***April Sweet Peas 2011*** join here (48 babies born)

[MissFox]

I'm jealous on all this dialation talk. Hoping for some big improvement tomorrow since I've been having so much pain- and pressure- I keep expecting my water to break when I stand but I've had no show... hmmm....

gem- get a DNA test. Besides that stay away from him. You don't need that kind of stress. When your heart rate and BP go up it can affect the baby. PLus with all the problems you've been having you don't need any extra stress.

and GOOD LUCK KENNY!

 

[lilgemsy]

Gem - Yep honey - not too far from Runcorn, we're in a village called Pickmere which is inbetween Knutsford and Northwich and we have friends who live in Sandymoor so we're over that way quite a lot.

Whereabouts are you?

Ahh nice. Probably only like a bus ride away then lol.
Im from Whiston.
Have alot of friends from Runcorn / Frodsham though

gem chick men can be right nobs my ex finished with me when i was 12 weeks preggers with gertie and i refered to him as a sperm donor and i even used him this time for my little boy.

as for a dna test once your little man is here claim csa and he will have to prove that he is not the father or pay no matter what.

i never bothered with csa as i dont want there dad to have anything the do with them as they are much better off without him. but do what is best for you just remember if he pays you csa he as the right to see his child that he pays for this is why i made my choice not to bother.x.x

my advice cut all contact and let him rot.x.x. you will be a brilliant mum to your boy and love him enough for both a mum and dad.x.x

I am actually considering leaving the DNA test and the CSA altogether because life would be so much less stressful without him in it and I dont think the CSA would be much anyways so is it really worth it?
And Ollie deserves a good dad not one who denies his own child.

I just have to have a sit down and a good think about whats going to be best for Ollie I guess.

Do you think your kids are alot better off without thier dad?

 

[loopy82]

Cami - I've been hearing the heartbeat low all the time and my LO is breech so it might be good your doctor is hearing it high!

 

[laura3103]

Gem,

yes i do think they are alot better off if i'm honest he is 40 years old and all he cares about is when he can next go out drinking and football.

when i was having gertie all i could think about was omg how will my little girl feel about not having a dad to protect her like i have been brought up with but she is 2 now and she doesnt know any different he as never met her at all (i gave him the chance before she was one and he refused) but i never slag him off or talk bad about him in front of her as its gonna be up to her if she is older if she ever wants to meet him and that way she cant say i denied her the chance and he can never say i turned her against him.

and i will do the same with my little man as well its upto them in the furture.

i'm gonna say its not easy to cut off and carry on i went a little funny after gertie was born and really wanted him to see her i even went as far supergluin pictures of her on his company car windowscreen. ( baby blues was my excuse) but i soon got over it.

just do what you think is best remember your baby will love you no matter what.x.

 

[lilgemsy]

Gem,

yes i do think they are alot better off if i'm honest he is 40 years old and all he cares about is when he can next go out drinking and football.

when i was having gertie all i could think about was omg how will my little girl feel about not having a dad to protect her like i have been brought up with but she is 2 now and she doesnt know any different he as never met her at all (i gave him the chance before she was one and he refused) but i never slag him off or talk bad about him in front of her as its gonna be up to her if she is older if she ever wants to meet him and that way she cant say i denied her the chance and he can never say i turned her against him.

and i will do the same with my little man as well its upto them in the furture.

i'm gonna say its not easy to cut off and carry on i went a little funny after gertie was born and really wanted him to see her i even went as far supergluin pictures of her on his company car windowscreen. ( baby blues was my excuse) but i soon got over it.

just do what you think is best remember your baby will love you no matter what.x.

40 and still acts like that?! O_O woah lol.

I think I may end up doing the same as youve done then.
They never miss what they never had... but the chance is still there for them to have it when theyre older I guess.

I think Id probably find it quite easy to cut myself off from him once his number is blocked I actually cant put into words how much I hate him!

 

[camishantel]

Cami - I've been hearing the heartbeat low all the time and my LO is breech so it might be good your doctor is hearing it high!

he has been head down since about 20 weeks. and on the other machine they always find it almost at my pubic bone and 2 the right side... however he didn't go that far down he was up a little above my belly button.. but I don't know maybe the other machine would pick it up there as well she just always tries down there since we know we have gotten it down there... I haven't felt any like turning type movements and I am still getting the same jab type feelings in the same places so I don't think he has turned.. it was just weird... but I also normally lay on my side when the girl is looking for the HB and today I was on my back since he had just checked my cervix who knows... but I still think he would have probably told me if he thought he had turned... don't you??? I mean since he said I could go into labor before I see him on friday if he thought he had turned breech don't you think he would have said something??

