, that may be sound advice - stop looking at every month like this is it and look to a few months ahead as the goal?

 

[Mrs. Atole]

Hi
I understand how you feel, I had a mc at 10 weeks due date 3-17-15 I feel sad every time my sister talks about my nephew because he was born 3-19-15 my sister and I were preg same time.I have to be strong and know ill see my baby again. I love my sister and nephew and Iknow the hurt and sadness will be there but I have to move on. God bless

 

[Lost7]

Me! It was my due date last Tuesday. Still not pregnant.
I know how bad it feels. We've been TTC now 16 months, this is cycle #15.

 

[Trying4first1]

Me! I still have a little time before my due date but it was Xmas which I think will make it extra tough if I'm still not pregnant then. Everyone here sounds just like us - perfect timing, all the tricks, even tests run by the docs saying all is okay but nothing. I remember when someone comforted me after the loss saying I would be pregnant again by due date and I scoffed at that thinking I better have a huge belly by then! How naive I was. But trying, that may be sound advice - stop looking at every month like this is it and look to a few months ahead as the goal?

Hi beemeck
So sorry that you are also going through this. I thought the same as you. I expected to have a little belly by my due date and here I am with nothing to show for it. I guess I believed the stupid myth that you are more fertile after a MC. It's definatley had the opposite effect.
I actually like that advice. I read it in a book 😊 I'm now just thinking only 5 more cycles left, if it doesn't happen we can go testing. I'm now going to look ahead to then :flower;

 

[Trying4first1]

Hi
I understand how you feel, I had a mc at 10 weeks due date 3-17-15 I feel sad every time my sister talks about my nephew because he was born 3-19-15 my sister and I were preg same time.I have to be strong and know ill see my baby again. I love my sister and nephew and Iknow the hurt and sadness will be there but I have to move on. God bless

Hi Mrs Atole
So sorry for your loss too. I can imagine it must be so hard for you at times seeing your nephew grow, knowing your little one should be the same age. However as you say you have to move on. That's the thing with it all, we just have to do that. Praying you get your rainbow soon

 

[beemeck]

Me! I still have a little time before my due date but it was Xmas which I think will make it extra tough if I'm still not pregnant then. Everyone here sounds just like us - perfect timing, all the tricks, even tests run by the docs saying all is okay but nothing. I remember when someone comforted me after the loss saying I would be pregnant again by due date and I scoffed at that thinking I better have a huge belly by then! How naive I was. But trying, that may be sound advice - stop looking at every month like this is it and look to a few months ahead as the goal?

Hi beemeck
So sorry that you are also going through this. I thought the same as you. I expected to have a little belly by my due date and here I am with nothing to show for it. I guess I believed the stupid myth that you are more fertile after a MC. It's definatley had the opposite effect.
I actually like that advice. I read it in a book 😊 I'm now just thinking only 5 more cycles left, if it doesn't happen we can go testing. I'm now going to look ahead to then :flower;

I wrote in my journal today that I am going to start trying that perspective! It will prob be hard - every month I'm convinced this is it because we always time it perfectly (easy to do when you don't have any children!) But now I'm trying to look ahead to Dec. I totally believed that myth too, though it didn't matter much since I had gotten pregnant on our first go at it. So that's something I have going for me - I hadn't tried forever just to lose the baby.... I'll be thinking of you and sending you xx

 

[Trying4first1]

Me! It was my due date last Tuesday. Still not pregnant.
I know how bad it feels. We've been TTC now 16 months, this is cycle #15.

Hi lost7
So sorry that you are also going through this. It's the worst feeling isn't it. I see you have lost a lot of angels
I am now on month 15 going into month 16. It feels like forever.....

 

[Trying4first1]

Me! I still have a little time before my due date but it was Xmas which I think will make it extra tough if I'm still not pregnant then. Everyone here sounds just like us - perfect timing, all the tricks, even tests run by the docs saying all is okay but nothing. I remember when someone comforted me after the loss saying I would be pregnant again by due date and I scoffed at that thinking I better have a huge belly by then! How naive I was. But trying, that may be sound advice - stop looking at every month like this is it and look to a few months ahead as the goal?

Hi beemeck
So sorry that you are also going through this. I thought the same as you. I expected to have a little belly by my due date and here I am with nothing to show for it. I guess I believed the stupid myth that you are more fertile after a MC. It's definatley had the opposite effect.
I actually like that advice. I read it in a book 😊 I'm now just thinking only 5 more cycles left, if it doesn't happen we can go testing. I'm now going to look ahead to then :flower;

I wrote in my journal today that I am going to start trying that perspective! It will prob be hard - every month I'm convinced this is it because we always time it perfectly (easy to do when you don't have any children!) But now I'm trying to look ahead to Dec. I totally believed that myth too, though it didn't matter much since I had gotten pregnant on our first go at it. So that's something I have going for me - I hadn't tried forever just to lose the baby.... I'll be thinking of you and sending you xx

Aww Awesome 😊 I think it's a good way to look at things. I'm now thinking our BFP will be next year. Which is ok I guess as this year is almost done. Only two cycles left.
I feel the same every month then approx 8-9dpo comes round and I know I'm out. It's hard to accept and I cling on to hope thinking maybe I'm one of these special cases and nopeeee. Our timing is amazing, vitimins coming out of our ears, pre seed etc. There is nothing else we can do.
Even though you didn't try for long you still shouldnt have lost your baby. Whether it's a short or long time trying it hurts just as much I'm sure. We were lucky before. Only 4 months off BC I conceived my first Angel then conceived my second Angel 3 months later. Just really hope we can do it again.
Thank you and to you xx

 

[beemeck]

you sound just like us. timing, vitamins, tea, supplements, healthy lifestyle - you name it. I even got the stamp of fertility approval 2 weeks ago from my doctor. It's weird - I kind of wanted them to find something so we can treat and fix it, but nope nothing. so now it's just

and I totally feel the same way - overconfidence until about 10 DPO then BAM I know I'm out and the next ovulation feels decades away

 

[Lost7]

Me! It was my due date last Tuesday. Still not pregnant.
I know how bad it feels. We've been TTC now 16 months, this is cycle #15.

Hi lost7
So sorry that you are also going through this. It's the worst feeling isn't it. I see you have lost a lot of angels
I am now on month 15 going into month 16. It feels like forever.....

Yes it does!
We'll get there sweetie x

 

[thumpette]

It's so tough when significant dates pass without hope of a rainbow. I'm different in that I was overdue when I lost Max but I was determined firstly I'd have another baby by this Christmas, then determined I would by his birthday in January. Now it looks like those dates might pass without me even getting pregnant. Still hoping to be at least be his birthday because I don't know how I'll get through it if I'm not xxx

 

[aidensxmomma]

I understand how you feel.

I lost my youngest to SIDS 3 1/2 years ago. Her birthday is December 29 (although I lost her in April). I wanted to TTC around 6 months after the loss, but I wasn't able to due to various reasons. Every year that's passed so far I've kept myself going by saying "this year by Seraphina's birthday I'll be TTC or pregnant." It hasn't happened yet. And when we started TTC last December, I was hoping we'd get really lucky and I'd get pregnant before her birthday. It didn't happen. But then I kept telling myself that I'll definitely be pregnant before her fourth birthday (this year). As the year keeps going on, it's looking less and less likely. And it just makes it worse that I have gotten pregnant twice this year and lost both pregnancies early on. I'm trying very hard to keep hope, but sometimes it's difficult.