anyone had kids by 2 diff men now single?

[Terri1985]

Hi, i was told to come over here by a few single pregnant ladies when they read my story in third tri.
I had two kids with my ex husband and now I am pregnant by a man who I was with for 2yrs. Everything was fine in our relationship til last thursday (a week ago) when he yelled at me and told me to get out the house, as he needed a break for a few days. Sunday came and he txt me to say it's over, I haven't heard from him since, he wont talk to me and has blocked me on msn and facebook. We had never even argued before so i just dont understand what happened and I cant get over him, i still love him. I had to talk to his dad to arrange to collect all mine, the kids and baby's things.
I am now almost 31 weeks pregnant and I dont know how I am going to cope with three children on my own, my ex husband nor ex partner want to know their kids.
I have lost 9 and a half pounds in 7days as I cant eat and I cant sleep.

Is anyone else going through the same thing or been through it before? I just feel so alone and helpless

 

[precious-gift]

hey unfortunately there are a lot of us who have became single while pregnant. my husband left at 16 weeks, my son is now 3 weeks old and he wants nothing to do with him, just away to apply to csa! like you we had never argued, baby was planned and it all came as a complete shock to me. he had been having an affair for 2 weeks!!!

you will get lots of support here, has helped me a lot, it is getting easier, pregnancy hormones don't help though!

take care and please try and eat, i also lost a lot of weight while pregnant, try and do it for your baby, i know you will have a lot on your mind.

xx

 

[purpledahlia]

https://www.babyandbump.com/single-parents/182608-having-2nd-child-2nd-father.html

thats an older thread on kids having diff parents if you wanna read it..

I totally think he is such a scumbag for the way he has treated you and your kids!!! Its so out of order, you should definately not punish yourself though. Try to eat, it may be a blessing in disguise if he has treated you like this now.. imagine if he had done it once the baby is here..

 

[momtoparker]

I am single and pregnant too-its just a barrel of fun! Actuallly its not that bad, i guess it depends on your strenghts. I am 34 wks pregnant with a 4 year old too. Parenthood his great, but just realize andknow that you don't need a man, you just think you do.
good luck

 

[Terri1985]

Thank you all. I just really find things hard. I am going through crying at losing someone i love and anger at what hes done. the anger came in a little while ago when he told my friend he thinks I wasnt taking the pill when i got pregnant (even tho he saw me take it every morning), hes already trying to make me out to be the bad guy
Just hope it gets easier.

 

[babybaillie]

HI welcome over here.

I am in d same position. I have a son whos a lot older. Then i have a duaghter of 4 and another girl on the way. 2 daughters with the same man, son with another. It sounds awful and its embarassing. But my oh dumped me just recently. He did say eh wanted nowt to do with the baby. but has since changed his mind.

like u i worry how i will cope. But i really only have to worry about the 2 girls as my son is 16 next month.

 

[purpledahlia]

Like any break up it takes time... you have to let yourself go thru the stages.. the hurt and the upset.. then the anger.. then the upset again.. its just a shame theres kids involved but u have to be strong for them, its the most important thing. They will take inspiration from it. you can always speak to your gp about stress etc.. and dont worry about him telling ilies.. the truth always comes out and he sounds like a scumbag so therefore people will realise the truth soon enough. if someone doesnt believe you or yhour side..then theyre clearly not good friends!

 

[DizzyMoo]

I'm in your boat hun, Ive got joshua who's about to go 4 to wanker no1, & then bump due in november to wanker no2. So i'll be the single mum of 2 boys to 2 dads & so fecking what i say. PLENTY of men have several kids to diff women & nobody ever looks down their nose at them do they... Sod what anyone else thinks hun
With regards to coping i bet if you really thought about it you do 95% of the things with the kids & house anyway so the extra 5% of being on your own isn't hard, Yeh at 1st things will take time to settle down & for you to adjust but you will do just fine hun, & if ever you need a rant moan or someone to giggle with you can always pm me or add me on msn
We're all here for eachother & we'll all get through it together xx

 

[louise85]

Hi everyone, hope you don't mind me joining!! I already have one daughter who is 4 and am 6weeks pregnant by another man and now he's decided he doesn't want to be with me!
To be fair to him we weren't together long, when I told him I was pregnant he didn't even believe me at 1st thought I was just trying to get him back....but then he wanted to give it another go and now he's changed his mind again!!! aaaaarrrrrrggggghhhh!!!
Glad to hear I'm not alone makes this all so much easier!!