anyone not getting there babys christend?

[jojo2605]

No we're not - My OH was christened catholic but I'm not at all religious and I don't want to choose a religion for my son, when he's old enough to make his own decisions he can decide for himself!

 

[jodiex]

dont get me started on this subject. lol. my oh is obsessed with getting jake christened but i dont want to.(im not christened but my oh is) my mil is nagging us when and its reaaly annoying me, shes planning it behind our backs aswell. (shes asked family who live a couple of hundred miles away if they would be able to make it at a certain date!!!) shes doing my heading. rant over.

soz avnet answered ur question but if it was up 2 me then it would be a no. xx

 

[jaybee]

So far we are not! I don't want Tobi Christened as neither of us or our family have that faith except MIL. I want him to be able to decide when he is older if that is the route he would like to take.
It is the one bone of contention I have with my MIL!! She keeps pushing it, and makes ,my FIL push it as well! She even offered to have it done out in France where they live so that we don't need to do anything!! which in my mind is entirely pointless and i said thankyou, but no!

 

[jaybee]

dont get me started on this subject. lol. my oh is obsessed with getting jake christened but i dont want to.(im not christened but my oh is) my mil is nagging us when and its reaaly annoying me, shes planning it behind our backs aswell. (shes asked family who live a couple of hundred miles away if they would be able to make it at a certain date!!!) shes doing my heading. rant over.

soz avnet answered ur question but if it was up 2 me then it would be a no. xx

As I have posted, my MIL wants to do this too. If she does, I am gong to refuse to take LO.

 

[kindofagirl]

We arent but I would like to

I am christened and would like Elliot christened but OH isnt and doesnt want him to be

Boo lol

 

[Lara310809]

We live in a catholic place where the majority of kids are christened or baptised (sorry, I don't know the difference between them). We're not doing it though, because neither of us are religious. I don't think LO will miss out on anything, and she can always choose to have a baptism when she's older if she chooses to be religious.

 

[Kitty23]

We are atheists but don't see any choice other than to be hypocritical I'm afraid. There is a serious issue with not being christened when it comes to all the decent non-grammar schools in our area.

We're moving to Kent in two weeks and I've already been looking at the schools lol! Do children need to be christened to get into them? thanks xxx

 

[dani_tinks]

We've decided not to. It's been a really huge decision for me as I was christened and brought up as a christian, however I lost my faith a few years ago and my OH is totally anti religion.
I came to the conclusion that it isn't important at the moment. We'll have a naming ceramony for him when he's about 1 year old and if in the future he'd like to go to church etc, we'll look into then - when he can make his own mind up

 

[hivechild]

No, here. It seems an empty and hypocritical gesture if we're not willing to commit wholly to a faith, something i have never done and my OH hasn't been practicing for well over 10 years since before we even met. I will try to teach my son good morals and to live a good and honest life, and if there is a god and heaven, I believe that living the life is more important than paying lip service. I would rather have my son out doing charity work on a Sunday morning than to have him sitting in a pew being told to be charitable. Of course i won't discourage him if he wants to explore religion when he's older and it's his choice.

 

[shamrockerjo]

We never even considered it as hubby and I are both atheists.

 

[Dragonfly]

My mum thinks my son isnt being raised right because we dont have him curistsned and is upset he wont get to have his holy comuniion and confirmation and I am evil for not letting him, then said he was to young to make up his mind not to be christened to which i sed the same argument back at her she then shut up about it and sent a few poeple up to me in the family to nag at me and tell me they didnt understand why I wouldnt do it because they all did. Also got the speecj on how my child needs protection from the devil. My mum is a bit gone in the head calling out to spirits and all when she hears the wind (nutter) she fell out with me, massive row! couldn't understand my views at all even though she has never been to church in a good 15 years offered to pay and all bit this is for reputation not for religios purposes she is embarrassed as ist the done thing here, no one takes it serious you just do it get your get together in restaurant after and your respected. I dont see any of my fam but my dad now who dosnt care if my sons christened as he knows its our decision.

She even asked me where will i bury him when he dies! WHEN he dies?:O said cant put him here and there because I wont have a christening. What a morbid woman!

 

[Natasha2605]

We're not having Summer done. I find it extremely hypocritical when people do it for the party as opposed to devotion to the religion xx

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

I wont be getting DD christened. I don't see the point of it. I'm Christian and OH is catholic but we don't follow a strict religious routine so I can't see the point. If it's something she wants when she's older then fine but I won't be doing it just because I can.

 

[lauzie84]

We haven't got Amy christened. Me and OH don't go to church, so have left it that Amy will decide herself if she wants to get christened or not xx

 

[Elphaba]

Nope, we won't be having ours christened as DH and I are both atheists. We did think about having a naming ceremony or something, but think we will just make a bigger deal of a party for his first birthday so that we can still have a family gathering for him at some point.

 

[gills8752]

I am having my lo christened, the church was a big thing for me when I was younger and I want the influence on my child. Strangely though - I thought it was a fairly done thing and I'm seeing more and more people not christening their children.
Out of my 7 antenatal girls - I'm the only one getting their lo christened.

 

[jk28]

We're not having our LO christened either!! Neither me or DH are religious so we personally would find it hypocritical to then have him christened.

Jayne

 

[cb1]

I'm not religous, but I AM getting Alex christened. My reason is that I wasn't christened as a child as my parents wanted me to make my own mind up and about religion. Looking back though I always felt excluded from religion because of this, eg as a child I wanted to go to Sunday school but was told ( rightly or wrongly) that i couldn't. Also on the few occasions I did attend church I felt that I wasn't involved because I couldn't take part in communion.

I want my son to make his own mind up, but I also want him to feel that door is open. I'm also hoping that his god parents will help to give him a balanced view, rather than just growing up copying my (dis)beliefs as I did with my parents.

 

[Tacey]

DH and I are both Christians, but don't see the point of a christening.

 

[Racheldigger]

As I understand it, the point of a christening was to provisionally enrol your baby in the ranks of the blessed, so that if he/she died in infancy, as so many children did before the mid-twentieth century, he/she could be buried in consecrated ground and would be admitted into heaven. Now most people expect their children to survive to adulthood, and also take a rather broader view of what's necessary to admit a child's soul to heaven, and, possibly equally significantly, the switch from churchyards to municipal cemeteries has opened up the concept of consecrated ground, christening has rather lost its practical applications.

And no, we haven't had Rowan christened: my husband is a Christian, but was raised in the Methodist tradition, where baptism doesn't take place until the child is old enough to make his/her own decision, and I am a pagan.