baby sleep problems

[1sttimemom]

I have a 1 month old baby girl and I think she is having sleep problems. After a feeding I have to hold her on my chest for 40 to 60 minutes before I can even attempt to lay her down. Thne when I do get her down she doesn't sleep sound. She is always twisting and turning and grunting. She throws her arms and legs up in the air, so I have to hold her down for awhile so she don't hit herself in the face and wake up. She hardly ever goes into a deep sleep. I wonder if she is getting enough rest? Plus, I am a single Mom and I hardly get time to eat or sleep myself...not to mention all the other things that need to get done but don;t.

Is there some trick to getting newborns down faster and ensuring that they get a good deep sleep?

ANY TIPS ARE APPRECIATED!

Thanks

 

[Rachel]

Kieran was like this, would fall asleep while feeding but as soon as I tried to put him down he would wake up I knew he wasn't hungry, he just wanted to be held while he slept

Now I put him in his rocking chair that lies flat and rock him to sleep in that. Takes 5mins before he is in a deep sleep and he happily sleeps in that until he wants feeding again

Maybe you could get one of those rocking chairs or if your using a moses basket then get a rocking moses basket stand?

 

[xarlenex]

if itd the twisting and turning thats waking her, I really recommend a Swaddle blanket (Sometimes known as miracle blankets) They help young babies sleep as they stop the reflex that makes them move in their sleep. You can use them up until 6 months, I have one for kyle as he woke himself up alot with his hands x

 

[sonny]

Tabs is like this too,she gets over tired fighting sleep then she wont let you put her down,impossible to do anything thats why i havnt been on here much lately as she wants to be held over shoulder or on chest all the time or i get the what i call the "death scream"!! When nothing helps......answer-got it today

THE CLOSE BABY CARRIER!!!! This one is fantastic and i could even bring in my washing!! HOORAY!

 

[sonny]

https://www.closebabycarrier.com/
expensive but worth it,i have been saving for weeks!!

 

[Munchkin]

Hi 1sttimemom,
Sleep issues with children are really a very vast topic and there are so many issues that can crop up from being newborn to toddlerhood. I really recommend you pick up a good book on baby sleep as it will come in handy for a long time to come.

Babies do not have control over their limbs while they are that little - in fact they think they are alien objects that disturb their sleep. The more tired they are the more their limbs flail.

A lot of people swaddle and this helps to an extent. I was advised not to in the hospital - so I personally don't. But you need to do what works for your baby.

If you normally have problems putting her down after a feed, could it be a wind issue? Does she bring up wind at all? Try incling the cot a little and wrapping her in a soft warm blanky. Hold her for a while before putting her down.

Munchy x

 

[1sttimemom]

Thanks to all for the tips...I've tried to swaddel her but she hates it. So, I leave her free and hold her hands for awhile until she falls asleep-which means that I cannot get anything done... I'm glad to know that other babies are the same. It means that she is normal at least!

I will try all the others...something's gotta work!

TY

 

[Margerle]

www.thehappiestbaby.com

I was going to suggest winding and swaddling.

I was a single parent too... been there! (albeit 12 years ago )

 

[1sttimemom]

Thanks Margerle...Not having someone to help during those hard nights is quite hard. I always knew being a single Mom must have been hard but now I really know.

 

[Margerle]

Thanks Margerle...Not having someone to help during those hard nights is quite hard. I always knew being a single Mom must have been hard but now I really know.

Just take it one day at a time, one hour or one minute depending on the circumstance.

Learn to enjoy the moment and don't get too caught up in trying to make up for the lack of partner. Just do the best YOU can.

I ended up co-sleeping for both our sanity. Not sure if that's something you wish to do, but just thought I'd mention how I worked it out.

 

[PurestFeeling]

Nola does the same but I just let her move about and it doesn't make her wake up I think she's used to it.

Edit: oh and babies don't sleep deeply yet they don't need the same type of sleep as adults do

 

[Zarababy1]

Charlie does the same its not quite as long as 40-60 mins he lays on me for about 15 but i posted somthing a few days ago very simmilar on a daytime i lay him down on his belly in his moses basket i keep a real close eye on him he seems more settled on his belly https://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/43403-sleeping-breathing-s.html
thats the thred i tryed everything suggested and it all helped great

 

[tinytoes]

Thanks to all for the tips...I've tried to swaddel her but she hates it. So, I leave her free and hold her hands for awhile until she falls asleep-which means that I cannot get anything done... I'm glad to know that other babies are the same. It means that she is normal at least!

I will try all the others...something's gotta work!

TY

i swaddle too. Ted doesnt like it for the first minute but then dozes off and stays asleep for much much longer.

i use a big muslin: https://www.bigmuz.com/