Anyone else not want anymore kids when you only have one??

[Helabela]

me! 100% just want to one. Shes an absolute darling and i love her to bits but shes hasnt been the easiest of babys, hasnt had the easiest start and we both had a difficult time in the labour. Me & hubby decided before she was born that we would just have the one so we coupld provie for her better and she has a cousin whos exactly a year older and i hope they will grow up together and be close, i dont see the need for her to have a sibling. I know a few people who were brought up without borthers/sisters and they say they were lonely at times but they didnt feel like they missed out on too much. I just dont think i can put myself through being pregnant and giving birth again, it might be selfish but i know its for the best. We are both happy with just one

 

[Lara310809]

some days I want another, and other days I really don't. This week, I really don't I guess I have good weeks and bad weeks with LO, and I had a bad day on Tuesday; and days like that make me wonder why anyone would have another. I feel terrible saying it, because LO isn't misbehaving, she's just being a normal baby, but sometimes I have no idea how to deal with it, and I feel like I can't cope. Perhaps when she's a bit older I will think differently. In the long run I do want 2 kids, but when I'm in it, one is more than enough

 

[twiggy56]

This subject has bothered me since abigail was born....

Some days I really do and some days I really dont?! I LOVED pregnancy and I LOVED giving birth but im just not sure I want another baby? I guess im scared if I have another one i'l be looking forward more to the pregnancy and birth bit more than actually the thought of another little person in our lives?!

 

[aob1013]

I don't want another child, period. x

 

[littleone2010]

Same here, I always said I wanted at least 2 children, but now Ilara is here its so much more difficult than I ever thought and like another lady said, shes just being an average baby and I have still found it hard.
When we have good weeks Im like "whens the next one?" and when theres a bad one (like this one) I am like "never again!!" im pretty sure DH is not interested in another for now, so we will just carry on and see where we are in a year or so (if i did have another I dont want a big age gap- just personal preference) its hard isnt it? xxx

 

[Babynumber1]

I want 3-4 babies and i`m 27 now with a 4 month old xx

 

[ethan amelia]

im the same. on a good day i think id have loads more and on bad days i think NEVER again and like someone else said shes just being a baby, not even that difficult. I have discovered that im not very patient and my need for perfection really bothers me as i cant control everything anymore ( im ultra organized).
I suppose i may change my mind in time but we would also need IVF next time round so not sure whether that puts me off too.

 

[sophxx]

i dont want anyone before i had issy i did but i didnt like being pregnant it made me anixious ive got a fab baby never crys but i just dont ever want any more! x

 

[nightkd]

We were planning on TTC 6-12 months after Evelyn was born...but now...I'm not sure. I told DH I'm now comfortable considering having a second child in 4 years...but we'll see how it goes. My labour didn't go incredibly smoothly and certainly not to plan, but I'd do it again...it's just having another newborn to deal with...I can't wait until Evelyn is a bit older!! Nor can DH!

I was an only child, DH has 2 siblings...one older sister, one younger brother... I would have liked a sibling and I think it would be nice for Evelyn to have one or two... but we also have to take into consideration our happiness/sanity

 

[Jetters]

I am so, so torn at the moment.

I always said I wanted two, and as close in age as possible- BUT my pregnancy has been so awful the thought of ever doing this again really makes me feel sick. Everyone says that will fade and i'll forget how bad it's been, but I don't want to forget- as much as i'd love two babies I keep thinking I should love myself more, and not do it to myself again

 

[leelee]

I actually don't know any only children. I was racking my brains but all my friends are from a family of 3 or 4. I am Irish though lol, so bigger families!

I definitely want 2 children but I am not sure when I want to have the next one. Because I only want two I want to savour the next pregnancy and the really young baby stage. Also, I love devoting all my time and energy to Max and don't want him to have to share me just yet.

I think whatever works best for the family is the way to go. I want 2 because I am 1 of 3 children and have a very close relationship with my sister. I want Max to experience that and hope he will be close to any future sibling.

 

[Kte]

I grew up thinking I wanted a couple of children but now I am quite happy and there are certainly no plans anytime soon for another LO. I would be quite happy if it was just her and I don't think she would miss out on siblings, she is quite a social baby at nursery. You can never guarantee your going to get on with your siblings either, I have one I love and the other, lets not go there

I don't know if I would change my mind in the future but there are no plans of WTT or anything. Just happy as us. The thought of going through it all again scares the hell out of me even though I love my little girl and she is totally worth it - I just think I was in ignorant bliss the first time round with my pregnancy and now I know too much I would worry more!

 

[Scampie]

I had DS1 9 years ago and said no more. I was positive! But here i am

 

[cymrucath]

We are not having another. We are so adamant hubby is having the snip on the 3rd August! So there's definitely no going back for us. I feel that you need to live your life and not worry about anyone else's so do what is right for you!
We agonised over our decision, was it fair on Megan etc but you know what, we only have so much money and a little house and we want to be able to give Megan absolutely all we have not least ALL of our love and attention. Yes some people may say that they become brats if they are an only child but I am an only child and like to think that I am fairly well adjusted and I certainly was not spoiled with material things. What I did have however was an overwhelming amount of love and attention from both mum and dad and far from making me a brat it made me feel like I could take on the world because I always had the 2 most important people in my life on my side! I only hope Megan feels that from us!

 

[Raggydoll]

I always wanted to have 2 children but after having Kate I had such a terrible time with PND. I love my daughter so much and wouldn't change a thing because I get to be her mummy but I'm scared if I had another I would go through the same thing again.
Kate hasn't been affected by what we've been through thankfully but if she was older she would.

 

[CocoaOne]

. What I did have however was an overwhelming amount of love and attention from both mum and dad and far from making me a brat it made me feel like I could take on the world because I always had the 2 most important people in my life on my side! I only hope Megan feels that from us!

That's lovely!

 

[loulou10]

i had my dd 10 years ago had a terrible long labour etc etc still haunts me now said never will i have any more childern then last july fell pregnant was scared all the way through my pregnancy cryed everyday 4 9 months thinking i was going to die during child birth anyway back to the point im so glad i decided to have another one even though theres 10 years apart they both love each other so much and i wouldnt change it for the world ecen though it nrver done my 10 year olg being an only child 4 that long i do believe they should have a brother or sister for love and support when there older and we are no longer hear and im talking from experience as my brother has been a great support through the tough times.x

 

[aliss]

I always wanted 3 or 4, but the newborn stage has been so difficult I don't know what to think The worst part is that OH still wants that many. I don't know, time will tell.

 

[kiwimama]

I personally want more children and will be ttc soon but you're definately not the only one who only wants one. There are plenty of only children out there. I do think you need to be more proactive in making sure you don't overly spoil them but other than that I don't think there is anything wrong with having only one child.

 

[MrsGlitz]

We always said 2 or 3. Now... I don't know. I didn't enjoy pregnancy, I loved labour but ended up with an emergency section due to failure to progress. I don't think I can go through another difficult pregnancy with having a baby/toddler to care for at the same time. I struggled with all aspects of pregnancy, the physical adjusting of my body and severe SPD and I struggled emotionally.

I enjoy being a mummy but I don't like the thought that I wouldn't be able to give another newborn the same attention as Harry.
Apparently I will change my mind; we'll see!