Anyone else's baby not like being fed from Mum?

[Amber4]

So does anyone else's babies not like you bottle feeding them and prefer Dad? This is becoming such a problem now as I'm struggling to get her to drink off me when were home alone all day. OH will usually feed her in the morning before he goes out for the day, but she's been waking up later recently and he's not had much time. So this morning he managed to feed her half a bottle and then I had to take over so she screamed so much and refused to feed. It took about 10 minutes for her to stop and then she finally took it. So next feed she wouldn't feed much and this will continue all day - like 2oz where OH can get her to take 5oz. Luckily OH gets home for her bed time bottle as that has to be OH who feeds her. The other night he was out she wouldn't let me feed her and she screamed so much she threw up twice. I've now started to wake her about 11:30pm to get a bit more milk into her and she will drink it fine off me but only because she's practically asleep still...

Any ideas how to help? Thanks xx

 

[OmarsMum]

Do you hold her to feed? Try to feed her lying down on a pillow to elevate her upper body with no distractions in a dark room & see how it goes. xx

 

[.rollinn.]

I have this problem i've been sitting him in his swing and propping a bottle to him or laying him on my pillow as i feed him. I can't hold him most days because he trys to escape from my arms and it started becoming a huge hassle. My SO can control him though,i think they like to get over on their mommies!!

 

[Amber4]

Yeah I hold her. I'll try the pillow idea again though, thank you. I'll try shutting the blinds over and I always turn tv off. Distractions make it even worse! We used to use a pillow when she was younger but wasn't successful! I've also tried sitting her in bouncer chair, bumbo, pram and high chair and doesn't work So frustrating when they won't feed from you but happily will from others

 

[Lollycake]

I BF so obv don't have quite this problem, however, could it be less of a thing about you and more of a daytime distraction thing? My LO struggles with feeding during the day cos he would rather be playing/climbing over me/looking around/anything else...however at night he will have a good feed, and, (to my, ahem, delight) he has started waking at 4/5am to feed for almost an hour! Perhaps try feeding in a darkened quiet room or something?

 

[Amber4]

But if it was OH feeding her she'd quite happily have the feed? Which she does when he's home. I know she is far more interested in playing now but that doesn't explain why she won't eat well for me. iykwim?

 

[OmarsMum]

But if it was OH feeding her she'd quite happily have the feed? Which she does when he's home. I know she is far more interested in playing now but that doesn't explain why she won't eat well for me. iykwim?

She can feel your stress, this is why I think she feeds better with your OH. Omar used to feed better with my mum, but he was so fussy with me as I was obsessed about the amounts he's taking. He was so fussy with milk & he was suffering from reflux so feeding was so frustrating & stressful for me xx

 

[Amber4]

Oh that is defo true. Brooke doesn't weigh a lot (11lb 7oz) and she's been referred to hospital once and I was told I needed to feed her more (which wasn't that simple) but it has put so much pressure on us! Especially as were being referee back again at the minute. We also suffered with colic and reflux but we weaned earlier and that's really eased it. Tonight I fed her a night bottle and she cried a lot but she had all 5oz in the end (with no sick!) and I let her go to OH afterwards for cuddles and a nappy change. I'm not sure if that's gonna help if we continue it? It's just he's taking up a night college course 2 days a week, and I really need things to get easier xx