 

[Tasha360]

Evening girls, Lots to catch up on today ive only skimmed over the posts will have a proper read later if i get chance.
Hi Vetti and Alanna ill add you to the list.

Rainbow, hows baby Ben doing?

Ive had really bad after pains all day today oh well i suppose its a good sign everything is going back as it should. Ive just had to inject myself with a drug called clexane. Apparently im at a high risk of getting DVT so have got to have these injections for a week. Babies have been good as gold today, i just hope they sleep a little better tonight. we are going to try putting them next to each other in the cot to see if that helps. They've been together in the moses basket for a few hours and havent stirred. I think im getting my pregnancy cravings now lol, ive had no appetite throughout my whole pregnancy but i have to have some cheese and crackers so im going to go and do some. I weighed myself today and im 2 stone lighter than i was at booking in. Im going to go to weight watchers after my postnatal check,i could still do with loosing a bit of weight.
Anyway im off to do my crackers before the next feed xxx

 

[DanaBump]

Gem - Yep honey - not too far from Runcorn, we're in a village called Pickmere which is inbetween Knutsford and Northwich and we have friends who live in Sandymoor so we're over that way quite a lot.

Whereabouts are you?

Ahh nice. Probably only like a bus ride away then lol.
Im from Whiston.
Have alot of friends from Runcorn / Frodsham though

gem chick men can be right nobs my ex finished with me when i was 12 weeks preggers with gertie and i refered to him as a sperm donor and i even used him this time for my little boy.

as for a dna test once your little man is here claim csa and he will have to prove that he is not the father or pay no matter what.

i never bothered with csa as i dont want there dad to have anything the do with them as they are much better off without him. but do what is best for you just remember if he pays you csa he as the right to see his child that he pays for this is why i made my choice not to bother.x.x

my advice cut all contact and let him rot.x.x. you will be a brilliant mum to your boy and love him enough for both a mum and dad.x.x

I am actually considering leaving the DNA test and the CSA altogether because life would be so much less stressful without him in it and I dont think the CSA would be much anyways so is it really worth it?
And Ollie deserves a good dad not one who denies his own child.

I just have to have a sit down and a good think about whats going to be best for Ollie I guess.

Do you think your kids are alot better off without thier dad?

while i can't speak for your situation, i come from a situation where i married a man with a kid who's mom was trying to keep his son from him. i can say that zack is much better off WITH his dad in his life. they started out real rocky (she cheating on him when zack was 7 mo old and dh kicked her out) and the two of them are stick rocky, but sons need their fathers. i would say get the paternity test, get what you need to not prove to anyone but your son. you don't know what anyone will try to say in his life and this way you have something that ollie can use. plus, you may change your mind, fob may come around and grow up. do everything the right way, do the right thing regardless of your feelings now so you can hold your head up high and know without a shadow of a doubt that you held true to who you are. you can't get these decisions or this time back, so take emotion out of it and think only of your son. it's the hardest thing you'll ever have to but much easier than living your life with guilt of letting the situation make you do and be someone you're not.

 

[lilgemsy]

Ahh I have alot of thinking to do.
Im taking everyones advice in and just thinking and thinking!

Anyone have a bucket of sand? Id like to stick my head in it for a while xD

 

[bernina]

gem. You've received lots of good advice, especially that from others who have been in similar situations. Soak it all in and go with your gut (not your heart or the anger your'e feeling now in your head), it very rarely steers you wrong. You don't have to do anything right now besides ignore him. You don't need to cut him out when Ollie comes but you also don't need to include him either. Take each day at a time and do only what feels right to you.

Good luck Kenny, hope the sweep gets things moving for you!

Cami, I think they can hear the heartbeat in multiple places on the stomach. It will be stronger in certain areas, but still loud enough to detect in others. Wow 3 cm already, that's great!!! At what dilation do they consider you about to go into labor? I know we push at 10 cm, but when would they check you into hospital?

