April Mummies 2011

[chocojen]

hi ladies,
hugs cottleson
congrats gertrude

I started slimming world on monday and have started exercising again, I figure as George is 12 weeks now its time to shift some of this excess baggage!

He is sleeping so well at the moment, I am proud of him! not that I expect it to continue but he has STTN since friday, its amazing how much better the world seems after a few nights proper sleep!

xx

 

[AmethystDream]

I am absolutely destroyed this morning. Gabe was up a LOT and I still have this nagging headache that has been with me for the last fortnight.

On the positive side (she says! ), I bought the Zumba pack and the Zumba Wii game yesterday. Haven't tried it yet and had friends trying to convince me to go do it in a class... hell no! But hopefully I'll be dancing my arse away, literally, in the next few months

 

[AmethystDream]

This one or this?

I'm still hunting around locally too, Tasha. If we find owt, we will sort out a road trip to drop it off for you

 

[AmethystDream]

Ick! Sorry for the third post but, although still a lot, not bad for a new one?

 

[Mrs-C]

Aggghhhh - I am getting sick of how I feel about feeding. I am so sick of attitudes to bottlefeeding. Some BFing mums should think before they type! They are so high and mighty. I can't imagine what they would do with a baby that won't feed and is losing weight fast - let it starve rather than try and feed anything other than breast milk!?

Rant over. I feel a little better. A little.

 

[MissFox]

Yay for George sttn!

Amethyst- sorry to hear Gabe didn't sleep well. I hope Zumba goes good for you! Keep us updated! I've been thinking about trying it.

So I called today about couples counciling... no one was able to make an appointment fo it so I have to call next Monday. I'm waiting to see what August holds before I make any decisions but I need to get it of this cabin. I need to make a change and be happier. I need to not get so upset from people and stop wondering why I'm losing fb friends. I figure its bc I'm so negative these days. I'm working on it. I'm on mumission happy Samantha. There have been ups and downs the last week but I'm going to figure this while thing out.

 

[MissFox]

Mrs c you need to di what you need to do for your baby. They can all f off! Go you!!!

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Mrs-C...Screw them. I'm a breastfeeding mother but failed with my first. I was so hard on myself back then but quickly came to realize that a happy, relaxed formula-feeding mom was much better for my daughter (now 4) than a stressed out breastfeeding one.

Breastfeeding nitwit's frustrate me to no end. Who gives a crap how a baby is fed as long as the baby is fed!!! (Unless the baby is 4 months old eating chocolate bars and McDonalds, of course). People, unfortunately, just haven't learned the art of keeping their noses out of where it doesn't belong.

You are doing RIGHT by your baby and I guarantee you your little girl is not going to come to you when she's 20, flipping out because you gave her formula over breastmilk. She'll thank you for giving it to her because it gave her food and a life.

YOU GO MOMMY!!!

 

[RiRi]

You go mrs c. I ff and proud poppy is happy and thriving and that's all that matter to me. I tried to bf it didn't work got so stressed about it at the time now as my milk didn't cone in, poppy wouldn't latch, I was practically suffercating her lol.

 

[AmethystDream]

Mrs-C, you are doing what is best for your baby and your family. LO is absolutely gorgeous and obviously a happy camper, so screw them all

 

[JakesMummy]

What all the girls said, mrs c! You're doing the best for your child no matter what way they are fed. Ignore and hold you're head high - you're doing great x

Amethyst I wanna join yOur road trip!! Oh god I'd love to meet up with all u ladies. Seems we have all been through alot together!

 

[BrandiCanucks]

I agree with the others, Mrs-C. I breastfeed but failed with my oldest (now 4). I don't understand what compels people to stick their nose in other people's business and decide what is best for that other person's child, but they are far outstepping their boundaries.

Who gives a crap whether your baby is breastfed, formula fed or both? it's not like she's getting McDonald's fries and Wendy's chicken nuggets.

As long as YOU are happy and SHE is happy and healthy, do not worry what those breastfeeding extremists try and tell you. You know what's best for you and your little girl and don't let anyone else try and put you down for it. In fact, tell em to shove it where the sun don't shine, lol.

YOU GO MOMMY!!!

 

[Tasha360]

Thanks for all the links girls ive asked about postage. That new one is a good price too think ill have that if cant get one cheaper. Much appreciated x
I have got Zumba for the xbox360 but still not tried it heard its fab though xx

 

[gertrude]

good luck tasha! I hope you find something

well I'm a bit fed up I've been considering relactating as I'm so unhappy about not breastfeeding I know my little one is happy and more than thriving but I still feel like a complete failure I dreamt of feeding her and to not be able to, because of shit advice and no support makes me feel like I've let her down. If I hadn't got depressed, if I had just stuck to my guns and tried harder I am sure I could be feeding her now. I still have milk but she won't latch anymore because my milk is so low compared to the speed of a bottle but up to 3 weeks ago she latched every time She even latched at the weekend but won't now, just cries and it breaks my heart. Every bottle I give her I feel shit. Not because it's formula, but because it's not me.

But people are saying they think I shouldn't bother, that it's not guaranteed to work and even if it did she might not latch anyway so I'd be stuck pumping.

