Anyone starting to set up the process of EGG SHARING? If so come join me 8 BFP's

[lamara.foster]

hey girls, i hope everyone is doing well.

Scerena what is provera? How are you?

Plex... Eeek thats exciting you are starting very soon then by the sounds of it.

I have been looking into all the various blood tests etc and i saw one is CMV and someone said that is herpes (I have a coldsore and was told thats a form of herpes!!) Is CMV a different form, I know nothing at all about herpes I thought it was some STD or something not a coldsore. I decided to wait until my refferal has got to the clinic and i have all my appts booked before I ask again for my HIV from my dr because then I will know what tests are necessary whether it is just HIV or the HEP too.

I am totally freaking out arent I haha.

How do you all cope with all the waiting? I was talking to someone in Tesco earlier he just said no Doctor can tell you something is impossible, its been proven too many times that miracles do happen... I guess he was right and that is really what i needed to hear. I wasnt even talking about my situation I was takling about a lady who has given up on life after she was told she had MS. xxx

 

[scerena]

lamara hey I'm good thanks provera is something that helps to induce your periods, I've used it before on natural cycles that were going on for ages...

You will need to do hep b and c but I don't think they repeat them only the HIV so you should be ale to just get the hep b and c done with the other bloods, I was told the HIV had to be three months apart at that clinic...

I'm not sure what the CMV is I never asked sorry

Exactly miracles happen Hun you might get your bfp whilst you're waiting, you just never know

Waiting is very hard, but makes it easier to come on this forum and speak to people

 

[lamara.foster]

Hey Scerena Oooh so youre willing the period to hurry up now and get here.
So if its only HIV I will deffo be able to get that done, one way or another within the next few weeks whether that be at the clinic or doctors, id prefer the docs because they are so local.

Well all I know is if anyone on here who egg shared has ever has a coldsore I am pretty safe and dont need to worry.

I will never get my nfp waiting I have no tubes but I do find mself thinking negative like im too frightened to imagine life with a baby and i never ever look at the positive incase it never happens, I guess people can see through that now.

Oh yes this babyandbump is really helpful, without it id be in the dark and not have a clue, one thing I have noticed is that complete have removed all egg sharing info off of their website totally and theres no pricelist or anything anymore, i hope their list of donors isnt too full because that would mean getting a match will be very hard and ill just move clinics if thats the case. Did you have to get a GP refferal to Lister or can ou self reffer I self reffered at my old clinic in Colchester. xxx

 

[scerena]

Yh as soon as it shows I can get on the bcps to sync mine and recipients cycle

Yeh I remember her telling my over that HIV had to be done three months apart so def try get it done

I can't see cold sores stopping you egg sharing Hun

Oh sorry I didn't realise that you had no tubes you will get your bfp from egg sharing Hun I'm staying positive for all of us

Have they? That's weird! Hopefully they're just updating it fx'd!!! Surely they would tell you now, I hope they don't mess you around like they did me...

I didn't I self referred myself to lister for egg sharing. My doc referred me to complete because I was seeking fertility treatment back then over two years ago it wasn't for egg sharing...

 

[lamara.foster]

I only thought that about the coldsore as I have had about 2 in my life and I have one now and someone saw it and said its a form of herpes so of course I start panicking thinking im infected and cannot share lol.
Right we need to all keep our fingers crossed for you to get the period very soon then, does it usually work fast in bringing on your period? I hope it hurrys up for you.
As for the clinic im really hoping its not as I fear and that they are just cutting off egg sharing now, but I will call them very early next week and get some info on the situation, otherwise its off to lister I go I have heard only good things about Lister and I know its real far away but its so cheap for egg share and deffo worth the journeys. Just fingers crossed that I dont need to change clinic.