Ordered my breast pump today, so excited!! Ended up going with the Medela Freestyle as a friend has experience with it and can assist me if needed. If anyone in the US is looking to get a Medela www.addalittlelove.com has wonderful prices, about $100 lower than MSRP. They can't advertise but the Pump in Style Advanced is $215, Freestyle is $285. Hoping to be able to use my flexible spending account but have to wait for dr's note before I can submit the claim. Now I just need to get breast milk storage bags and nursing pads and that area should be covered.

 

[x-Rainbow-x]

Evening girls, Lots to catch up on today ive only skimmed over the posts will have a proper read later if i get chance.
Hi Vetti and Alanna ill add you to the list.

Rainbow, hows baby Ben doing?

Ive had really bad after pains all day today oh well i suppose its a good sign everything is going back as it should. Ive just had to inject myself with a drug called clexane. Apparently im at a high risk of getting DVT so have got to have these injections for a week. Babies have been good as gold today, i just hope they sleep a little better tonight. we are going to try putting them next to each other in the cot to see if that helps. They've been together in the moses basket for a few hours and havent stirred. I think im getting my pregnancy cravings now lol, ive had no appetite throughout my whole pregnancy but i have to have some cheese and crackers so im going to go and do some. I weighed myself today and im 2 stone lighter than i was at booking in. Im going to go to weight watchers after my postnatal check,i could still do with loosing a bit of weight.
Anyway im off to do my crackers before the next feed xxx

Ben is gorgeous feeding every 2-3 hours and loves cuddles

your on the injections im on......well im on an alternative to them with being allergic to it , i was on it in preg and for 6 weeks postnatal

we looked and they cost £7 a syringe..... thank god for NHS lol
i was getting nasty nasty afterpains but i had some membranes left behind once i passed them they were alot better

i have done nothing but eat since having ben, and been really thirsty but my boobs are leaking all over

seen your pics on fb tasha they are adorable !!!

 

[camishantel]

Berina that makes sense because it was a lot fainter up where he had it... I think he said if I am 4-5 he would send me to hospital?? I think he said 5... I know he said if I have contractions in the next couple days not to wait till friday but to come in right away... so I told him I shouldn't leave because I have been having mild contractions for the last 4 days... not painful just know they are there... he laugherd at me and said ok if you have even 1 painful contraction before friday come in...

 

[DanaBump]

couple of bump pics for your viewing pleasure! yeah...i forgot to smile and i'm too tired to take another...

 

[lilgemsy]

Lovely bump Dana!

Tasha - might be a silly question but do your twins have like the same sleeping pattern or do they wake at different times?

 

[bernina]

Great bump pics Dana!

 

[MissFox]

Grreat bump Dana!!

Gem- My dad was never around and never wanted to be. I tried and I tried to have a relationship with him but it always ended bad. My mom never kept me from him but he was never interested (in any of his 4 kids). I'm better without him and happy that my mom never told me not to seek him out but was always there for me when I needed her because he would shoot me down.

I HATE BEING SICK!! I can't get anything done and since DH and I were fighting its not completely better between us so I'm sick and alone and he will barrely talk to me. I want to cry.

 

[JakesMummy]

Bernina - 4cm is classed as active labour and is usually when you can get admitted into delivery, although I am unsure if it differs where you are? So Cami, you aren't that far off! Lucky you for getting that far without any pain!

I was cursing by 4cm LOL!

 

[Emmy'sMommy]

Great bump Dana!!

 

[CaseyBaby718]

OMG! TASHA CONGRATS!!!! Just got to where her little babies are in the thread!! SOOO CUTE!

 

[JazzyCat]

Congrats Tasha! What precious little angels! So happy for you! I have enjoyed catching up on the thread while it is the middle of the night/morning and still no luck sleeping!

Dana what a cute bump!

Miss. Fox I hope you feel better, I hate arguments with anyone, let alone dh.

I had a rough day... Had high blood pressure, trace amounts of protein in my urine and low amniotic fluid levels at my appointment... Had a non stress test that went well but still have to go back tomorrow morning for another one. Not sure how I am ever going to sleep, just so worried. Luckily feeling lots of movement. First time I had to be admitted to labor and delivery freaked me out! Just want to get to at least to the 37 week mark!