baby shower rant !

[miquelsmommy]

Ok so my moms decided to plan me this huqe dream babyshower next mnth with my family and friends; but FOB's mother feels the need to try and plan her OWN babyshower for me before my mothers. I honestly love her and never had a problem with her but i feel like shes beinq spiteful. My mom originally wanted both of them to plan it toqether but since they had an arquemnt FOB's mom wants to do her own. Wht im pissed about is that i want one babyshower with EVERYONE noy some split up dysfunctional thinq ! FOB and his mo doesnt understand wht im sayinq and tht makes me pissed off. i mean whts quna happen when the baby has parties...is there qoinq to be two seperate ones ?? i absolutley dont want that it makes noo sense!!

sorry i know its lonq.. but am i wronq for feelinq this way ??

 

[amygwen]

you're definitely not wrong for feeling this way! i can only imagine how crappy of a situation you are in. i mean, if you've already mentioned it to your FOB's mom then there's really nothing else you can do besides have two separate showers & bite your tongue. then hopefully over time your mom and FOB's mom will start getting along before your LO arrives and starts having parties and what not. it's definitely not fair that she's going to plan a whole other shower for you since your mom seems to be doing it already. i would be really upset if i were your mom. has your mom talked to her? i know they are in an argument or whatever, but really the only person who can control it now is your mom, it doesn't seem like his mom really cares!

 

[miquelsmommy]

yeah my mom is reallyyyyyy upset about it

 

[amygwen]

poor thing. i would be too!! it's like his mom is just trying to compete with yours. baby showers are supposed to be fun. imagine what it would be like if they merged and how great your shower would be! i hope it all works out :/

 

[miquelsmommy]

i hope so too =] thanx hun && how is ur son ?!! =]

 

[amygwen]

he's doing great thanks!!
finally starting to sleep in the nighttime so i'm happy about that! can't believe he's 5 weeks old already, time flies! not much longer now for you!! YAY!

 

[LoisP]

bit of a pointless reply i know, but not a read and runner...
hope things get better for you xxx

 

[miquelsmommy]

bit of a pointless reply i know, but not a read and runner...
hope things get better for you xxx

no hun ur reply isnt pointless; and thanxx

 

[miquelsmommy]

he's doing great thanks!!
finally starting to sleep in the nighttime so i'm happy about that! can't believe he's 5 weeks old already, time flies! not much longer now for you!! YAY!

ahh i cnt wait =] thts so cute im like 33 weeks now

 

[divershona]

didnt want to read and run but i hope they can make up and sort it out.

i had my best friend trying to organise one shower and my mum another one, i eventually put my foot down with my mum and said look steff (my best friend) has already organised most things, invites have been written (they hadn't though hehe) and venue booked (this had happened) so im sorry mum but it would be pointless you organising a shower as no1 is going to come to a second one.

she was a bit huffy for an hour or so but then when she realised what i'd said she decided it actually made sense just to have the one.

maybe something like this to FOB's mum might help, i know its not the same as saying it to your own mum but i figure she wouldnt want to spend a load of money on a shower and like only 3 people turn up because they were already planning on going to the one ur mum has organised x

 

[miquelsmommy]

i aqree. i told her and she told my mom that even if i dnt show up its not abt me .. its abt the baby. wtf ??? she wont listen so i miqht not even qo. she even was spiteful enouqh to plan it a day before my moms shower smh

 

[Eabha'sMum]

ach thats hard position to be in! i would sit them down, tell them you want one shower, and it will be your mums, with everyone attending x

 

[miquelsmommy]

i know . =/ ill try aqain to tlk to her bcus the shower is next mnth

 

[Eskimobabys]

haha i had to re read this with the way u spelled some words but ur not wrong i think its really silly to have 2 baby showers instead of one big one!

 

[Leah_xx]

Your defff not wrong about this
Im sorta having the same problem with my OH's mother.
Im about to tell her to have a baby shower for her son cause she wants to control it.
She is a major controlling person
PM if you wanna

 

[miquelsmommy]

i think she just want her side of the family to see what a 'qreat' qrandma she is smh

 

[Leah_xx]

yeah i know what you mean

 

[Bride2Be]

I'm sorry about your FOB's mom

Just put your foot down and tell her how you feel and if she doesn't get the message, tell her you will only go to one shower and it will be the one held by your mother (if that's the one you want to go to.)

 

[mum#1]

I had a similar problem, except it was between OH's mother and Step mother. They hate each other, and if i invited one, the other wouldnt come. its pathetic and childish (and people give teen mothers a bad name) anyways, in the end i didnt invite OH's mother because we are sooooo much closer to his step mother. at the end of the day, they have to realise its your bubba and all this stress is unfair to you and is useless and stupid.

I hope FOB's mother stops being silly

 

[frsttimemommy]

i have the same problem!! i'm having 2 showers. one for my family and one for my OH family. it sucks cause my families is July 31st and OH family one isn't till September 19th! it's ridiculous but i have to suck it up so i totally feel your pain!