Thanks for all the info and sorry its late xxx

 

[Plex]

Heya

Betty - Wow only 2 weeks till u start stimming!!! Mega exciting Im keeping everything crossed for u x

Lamara - Ive had all my bloods done now and im taking clomid in the mean time. I can really relate to how ur feeling three months is one hell of a long wait My chromosome test was a three month wait initially but its turned out to only b 8weeks which is great! Found it difficult waiting but hada lot going on to occupy me for the most part thankfully. Yeah I think u shud ask ur consultant anyway about the naproxen if ur normal doc doesnt seem to know much about it x

Scerena - Im going to send my consultant an email in a mo as havent got round to it yet (im at work) I guess my next step after meeting with her will be to do alot of form filling in and sigining and my councelling then wait for a match and off we go to more waiting lol im quite excited really looking forward to getting started x

Magpies - Hope ur doing better today hun and the accupuncture goes well. How much will u have to pay for it per session if u dont mind me asking? Ive considered it but never got round to booking an appointment as the only one near me is in Leamington I think (im just outside coventry) x


im off to email my consultant now to see if i can get the ball rolling

 

[lamara.foster]

Hey plex, I am beginning to get used to the idea of waiting I just keep thinking as long as its do e by Christmas then ill be happy. I am 24 so I think my consultant will only allow one egg put back if I have more than one I will want two but highly doubt he will allow that. My old consultant was highly against the idea of two eggs. How many will you be asking to be put back if given the option?

Hope your email goes well.

I will defrost check with consultant about the medication I take and I guess if I have to suffer without it for a month I ill grit my teeth it's all worth it. Xxxx

 

[scerena]

lamara I'm hoping and thinking you will be alright Hun fx'd! Maybe call them up and ask?
It usually takes about 10ish days after the last pill and the last pill is Monday evening, just hope af decides to come way before!!!

Fx'd that they aren't stopping egg sharing I hope they're just updating their website or something, as surely they would have called to to cancel the appointment right?
Yes lister is amazing so many ladies have nothing but good words I haven't heard of one person complain they really know their stuff and it for sure worth all the travelling

Most clinics say 1, complete fertility are dead against 2, unless they are day 3 embies then they will do two. BUT I have heard that its your decision to have two but you have to sign some form- that's what someone in her 20s just did at lister (we speak in another forum) I want two as well, although the consultant has said why they don't like us having two and the complications with twins is scary, but I will decide nearer the time I think

plex Im Hoping that they have got you a match already in mind and that they're matching you as we speak as they have all your bloods back so they can officially match you now eeeeeeek hopefully we will be cycling close
Keep us updated Hun

 

[bettybee1]

Have you seen this shot guys am lodged into my house grrr


Anyways am so fruckin annoyed with my self I started taken prog supp last Saturday then I had a temp rise mon tues & weds so I stopped taking the supp too save them for the end off my cycle too hold of af !!! This is what's probley kick started af !!! Am so dumb ! Lol


Plex- an glad your tests results are back and there all clear exiting

Lamara- don't worry too much about the test results sweetie

How are you screna ??


4 magpies hope your not in too much pain xxx

 

[scerena]

I just see that on the news! Crazy how much snow there is and there's none down here!!! I hope you've got all your essentials in

Ooh no! Aw Hun try not to be angry you weren't to know back then, are you doing meds???

I'm doing okay thanks, wish we could swap places and I could have your af

 

[bettybee1]

It's proper Krazy I have never seen snow this bad before the drifts are taller than me :0 !! Just walked too the shop for some milk and sweets haha!!!

I hate the snow end off haha!!! Wish it would melt the forecast said it was going too stop at 12 !! It's still snowing bad !!


Well hopefully with you taking provea it should kick strt into action soon for you chick !!!

Am starting clomid tonight 50mg !! Cd2-6 !!
Hoping I get an earlier ovulation !!! Going too use soft cups & preseed Luke's booked a week off work right when I'll ovulate so am covered from cd14-cd22 haha!!!! Let's try and catch this egg!!!!! Lol !!! Xx

 

[scerena]

betty wooooop so glad you have a plan and that Luke is off work around o too time to make a baby would be so amazing if you got your bfp right before IVF you could spoil the your two babies rotten instead

Yeh that snow up there is CRAZY!!! I'm surprised you can even get to a shop!!! There's not even a hint of snow here...

 

[bettybee1]

Fingerscrossed now I really wish I wt a BFp b4 ivf it would be amazing !!!


It's shocking finally stopped now !!! My car is stuck like 3miles away from home haha!!!

It's funny I live 10min away from asda and loads of people all day have being dragging all there shopping on sledges haha !!! X

 

[lamara.foster]

Hey Scerena, I am thinking of calling them on monday and asking what is actually going on, I dont want to waste my time, or husbands time on the clinic if the case is that their egg share list is full and people awaiting donors is low... I just hold onto hope that its an update on the website. When they didnt match you did they refund you any costs which you had incurred throughout the screening process etc?

