Anyone else not pregnant before their due date?

[Trying4first1]

you sound just like us. timing, vitamins, tea, supplements, healthy lifestyle - you name it. I even got the stamp of fertility approval 2 weeks ago from my doctor. It's weird - I kind of wanted them to find something so we can treat and fix it, but nope nothing. so now it's just

and I totally feel the same way - overconfidence until about 10 DPO then BAM I know I'm out and the next ovulation feels decades away

Yup. Honestly we have never been so healthy. I have also lost 20ibs in weight to date and am now a UK size 10. Never been in such good shape. Last time I feel pregnant I was a size 12-14 and wasn't eating healthy at all. Just doesn't seem right does it.

I started AF today but I know O is still a good two weeks or more away. So for the next 10-12 days I'm just going to relax

 

[Trying4first1]

Me! It was my due date last Tuesday. Still not pregnant.
I know how bad it feels. We've been TTC now 16 months, this is cycle #15.

Hi lost7
So sorry that you are also going through this. It's the worst feeling isn't it. I see you have lost a lot of angels
I am now on month 15 going into month 16. It feels like forever.....

Yes it does!
We'll get there sweetie x

We will
Just trying to look ahead now rather than cycle to cycle xx

 

[Trying4first1]

It's so tough when significant dates pass without hope of a rainbow. I'm different in that I was overdue when I lost Max but I was determined firstly I'd have another baby by this Christmas, then determined I would by his birthday in January. Now it looks like those dates might pass without me even getting pregnant. Still hoping to be at least be his birthday because I don't know how I'll get through it if I'm not xxx

Hi Thumpette
I remember us speaking before months ago. I remember reading about your gorgeous baby boy Max. I am so sorry that you are not yet pregnant, I pray that you will be very soon These key dates coming up definatley do not help as it puts on the pressure I find. My date is coming and going without a pregnancy, it's not nice at all but I want to try and turn it into a happy occasion. I suggested that me and DH maybe go out for the day or something. Distractions don't completely help but I find it can just a little. Will you be doing anything special for Maxs birthday? Xxx

 

[Trying4first1]

I understand how you feel.

I lost my youngest to SIDS 3 1/2 years ago. Her birthday is December 29 (although I lost her in April). I wanted to TTC around 6 months after the loss, but I wasn't able to due to various reasons. Every year that's passed so far I've kept myself going by saying "this year by Seraphina's birthday I'll be TTC or pregnant." It hasn't happened yet. And when we started TTC last December, I was hoping we'd get really lucky and I'd get pregnant before her birthday. It didn't happen. But then I kept telling myself that I'll definitely be pregnant before her fourth birthday (this year). As the year keeps going on, it's looking less and less likely. And it just makes it worse that I have gotten pregnant twice this year and lost both pregnancies early on. I'm trying very hard to keep hope, but sometimes it's difficult.

Hi aidensxmomma

I am so sorry for what you have been going through. It should never happen to anyone
Your baby girls name is beautiful never heard of that name before. Love it 😊
It's awful that you have also now been through two early losses too. I am hoping it is just a matter of time now for you as you can definalty conceive. It's just getting a sticky bean now
It is sometimes difficult to remain hopeful. Some days I feel like giving up, which in sure you do too. But I always find this inner strength. I have become so strong over everything and I am determined that no matter how low I feel some days nothing will get in the way of my dream of becoming a mum xx

 

[RachelLynda]

Yup. Honestly we have never been so healthy. I have also lost 20ibs in weight to date and am now a UK size 10. Never been in such good shape. Last time I feel pregnant I was a size 12-14 and wasn't eating healthy at all. Just doesn't seem right does it.

I started AF today but I know O is still a good two weeks or more away. So for the next 10-12 days I'm just going to relax

This was like me! I was a size 10 when I got pregnant the first time, ate anything without caring how healthy it was and I got pregnant, after my miscarriage I ate healthy, gain a little bit of weight (I'd lose quite a bit straight after my miscarriage due to depression) and nothing happened, it seems stupid, I tried and nothing happened. The only difference when I got pregnant the second time was I got a job outside so I wonder if my vit D was low

 

[Lost7]

Me! It was my due date last Tuesday. Still not pregnant.
I know how bad it feels. We've been TTC now 16 months, this is cycle #15.

Hi lost7
So sorry that you are also going through this. It's the worst feeling isn't it. I see you have lost a lot of angels
I am now on month 15 going into month 16. It feels like forever.....

Yes it does!
We'll get there sweetie x

We will
Just trying to look ahead now rather than cycle to cycle xx

Absolutely!

