We've just had our second, I am very much in the newborn phase which I'm not a fan of which is why I am surprised I can't get the thought of a baby out my head!
I don't want another baby because: I don't want to be pregnant again, I don't want to give birth again, I don't want to BF again and I don't want to go through the newborn phase again. I love the fact I had easy pregnancies, very straight forward labours and now I can recover and have my body back (once I've stopped BF). Financially I'm not sure a third is great for us, we like a certain lifestyle and while we could afford a third I want to be able to take the boys on holidays, have a nice car, the thought of day care for a third makes me wince. I'm a working mum and my hubby is away a lot....3 kids sounds scary in that scenario!
I would like a baby because: I don't feel done, I hope it will come, but right now I don't. Although the thought of a third baby frightens me, a third child sounds fun and just feels like a busier more complete family. It's not a gender thing, if you'd asked me a year ago I would say I would try for a girl if I had two boys but I can genuinely say now that I would like a third boy as much as a girl.
I guess it's a head vs heart thing, it's veeeeerrrrry early days, I'm only 26 and Ds2 is 4 weeks I don't need to make my mind up now and hubby isn't even on board (I can convince him though lol) I think though I would want to have a baby quickly because I love having kids young and wouldn't want a large gap because it defeats the advantage we currently have....I guess I'm looking for people with similar thought processes?!
I don't want another baby because: I don't want to be pregnant again, I don't want to give birth again, I don't want to BF again and I don't want to go through the newborn phase again. I love the fact I had easy pregnancies, very straight forward labours and now I can recover and have my body back (once I've stopped BF). Financially I'm not sure a third is great for us, we like a certain lifestyle and while we could afford a third I want to be able to take the boys on holidays, have a nice car, the thought of day care for a third makes me wince. I'm a working mum and my hubby is away a lot....3 kids sounds scary in that scenario!
I would like a baby because: I don't feel done, I hope it will come, but right now I don't. Although the thought of a third baby frightens me, a third child sounds fun and just feels like a busier more complete family. It's not a gender thing, if you'd asked me a year ago I would say I would try for a girl if I had two boys but I can genuinely say now that I would like a third boy as much as a girl.
I guess it's a head vs heart thing, it's veeeeerrrrry early days, I'm only 26 and Ds2 is 4 weeks I don't need to make my mind up now and hubby isn't even on board (I can convince him though lol) I think though I would want to have a baby quickly because I love having kids young and wouldn't want a large gap because it defeats the advantage we currently have....I guess I'm looking for people with similar thought processes?!