anyone want a ttc#1 buddy?

[DaretoDream]

tick- i'm hoping my father will be happy. But i don't really know. I'm hoping she'll get over it and learn to be happy- but i don't know what'll happen to be honest. I don't want to just assume she'll love them because they're mine, because in general, she doesn't like children.

I was an 'accident' which she made sure to tell me, but my brother, was a planned perfect child.

I think that if i had a boy- he'd be accepted more readily than a girl. My mother, and her mother have ALWAYS favored boys over their daughters. I am afraid- what if i follow in the same steps? i NEVER want my girls to feel the way i did growing up.

My gram is still around- but she's getting senile and worse and worse as the days go by. I really want to have a baby and have her see it before she goes too. I think she'd be happy, and like i said i have hopes for my dad... my brother won't be bothered. But it always seems like the one whos approval we want the very most, is the one we never can get right?

Dh's family will just LOVE it though. everything will go well on that side. I just wish it would on mine as well. We don't have connections with my dad's brothers or parents much either- my mom fixed those relationships as well.

 

[dan-o]

yey you'll not be far behind me dan-o! my ewcm has def gone so does that mean I've ov'd? Without being gross I get quite alot of ewcm so its easy to spot when it is and isn't there lol

I don't think I'll be far behind you at all, I got a positive OPK this morning!

https://i89.photobucket.com/albums/k240/DANIELLA77/posopk.jpg


Unfortunately OH couldn't 'perform' today, as he has a dodgy tummy from a pub lunch we had yesterday Hopefully he will be feeling a bit better by the time he comes home from work.

hope I get my bfp soon, this ttc lark does my head in

Me too, getting seriously fed up with waiting for it to happen!!!!

 

[KittyCat82]

Hello girls. Ticktock so you are in the 2ww wait now too? dan-o pleased to see that everything seems to be ok with you this month hun

I am feeling a little strange at the mo. My boobs are not in the slightest bit sore apart from having the odd stabbing pain and a little on side by armpit if I press (dont press them then lol). I know last month I said they werent sore straight after but I am on cd28 now and usually they are v sore by now..last month they had even been sore for 3 days by now and that was late. I also have aching legs and hip/bumcant really describe it-bit like i have walked miles and they are stiff (which I certainly have not). However I feel utterly convinced that this is not the month. I am worried tho that I keep getting pains where in stomach and thinking perhaps I have cysts...I know I'll get these tests done next month but want to speak to my Dr again about it but worried he will think I am neurotic!!

Anyway, I have done something a bit silly (some might say) and for a bit of fun got a baby prediction. Well firstly it says December for conceive, birth or find out that seems so far away!! I am not taking it too seriously but basically she went on to describe a little girl in quite a lot of detail-the strange thhing is it is EXACTLY like me-now and when I was younger which is sooo odd as she knows nothing about me...I can post if you want but thought you might all think I was a bit wacko!!

Anyway, I have been thinking a lot about things this week and wondering whether to have a break ttc. We wont try not to, but to not use cbfm for few months and just try and forget about it. I kind of want my life back for a bit. I seem to spend every month in the same cycle of af-feeling crap, frantically bding then driving myself nuts in 2ww...I am feeling like life is kinda on hold at mo, even though we plan hols and weekends etc-I suppose I just mean mentally...I will be sad not to catch up with you guys all the time but mabye it will do me good to have a break ( and spend more time at work actually working lol)...I dont know x x x

 

[dan-o]

Well the only month my boobs were not sore was last month, when I got a BFP... so you never know kitty, it could be a good sign!

Have you been trying a while now?

 

[KittyCat82]

Hi dan-o-yeah since December 09 not used anything but back then I thought we only needed to dtd a couple of times at random times and that would do-how naive lol! Wasnt really till March we started trying around ov time but still think was a bit off. Been using CBFM since April, so on month 4 of that now. I know its not that long but I think I thought the CBFM would speed things up! I get worried as you get conflicting messages ie My Dr said they would not be concerned if a couple has been trying 3-4 a week for 12 months. If you do this you would have to be hitting the right days. However, some sites say 12 months of random trying. The CBFM says seek advice after 6 months of use if no bfp but on top of all this they say its 20% chance each month dont they?! Sorry, that is a RANT! its all a bit conflicting and stressful. I think I am just a bit stressed with it all at mo and thats why I think it might be time for a break lol!! Mabye I am just having a bad week..I have been teary and think it just gets to you sometimes doesnt it? How do you cope? Also, sore boobs thing-did you get any stabbing pains? Did they become sore eventually-did you have any other symptoms? totally understand if you dont want to answer that hun and thanks

 

[dan-o]

I think it's a 20% chance, if you are both young, 100% fertile and BD on exactly the right day.
If thats the case, then I presume most people in that category (lucky them!) will fall pregnant within 6 months.

