SmileyShazza
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Does anyone else feel a bit under pressure to get pregnant? Not by others but more putting pressure on themselves?
Im 34, and will be 35 in August. When I last went for a repeat of my pill my Dr said that after my next birthday they would not prescribe the pill for me as they do not like to give it to women over 35, he said they would then look at either the implant or injection. I said I didnt really want those as hubby and I were thinking of trying for a family sometime this year and they were not as easily stoppable as the pill.
Next year I have been asked to be bridesmaid to two very close friends, this is a great honour obviously. One gets married in May the other in September and even though they have said they are happy for me to be bridesmaid even if Im pregnant I dont really want to be pregnant for either of their weddings. Or even worse what if I got pregnant and was due at the same time as their wedding and missed it if something happened. We have also been invited to a wedding in March next year by another friend of mine.
I know you cant plan when these things are going to happen so hubby and I talked about it and we decided Id stop taking my pill as it could be months till I get pregnant. Now all I keep thinking about is all the things weve got coming up and how it would affect them if I happened to be pregnant at the time.
For instance my hubby has been asked to DJ at a festival overseas in July next year. By then I could be pregnant or have got a small child which might mean I couldnt go with him.
Ideally Id just wait until after my friends wedding is done next September but by then Id be 36 and I am worried that if we leave it too late and then find out it takes longer than planned or we find out we need to have help then I will be yet another year older.
My husband totally understands how I feel, I just wish I was 4 years younger so all these things werent such a worry to me. I keep going over everything in my head and wondering what I should do, I do feel ready to take that next step and have children , in fact I actually cant wait and neither can my OH but it would be good if I knew that being pregnant isnt going to clash with any of these other things.
I know nobody can make my mind up for me but if only everything wasnt so difficult to decide
Sorry just needed to get that all out as I feel I can't really talk to anyone else about it - don't want hubby to get fed up with me going over it all again.
Im 34, and will be 35 in August. When I last went for a repeat of my pill my Dr said that after my next birthday they would not prescribe the pill for me as they do not like to give it to women over 35, he said they would then look at either the implant or injection. I said I didnt really want those as hubby and I were thinking of trying for a family sometime this year and they were not as easily stoppable as the pill.
Next year I have been asked to be bridesmaid to two very close friends, this is a great honour obviously. One gets married in May the other in September and even though they have said they are happy for me to be bridesmaid even if Im pregnant I dont really want to be pregnant for either of their weddings. Or even worse what if I got pregnant and was due at the same time as their wedding and missed it if something happened. We have also been invited to a wedding in March next year by another friend of mine.
I know you cant plan when these things are going to happen so hubby and I talked about it and we decided Id stop taking my pill as it could be months till I get pregnant. Now all I keep thinking about is all the things weve got coming up and how it would affect them if I happened to be pregnant at the time.
For instance my hubby has been asked to DJ at a festival overseas in July next year. By then I could be pregnant or have got a small child which might mean I couldnt go with him.
Ideally Id just wait until after my friends wedding is done next September but by then Id be 36 and I am worried that if we leave it too late and then find out it takes longer than planned or we find out we need to have help then I will be yet another year older.
My husband totally understands how I feel, I just wish I was 4 years younger so all these things werent such a worry to me. I keep going over everything in my head and wondering what I should do, I do feel ready to take that next step and have children , in fact I actually cant wait and neither can my OH but it would be good if I knew that being pregnant isnt going to clash with any of these other things.
I know nobody can make my mind up for me but if only everything wasnt so difficult to decide
Sorry just needed to get that all out as I feel I can't really talk to anyone else about it - don't want hubby to get fed up with me going over it all again.