baby sleep in our room?

[summer rain]

My youngest is still in our room he did sleep in his cot most of the time from about 11 months but he has outgrown his cot now (it's a 'shortie' cot as its a long and narrow room) so is back in our bed lol. None of my others were like this at all, my middle two couldn't wait to get out of our bed, kept trying to climb out and fell a couple of times, and were sleeping in their own cot by 5.5 months in their own room too, I think it depends on their personality xx

 

[staralfur]

I always found it really strange that people put their newborns in different rooms right away. It seems unnatural.

Anyway, my LO sleeps in our bed with us and it's great. She still nurses 2-3 times a night so I can't imagine getting up that frequently 7 months on.

Plus I love having her close. It makes me a bit nervous when she's asleep in a different room. I figure she'll sleep in her own room when all of us are ready for it and there's nothing wrong with that.

 

[sweetpeaxo]

My son will be 6 months next Saturday and I finally started putting him in his crib. He's been sleeping in it for almost a week. Before then he would just sleep in a bassinet in our room. I loved having him close by, but I thought it was time he move into his own room. Luckily he sttn so there's no issue with him waking up multiple times a night. Do what you feel is right for you.

 

[aliss]

Seems bizarre to me to put a newborn in their own room right away. I'd be up worrying constantly and wouldn't sleep a second. Philippe sleeps right next to me in our bed (following cosleeping guidelines), when he starts to stir with hunger I pop him on the boob and then go back to sleep after. I get way better sleep this way with him as a newborn than I did with Alex (I had to make bottles and go to his crib). Kind of kicking myself for that hah!

 

[Casey3]

I can't imagine having a newborn so far away! Our LO is almost 11 months old and still in our room, and most nights these days still in our bed! We do live with my parents so there are no other rooms for him to sleep in, but even if we had our own home, I'm assuming we'd still be part time bed sharing, maybe start the night in the crib and then our bed after waking...

 

[aliss]

I see you are in Canada... the recommendation here is 6 months minimum in your room. Honestly your friends are probably making more work for themselves! Some babies are calm enough to not demand constant night wakings but why make more work for yourself? You're already tired and exhausted from labour. My newborn doesn't even cry at night (except diapers) because I wake up when he stirs.

Remember that crying is a LATE sign of hunger in babies. When you have to get up and go to their room (or make a bottle before that) because you hear crying, the baby is already frantic with hunger and if you are breastfeeding, makes it hard for them to latch (and bottle babies may take in a lot of air and get painful gas by that point). Rooting and sucking their hands is an EARLY sign of hunger and if you feed them before they start crying, they will feed easier, take less gas, and go back to sleep quicker. You can't know this from another room - but you will sense this if you are right beside them.

So, from a biological standpoint, it makes no sense for anyone really to put the newborn in another room. Some choose to do so (and I've done it with my 1st) but for most, it makes more work and stress.

Besides, whatever your friends are saying, your instinct tells you otherwise. You have those instincts for a reason remember!

 

[Starstryder]

My mom had us co-sleeping with her as babies, we didn't leave until we went to primary school. *blush*

So from personal experience we decided to not do co-sleeping or have the kids sleep in our room at all. But to each their own, my mom believed it was the only way to go.

 

[Liesje]

I never had plans one way or the other when I was pregnant. I just assumed having a baby is natural and some magical instinct would kick in lol... I guess it did because we set up the crib in our baby's room and when we came home from the hospital it just seemed weird to leave him down there so he slept in our bed. Then I had a nightmare that I found him under my pillow all cold and limp so I quit that for a while and put him in a bassinette next to my side of the bed. I guess the fear wore off because he eventually made his way back into our bed lol
Now that we're expecting two more, we're putting two more cribs into our bedroom. Luckily our attic is converted into a master suite loft so one half of our bedroom will look like an orphanage... just rows of cribs lol
My son is almost 8 months and sleeps like a log from 7pm to 6am, we're still able to have sex without waking him up (I know no be asked but that's what everyone's thinking when they bring up the subject ) but later on we'll probably just use the guest bedroom or something for such purposes.
Mothers always ask me if I'm worried about my kids never moving out of my bedroom but men tell me I have nothing to worry about, at a certain age boys will kill for their own room (yes, it's exactly what you're thinking! ) so if we can't poke them out when they're a few years old, they'll leave on their own eventually lol

 

[amygwen]

I lived alone with my LO until he was 2 years old so we always co-slept. I loved it. I breastfed until my LO was 16 months and it made the nighttime feeds so much easier with him in bed with me. Now my LO is nearly 2.5 and he's in the bed with me and my OH. It's definitely not the most comfortable sleeping arrangement but at this time, it doesn't really affect anything. We've tried putting him in his own bed but it's become a big hassle so he sleeps with us. I do have to admit it'd be nice to have our own space, but it's our faults also since we're lazy and don't really try. Your LO is so young, I would do what YOU want to do. It's best to have the baby in the room until their 6 months anyways since they are so used to being close to mama after spending 9 months inside of you!

 

[overcomer79]

My son started off in his room.

We tried having dd in our room but she wanted too much interaction and never slept and was over tired so she had to go to her own room.

Be open to that possibilities. Some babies just don't sleep well if at all in parent's room. I'm sure it is rare but it does happen.

 

[RoseArcana]

My LO sleeps in her moses basket next to my bed but due to how cold the house is, she normally ends up in the bed with me as it's warmer Easier for breastfeeding definately and I wake up quicker when she's closer.

Good luck with your choices x