I'm 33 and was told that at my age, my chances are more like 10% every cycle, less if a MF is taken into account

I personally think for it to take up to a year is perfectly normal for any couple, although it does seem like a very long time when it's you it's happening to!

 

[dan-o]

Just thought I'd stop by. How is everyone doing today?

I think I have ov'd already & I'm in the 2ww now.
I had very strong ovulaton pains last night, so bad I had to get an early night!
I don't know if that's a good or bad sign, lol!!

 

[KittyCat82]

Hi all-i posted a thread but it disappeared...anyway, just said you are lucky to get ov pains dan-o wish I did so knew when to bd!!

Basically I am feeling poorly-think I am coming down with a bug...I have achy legs, achy jaws (v odd) and really tired and headache. Felt sick last night but feel ok today. Have had a raging thirst and dry mouth for 3 days and just feel urgh

I have had stomach pains, not like af though. My boobs are still not sore, just tender on sides. I hope I feel better as its my sisters birthday tomorrow and was hoping to celebrate.

How is everyone else? x

 

[DaretoDream]

i have been having strange cramping. And my lower back is killing me. Don't know if i'm going to O on time this cycle. I don't know if they're even O symptoms? Who knows!

 

[dan-o]

My boobs are sore and my temps are up

So pleased, as it's 100% normal for me to have sore boobs every 2ww.

I wonder what went wrong last cycle & why they weren't sore like normal.
Typical.. the one cycle I wasn't right, was the one I got (and lost!) a BFP on.. ugh!!

 

[dan-o]

i have been having strange cramping. And my lower back is killing me. Don't know if i'm going to O on time this cycle. I don't know if they're even O symptoms? Who knows!

Not sure if it helps, but my ov symptoms are cramps & twinges, progressing to a dull throbby ache.
It usually just stops all of a sudden, which i presume is around the time I ovulate.
I also get a bit hyper when I'm fertile, lots of ewcm & the overwhelming desire to jump on my long suffering OH every 5 minutes! lol

xxx

 

[DaretoDream]

well i think i still have about 8 days or so left before i supposedly O. Not positive. Hoping that it's o symptoms though and that my body is back on tract this cycle!

 

[ticktock]

hi everyone hope you're all ok. Not much to report here am about 7/8 dpo not sure cos of my silly cbfm this month lol

not feeling v optimistic this month so am mentally just preparing for next cycle sigh

 

[dan-o]

Same here ticktock, I'm just a couple of days behind you & nothing major to report.

I'm glad I have my sore boobs back this cycle tho, seems like a normal month, apart from the slightly early ov

 

[DaretoDream]

my god i think i'm oing this week- found watery cm on saturday but seriously? I have REALLY strong cramps. Not as bad as period cramps- but they're gaining power by the day, i swear. I'm hoping they're o cramps. I remember having similar things when i was a teen- because i told my mother and she called it Mittlesmirtzen (or however you spell that). Which i've seen mentioned about O. So i'm hoping i'm right and that's what it is because we are dtd every night jjust to make sure.

 

[KittyCat82]

Hi girls well I am 12 dpo ish now I think..af due tomorrow or thurs anyway. I'm still having leg cramps, sore bleeding gums, tired, v irritable/emotional. Went out for sisters bday on sat and couldn't stomach more than 1 glass of wine. Fed up today so caved and took test at lunch-bfn. Preparing myself for af now but soo annoyed at feeling so crap during 2ww...hope you all ok x

 

[KittyCat82]

Oh and drinking sooo much water mouth constantly feels dry horrible !!

 

[dan-o]

Ohhh, so sorry you got a BFN kitty, hope it turns BFP very soon! The symptoms sound really promising! xxx

 

[KittyCat82]

Thanks dan-o I don't know what's going on to be honest, I have never had so many symptoms..I didn't even know about the sore bleeding gums had to look that up. Don't feel sick at all tho. I've resigned myself to af arriving in next couple of days now tho and think I've had a bug with similar symptoms to pregnancy in my 2ww-how unlucky is that!!! Will keep you posted-let us know if you get any symptoms girls x

 

[DaretoDream]

really really really hoping you get that bfp. I'm only going into O right now- i think i really hope that's what i'm going through. I had watery cm on sat- and then early on sunday- but today it's creamy again. Maybe i was wrong? maybe i'm NOT Oing. But on the other side i'm having cramps, and just feeling weird. Lower back is aching a lot too. What do you guys think?