 

[Dollybird]

So sorry for all your losses ladies. Tryingfor1st I remember you from the miscarriage forum I think, our losses where around the same time. I had a mmc in April at 9+5. Was so sure id be preggo by now, my due date was 22nd November. Still got a month till then but I'm not hopeful. I've had a luteal phase defect since the misccarige which the doctor said is just down to the stress of ttc after a mc! Ironic really. Anyways we've been ttc since January and looks like this year will not be our year. But I'm trying to occupy my mind with other things- started the gym and been healthy eating. We extending our house too which is gonna Keep me busy so hopefully all of that will help xxx

 

[Lost7]

I have literally seen friends ''TTC'' and fall within the first 3 months, have babies, then fall pregnant AGAIN in these 15 months, Feel like banging my head against a wall!

 

[Trying4first1]

Yup. Honestly we have never been so healthy. I have also lost 20ibs in weight to date and am now a UK size 10. Never been in such good shape. Last time I feel pregnant I was a size 12-14 and wasn't eating healthy at all. Just doesn't seem right does it.

I started AF today but I know O is still a good two weeks or more away. So for the next 10-12 days I'm just going to relax

This was like me! I was a size 10 when I got pregnant the first time, ate anything without caring how healthy it was and I got pregnant, after my miscarriage I ate healthy, gain a little bit of weight (I'd lose quite a bit straight after my miscarriage due to depression) and nothing happened, it seems stupid, I tried and nothing happened. The only difference when I got pregnant the second time was I got a job outside so I wonder if my vit D was low

Hey

It's funny you say about the VIt D. I Read that women with low VIt D levels take longer to conceive and it can stop conception from being successful. I started taking Vit D3 supplements a couple of cycles ago. Thought it was worth a go. I am also taking omega 3 as that helps with EWCM

 

[Trying4first1]

So sorry for all your losses ladies. Tryingfor1st I remember you from the miscarriage forum I think, our losses where around the same time. I had a mmc in April at 9+5. Was so sure id be preggo by now, my due date was 22nd November. Still got a month till then but I'm not hopeful. I've had a luteal phase defect since the misccarige which the doctor said is just down to the stress of ttc after a mc! Ironic really. Anyways we've been ttc since January and looks like this year will not be our year. But I'm trying to occupy my mind with other things- started the gym and been healthy eating. We extending our house too which is gonna Keep me busy so hopefully all of that will help xxx

Hi Dollybird
Yes I remember you how have you been!? My rainbow was due in November the 7th, so not much before yours was due. It's horrible not being pregant, not even a tiny bit. Like you I really thought I would be as its never taken me long before. I guess a MC can mess up our bodies more than we think.
How long is your LP now? Mine is now 11 days. It was 13 for ages after my MC now it has got shorter. Getting worried as before my MC it was only 10 days. Typical I don't fall pregant all the time my luteal phase is decent.
Did you miscarry naturally or have a D&C? Xx

 

[Dollybird]

So sorry for all your losses ladies. Tryingfor1st I remember you from the miscarriage forum I think, our losses where around the same time. I had a mmc in April at 9+5. Was so sure id be preggo by now, my due date was 22nd November. Still got a month till then but I'm not hopeful. I've had a luteal phase defect since the misccarige which the doctor said is just down to the stress of ttc after a mc! Ironic really. Anyways we've been ttc since January and looks like this year will not be our year. But I'm trying to occupy my mind with other things- started the gym and been healthy eating. We extending our house too which is gonna Keep me busy so hopefully all of that will help xxx

Hi Dollybird
Yes I remember you how have you been!? My rainbow was due in November the 7th, so not much before yours was due. It's horrible not being pregant, not even a tiny bit. Like you I really thought I would be as its never taken me long before. I guess a MC can mess up our bodies more than we think.
How long is your LP now? Mine is now 11 days. It was 13 for ages after my MC now it has got shorter. Getting worried as before my MC it was only 10 days. Typical I don't fall pregant all the time my luteal phase is decent.
Did you miscarry naturally or have a D&C? Xx

I'm doing ok now but was surprised at how hard it hit me. I'd had an ectopic before but I felt like this hit me much harder. I still have days I cry about it tbh. My last luteal phase was 10 days which is much better as after the mc it was between 6-7 days. prior to my mc it was always around 12-14days. I had a d&c in the end as nothing had happened naturally. I'm glad in a way as I think I would've found having to go through it at home really hard.
Anyways, I think I'm cd24 but I have no clue if I've ovulated or not yet. I ran out of opks at the beginning of the month so not been keeping track. Think I have though as I had fertile signs and now have the usual breast tenderness I get post O so I reckon I'm back in the tww. Just got offered a new job on Monday so would be typical if I fall preggo this cycle then have to explain it to my new boss! Lol. Xxx

 

[Trying4first1]

