Anyone else not want anymore kids when you only have one??

[ethan amelia]

i feel like im the only one!! seen loads of threads about TTC after having baby and cant wait to have another...............
Im the complete opposite! i dont want another EVER!!

I love my daughter so much, shes a very mellow baby so not had a really hard time with her just want an easy life.

Do you think children need a brother or sister so they learn to share and play with other children??

 

[LankyDoodle]

As you can see from my ticker, I wanted another quite soon. I had a really traumatic labour (although the birth was beautiful) and I wanted to do it again as soon as I had her. However in JUST the last 2-3 days I've started to think maybe I'd like a break from babies for a couple of years. I'm 27 in October so have plenty of time. We wanted 2 then just as I got pregnant nd throughout pregnancy, we said we'd have one so we can provide her with a great life, send her to private school etc. Now I just don't know.

The people I know with 2 chn, seem quite frazzled (but happy). I don't know if I want to give up enough of my life for 2 chn. My husband is an only child as his older brother died just after birth; he says he liked being an only. I am one of 3 and would have liked a sister (got 2 brothers), but only because I was jealous of my 2 brothers' relationships with each other. I think only chn have more friends round to stay!

 

[Neferet]

I don't want another baby either!
I don't think children need siblings to play with and stuff, as long as they have friends. I was an only child until I was 16 and I was quite happy. =]

 

[Seity]

I most definitely do not want another one. I see all these ladies wanting another right away and I just can't comprehend the madness. LOL - I mean good for them, but hell no for me. I was one of five and my husband was an only child. I don't feel like he needs a sibling.

 

[Nic1107]

Right now, I don't think I want another! I had planned on having several, and my hubby has always wanted a really big family (he's one of 8)- but after having Carmen, I can't imagine having another. It's not that I don't like being a mother- I love it- or that I couldn't do it again physically/mentally, it's just that right now I feel like she is enough, ykwim?

 

[ethan amelia]

Its mixed feelings for me.I loved being pregnant and even enjoyed childbirth and i love being a mum but i would love to just focus my attention on one child and do a good job at raising her to be a lovely woman.

I plan for Isabelle to go to nursery so i guess she will interact with lots of other children there and she has cousins who she will see regularly.

 

[Jolinar]

I keep swinging between the two, one day i'll want another and the next I won't. I'm an only child and would have loved a sibling, but then DH has two sisters and hated them when he was growing up. Tough one really.

 

[EMYJC]

Im with you. Happy with Lucas, my mum was an only child and is happy and sociable. I may change my mind in a couple of years but I am 31 already so will have to decide fairly quick. I like the idea more of Lucas as a toddler and having a little bit of a life back to be honest. I wasnt a massive fan of the newborn stage or pregnancy. I love his age now hes interacting and laughing etc. x

 

[Aunty E]

Hmm, all my friends who are only children are a bit 'odd'. I've always thought a sibling was important, but being one of five, was absolutely resolute that big families were no fun as a general rule. We'll be stopping at two, certainly for now. I quite like split families too, but it doesn't really seem fair to not give a child at least one sibling close in age. That's just me though, and there are plenty of times when I think how much easier (and cheaper) it would be just to have one.

 

[lisa9999]

I dont want another one, and my mother is already driving me insane telling me that 'its not fair on Sophie for her to be an only one' !!!! Her theory is - wait for it - that when I'm old and infirm, all the responsibility to look after me will be on her. Bizarre way of thinking if you ask me.
I know plenty of ppl who are only children and they are just fine.

I was asking a friend of mine who is, and she said she used to wish she had an older brother - only in case he had any fit mates, and for no other reason!! Lol

 

[CocoaOne]

I've ALWAYS said that only children are weird (all the ones I know are anyway) but I don't think I will have any more. Pretty sure we couldn't afford the extra childcare and we live in a 2 bedroom house and can't afford a bigger house (unless we move to a crappy area!) I've got friends that have had a total of 4 babies this year, and M's got 3 cousins who are a year older than her - so I'm not worried about the social aspect (plus she'll go to nursery)

 

[Tacey]

I'm an only one and it has made me adamant that Alice will have at least 1 sibling, but there's no hard and fast rule. My DH is one of 4 and I have pangs of jealousy that he has people to discuss his childhood with and I don't, but that could just be me! I was constantly told that only children are weird or spoilt, but I think that's more to do with parenting than whether or not you have siblings. You've just got to do what you think is best!

 

[mrsthomas623]

ME! No major reason, just feel so content with LO and I feel complete. I know this may change in the next for years, but as of now I feel like we are done. Do not feel guilty at all about this choice and neither should anyone else.

I do like the fact that I can give him all my attention and spoil the crap out of him!

 

[Mrs Dot]

I've been thinking the same thing recently, although me and dh have discussed having another baby in the future, possibly when H is 4 we thought. But tbh it really wouldn't bother me at all. I love piling all my attention on him alone and doing the best job in the world for him on his own. I think children can be just as sociable and happy if they are an only child as children with siblings, so long as they are brought up around other children

 

[Eternal]

i was an only child, i kinda wish i did have a sibbling but i know i got spoilt far more than i would of it there were more children.

I want more but i dont think its cruel to be an only child, there are advantages and disadvanatges to both, do what you feel is right for you!

 

[babybel]

I never wanted another baby after my first child either but after 5 years that changed Hence the big gap. Ds was an only child (obv lol) until Elle was born and never had a problem sharing, playing with other children etc.

xx

 

[Lena]

Before having Nathan, I thought i wanted 2 children at least... now that he's here and sooooooo much work DH have decided hes going to be an only child. Everyone says we'll change our minds but Im sure we won't. Being a parent is so much more overwhelming and so much harder than i thought possible.

 

[dani_tinks]

We don't want anymore children. Ones enough for us hehe

 

[welshwarriors]

I'm an only child and loved it....until moving to the UK from Germany and falling pregnant I was detemind that I wanted just 1 and that was enough for me. Now that I'm having Joe I have to say I want another one. He's such a fab baby and due to us maybe moving around a lot (hubby is in the army) Joe properly won't be able to make many friends...or at least not friends for life, so it might be nice for him to have a bro or sis to play with.

 

[Sekhmet]

I have never intended to have another. Although I enjoyed my pregnancy so much, and Lily is so much fun, that sometimes I wonder - but I still don't think we will. I don't feel at all guilty... I think it's silly when people suggest that you somehow 'owe' your child a sibling. I do think it's good to make an extra effort to socialize an only child, and to make sure they learn to share properly, as otherwise it's easier for them to become spoiled and selfish than it would be for a child who always has to share and take turns with a sibling. On the flip side, I think we may have a closer relationship with her than we would with multiple children, as we are her primary companions during her early years.