Well if complete are dead against two I might have to only do one egg but I will debate it with the consultant, theres still a niggle telling me twins wouldnt be a good idea... high rick pregnancies and all that with all my crazy body history its scary.

Whilst I was googling all the things I do, I came across a news report from the mail online, uk scientists found that putting two eggs back increases the chances of live birth and they go against what the clinics say when they say 1 egg is best, they put forward that info to HFEA in Jan of 2012 and HFEA said they would review their findings... I do wonder whether the 1 egg is best law is just another way to exploit women with fertility problems, and make more money out of people, I get that their are risks with multiples but surely it should be ultimately the womans choice how many eggs she has transferred back. xxxx

 

[lamara.foster]

Betty bee that snow is madness, theres loads! I havent seen a snowflake for weeks here. xxx

 

[scerena]

betty that would be funny to watch ahhhh I'm praying that you get your bfp before IVF Hun

Oh no! How are you going to get your car? So glad the snow has finally stopped for you!!

lamara no I didn't pay anything as I was already a patient of theirs before egg sharing so I had a lot of bloods done with them before, they did try asking me for £50 for blood tests but I said I'm not paying it as they said they would match me easily and had no one to match me with so they don't make me pay it in the end... I only had to at £25 for copy of blood tests...

Most places are against two but I have heard that it really is your choice plus if the embies only make it to day three you will have two out back as well...
But it is your choice they can only advice
I def want two as not guaranteed both will stick or even any of them...

 

[lamara.foster]

Yeah I would rather two if they only got to day three, day five would be ace some clinics only do 3dt bourne hall only offered me 3dt they said they dont like to push a 5dt as it can lower the success chances.

Its good that they didnt charge you, i wouldnt mind 50 pound but if it were the full 350 id be a bit grumpy about that. I guess I would be able to use the bloods results at future clinics if it were a case of not being matched the same as you. Given that they were in date of course. xxx

 

[scerena]

5dt gives you a higher success rate so not sure why they only do 3dt that is weird... Once the embie makes it to blast it very good quality usually, but if they feel they need to go back at day3 then that's fine also. But day 5 is better I've been told that by both clinics...

I wasn't paying after they had all my results practically previous to egg sharing so no point unless they had a match for me, I would pay at diff clinics, they said as they didn't find me a match they aren't charging me, plus I've been a patient of theirs for over two years... I'm not paying a clinic who lied to me and got my hopes up giving me my protocol and kit etc it wasn't on at all...

Yes you can use them at other clinics you only have to pay £25... hopefully it doesn't come to that for you anyway

 

[lamara.foster]

im hoping the clinic is just going through a change of some kind, i mean they wouldnt waste time getting women in and on the scheme and testing them at such reduced costs unless they were seriously going to consider them for sharing so i hope that its just nothing. PMA.

What they did to you was out of order. I read on another forum that a lady is hoping to share there and they said she should get an NHS consultant appt as theres a 6 to 8 week wait to see their consultant, but she has 12 weeks to wait for the HIV test so it makes no sense why they ask her to go elsewhere... she is under them afterall, and someone said they had to pay for their consultation 150 pounds but i was told its free.. conflicting answers there. Is it really only 75 at lister to egg share? Or am i missing something somewhere, I looked on their website to keep an open mind if complete mess things up for us xxx

 

[scerena]

I didn't have to pay for a consultation, it was meant to be free at complete I think right? Not sure if that was ause I was already a patient of theirs I'm not sure it's £350 at complete, £75 of that is the hfea fee and the rest is towards your standard IVF cycle... But you need to pay for icsi if you need it...

Lister you only pay for the hfea fee which is £75 that's it and icsi if you need it, you pay nothing towards standard IVF.
You would have to pay for ohs HIV, hep b and hep c but we got our gp to do them and took the results

I'm sure you will be fine there, I just got fed up of them and after they done that to me I just had enough, funny as my mums neighbour told me not to,waste my time with them she went and egg shared in London, but it took me two years to take her advice but other ladies find them brilliant there... Mr.brook is really nice, hopefully you get to see him