Why the fuck can't I let this go? Why is it so important to me? Why am I sat here, when she's doubled her birth weight, was combi fed until 3 months and from them until now has had 1 bottle a day of EBM, feeling so shit about the whole thing - can I not just be happy with that? Why am I going over every minute since she was born trying to work out what it was I did wrong - and the worse thing is I think I could have done better, that I didn't try hard enough

Jesus it just gets under your skin doesn't it

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Gertrude, as I said to Mrs. C, you need to do what you feel is right by your child. If you feel like you want to give breastfeeding a shot again, by all means, do it. I tried the relactation thing and while it didn't work out for me, I know that what I tried CAN work for others. I do wish I would have stuck with it with my daughter, but like your daughter, Zoe is happy and thriving, despite her disabilities.

If today is just an off day for you and you feel formula is still best for her, take your day to get rid of the negative emotions, cry it out, do the beating yourself up for a day thing and pick back up tomorrow.

If you want any relactation advice and tips, I'm more than willing to share some. Just sleep on your choices and feel free to send me a message privately if relactating is what you choose to try.

 

[AmethystDream]

I have got Zumba for the xbox360 but still not tried it heard its fab though xx

I haven't dared to try it yet. I didn't put on anything when I was pregnant but I have since having Gabe, which is bloody annoying. Having said that I'm very overweight and have been for a long time, I need to get kick started to change my life and somehow, somewhere I have to find the way to do that. Hopefully with Zumba being daft and something the girls can do with me, it will give me some motivation and help along the way. I'll let you all know how we get on!

good luck tasha! I hope you find something

well I'm a bit fed up I've been considering relactating as I'm so unhappy about not breastfeeding I know my little one is happy and more than thriving but I still feel like a complete failure I dreamt of feeding her and to not be able to, because of shit advice and no support makes me feel like I've let her down. If I hadn't got depressed, if I had just stuck to my guns and tried harder I am sure I could be feeding her now. I still have milk but she won't latch anymore because my milk is so low compared to the speed of a bottle but up to 3 weeks ago she latched every time She even latched at the weekend but won't now, just cries and it breaks my heart. Every bottle I give her I feel shit. Not because it's formula, but because it's not me.

But people are saying they think I shouldn't bother, that it's not guaranteed to work and even if it did she might not latch anyway so I'd be stuck pumping.

Why the fuck can't I let this go? Why is it so important to me? Why am I sat here, when she's doubled her birth weight, was combi fed until 3 months and from them until now has had 1 bottle a day of EBM, feeling so shit about the whole thing - can I not just be happy with that? Why am I going over every minute since she was born trying to work out what it was I did wrong - and the worse thing is I think I could have done better, that I didn't try hard enough

Jesus it just gets under your skin doesn't it

Gertrude, if you feel like relactation is something you need to give your best shot then go for it. Sod everyone else's doom and gloom and do what you need to do to reconcile what you are feeling.

You KNOW that LO is thriving, you know that she is a little star who had a wonderful start from her Mum and the best care she could wish for since.

I will ask you to ask yourself several questions though.

If you were advising someone else, what would you say?
IF, and it is an if, relactating doesn't work, will you feel better or worse for trying?
Is it other people's judgements or your own that bother you the most?

It does get to you, it does get under your skin and it can be extremely upsetting. I'm so sorry that you are questioning yourself like this because (And I swear this is not me being patronising) you have done incredibly well. You have fought to do everything you can for the wellbeing of your little girl. Don't for a second underestimate what you have achieved for your Daughter. The fantastic start that you have given, and the effort you continue to give, to ensure that she is a happy healthy little person. You are a good Mum, you would fight for your little girl no matter what it costs you personally and, as a result, you have your bundle of love and gorgeousness gazing back at you.

Just know that the next big thing you need to give her is a happy Mummy. That will take some time and a whole lot of effort, but you will get there. I know you will, because you will do anything for your family, your little girl and ultimately, because it is best for them, yourself.

Good parents question themselves and the things they do, they are plagued with doubt and worry that the decisions they make turn out for the best. You want to know why I KNOW you are a great Mum? because you do all of these things and strive to do the very best you can for the people you love.

We are here for you.

 

[cheese lover]

Gertrude, I can't say it better than Amethyst so I won't try. I second everything she said! I can understand your sadness. I think you're mourning your loss of breastfeeding. I would be upset as well if I couldn't breastfeed Isis. It's not what she's eating it's how she's eating it.

I've been messed up all day. I keep thinking its Friday. I'm so tired. If Isis continues her pattern from this week then tonight will be a rough one. I'm hoping she breaks the pattern. I'm so glad DH is home! He's been out of town all week.

 

[MissFox]

Gertrude I agree with amethyst.

DH and I are on a "break" still talking on the phone. He is staying with his mom and watching Rosie while I work. I find out more about counseling sometime next week. He also was given a number for a place that helps get low income folks inti houses. They pay first/last/deposit. I might be getting to move back to town sooner than I thought!!!

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Like others, I'm confused about where my period is. I got it back at 7 weeks postpartum with my daughter, who was combo-fed until 3 months and then strictly formula fed, back at 8 weeks with my son who was exclusively breastfed until 17 months (we did throw solids in at 6 months, of course), but here I sit, 13 weeks postpartum and I've had two separate days of extremely light spotting that lasted only an hour.

I don't miss the witch one bit though!

 

[Megi.MKD]

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