Ohhh Dollybird in not surprised I actually think that a second loss can be harder as you don't think it will happen again. I was convinced I would be ok second time round, but nope. Absolutely devastated. I still feel sad at times but I am more at peace with it now. I think the bfn each cycle since is harder as the months pass by. But I am now trying to look further ahead rather than thinking of 'is this going to be our month'. I have given up on getting a BFP this year. Hoping 2016 is our year as 2014-15 has been horrid.
A 10 day luteal phase sounds much better mine only used to be that and I fell pregnant twice in 7 months so can't be all that bad. I am now struggling to get pregnant now my LP is a bit longer
Sounds like you are def in the tww now. When would your AF be due!? I'm only on CD5 so nothing going on here. My fertile window should start a week from today so I'm enjoying the rest

 

[Dollybird]

Will all depend on how long this luteal phase decides to last! Period tracker has me down for af on the 9th novmeber. I have no self control though so prove start testing on Monday or something. Really feel lost this month I've just no clue if/when I ovulated. I actually feel like af is coming already but could all be in my head! Xxx

 

[beemeck]

anyone else here feel like something has been taken from them (obviously we all feel that) but that you are trying to get it back? I know I lost that baby and the next one will be a different baby (sadly) but I can't seem to shake the feeling of just reclaiming what's mine if that makes sense. I just feel like something was stolen from me and I won't be at peace until I have it back....

I will be testing tomorrow at 11 DPO due to halloween parties all weekend. If this isn't my cycle, I'll have one more try before the due date.

thinking of all of you ladies and sending dust!!!

 

[Trying4first1]

Will all depend on how long this luteal phase decides to last! Period tracker has me down for af on the 9th novmeber. I have no self control though so prove start testing on Monday or something. Really feel lost this month I've just no clue if/when I ovulated. I actually feel like af is coming already but could all be in my head! Xxx

Dolly I feel for you. Very confusing for you right now. Let's hope that at the very least your LP sorts itself out this cycle. Haha you sound like me with the testing. Although I was very controlled last cycle. I have a ton of ICs here however haha xx

 

[Trying4first1]

anyone else here feel like something has been taken from them (obviously we all feel that) but that you are trying to get it back? I know I lost that baby and the next one will be a different baby (sadly) but I can't seem to shake the feeling of just reclaiming what's mine if that makes sense. I just feel like something was stolen from me and I won't be at peace until I have it back....

I will be testing tomorrow at 11 DPO due to halloween parties all weekend. If this isn't my cycle, I'll have one more try before the due date.

thinking of all of you ladies and sending dust!!!

Hey beemeck
I know exactly how you feel as I feel the same. I feel robbed and cheated. I was ok for my first loss as I was only just over 5 weeks, I accepted it. But when I lost the second too (found out at 7 weeks, D and C at 9weeks) I felt like my world fell apart. I am also thinking I am going to loose the next one too. I feel that something isn't right but docs won't help until I have lost 3. The fact it's taking ages to fall pregnant again is making it worse as I feel that if I can't carry a baby then I am having to wait all this time just to loose another. Would rather I fell pregnant and just got it over with.
But like you I feel like I am trying to get something back and I can't fully rest until I have it.

Hoping you fall PG before your due date. I'm ovulating by my due due date. BDing that weekend will be very hard for us xx

 

[thumpette]

I feel like that too. I want to be pregnant more than anything but if I'm honest I want to be 40 weeks and waiting to pop again. I was at the finish line, I feel cheated out of Max but I also feel cheated out of my reward for spending so long trying to concieve him and getting through the pregnancy. The sense of injustice is terrible.

 

[beemeck]

yes, thumpette. sometimes I feel like I focus on that too much - like all of the time. The "fairness" part of it - total sense of injustice. I really do believe that I will turn into my normal self again once I get my second chance. My therapist thinks I might be mistaken on this, but I dunno, I really think that can solve so much of what I'm feeling now....

BFN this AM so this coming cycle is my last chance for a BFP before my due date.

always thinking of you ladies

 

[Trying4first1]

I feel like that too. I want to be pregnant more than anything but if I'm honest I want to be 40 weeks and waiting to pop again. I was at the finish line, I feel cheated out of Max but I also feel cheated out of my reward for spending so long trying to concieve him and getting through the pregnancy. The sense of injustice is terrible.

I can see why you feel cheated Thumpette. The fact that you tried so hard to conceive (which is hard to deal with) and you were at the finish line is just not fair at all. I too would love to fast forward to being 40 weeks, that would be amazing. I honestly hope that you soon have a rainbow brother or sister for Max
I hope that others who conceive quickly and have the joy of their babies really appreciate what they have. It is such a miracle and a blessing. One day we will all be blessed too Xx

 

[Trying4first1]

Well tomorrow was my EDD. So far feeling OK about it. I got my positive OPK today so looks like I will be ovulating tomorrow, which is earlier than normal. Thanks body for giving me this pressure. Grrrrrrrr. Typical huh