Babyshower timing

[RcdM]

I just had a quick, kind of dumb question. My SIL is also pregnant and is about 3 weeks ahead of me. She is having her shower when I would be 29 weeks, and I really wanted to have mine around 28 weeks. I had my dd's babyshower at 30 weeks and ended up getting sudden severe preeclampsia and had to deliver her a few days later! So my timing for the shower worked out so well.

This time around I wanted to have it even earlier *just in case*. But we share some of the same friends - so would it be super weird to have our babyshowers on back to back weekends? Like mine the first weekend and hers the next? Or should I just try to space it out? I don't want her to feel like I'm trying to beat her to it or anything, I don't want it to be awkward. I think she would understand, but what do you guys think? Would you go to both and would that be weird?

 

[krystinab]

I am in a similar situation. My cousin is due 4 days before me...the only difference is we don't have the same friends. I am going to be 33 weeks at my shower...

Anywho I don't think its an issue with having back to back showers. Hopefully you wont have preclampsia so you don't have to worry about having it to early. Just talk to her, like you said she should understand.

One question though, is this her first baby? If so I recommend having yours the week after....

 

[RcdM]

Yes, it is her first. That's why I was worried it would feel like I was stealing her thunder or something. I think that's good advice, thanks!

Since I'm having a boy, we're doing another shower. I think some people feel you shouldn't have a shower for your second or subsequent babies? I told myself that we'd just do a diaper party bbq/get together if it was a girl, but I really have nothing to reuse for this little boy as my dd still in her crib, still in diapers, etc. so I could really use some boy stuff, and of course I really just want to get together with friends and family to celebrate.

 

[krystinab]

I think having another baby shower is just fine! i have a friend who is on her 4th and they are very close in age. I think that's a bit much but with your second I don't see an issue especially since you are having a boy this time it totally makes since that you have another shower.

 

[fides]

I'd probably go to both!

Try not to worry about it - some people may not be able to make it two weekends in a row, but plenty will.

and if you think it could be a potential problem with SIL, make sure to talk to her about it before you set the date for yours.

 

[Maybe1daysoon]

Since its her first I'd have it the week or two after. I have 4 cousins having babies within weeks of each other. So there will be 5 new babies in our family total (My mom, aunts, and grandma are shopping at a dangerous rate lol). Anyway, the ones expecting first should have priority. I perso!nally don't want another shower, but one of my cousins is wanting a shower before a younger cousin (her own little sister) because of health reasons and I think it's really selfish of her. She is having the opposite gender but so am I... first babies should have showers whenever they want and everyone else should go after them. I know that my situation is larger scale but similar. Also we are praying to God that no health conditions arise for any of us. So weird that I just got off the phone from talking about this Lol.

 

[RcdM]

Lol Maybe1daysoon that's funny that you were just talking about this. Yeah, I wanted to have mine earlier because of potential health issues, but I am feeling good about this pregnancy and I think I'll go to full term this time. I think if I do it at 30 weeks again it should be fine, and you're right it's her first so I don't want to make her feel like I'm taking away from her spotlight when I already have been through all of this before with my dd.

 

[Maybe1daysoon]

We just don't want the ftm to feel slighted ya know? I'm crossing my fingers that you guys make it to 38 weeks this time! But if something by chance does happen there are always sip and sees. They aren't as popular as showers but I'm deff doing one this time and taking myself out the shower scuffle all together lol. I'm tentatively planning one for first week of December so that it can be holiday themed! I think it'll be a great time and I'm excited. But if you're dead set on a celebration before baby just make sure you don't accidentally hurt your SILs feeling.

 

[Lau88]

What's a sprinkle? Im in the uk and we only just really started doing showers in the last few years but heard a lot of you u.s ladies mention a sprinkle. What's the difference?

 

[RcdM]

Yeah I decided to do mine 2 weeks after hers which will put me at 31 weeks. I've prayed and prayed and I feel really good about this pregnancy, it's already been so different than my first. I know God had a reason for my dd to come so early last time but I feel comforted that this one will be just fine. So I really shouldn't worry too much. And you're right I want hers to be special and not overshadowed by mine being before hers. I talked with her about it yesterday and she basically said that I'm being silly and not to worry about any of that at all because she knows that's not my intention. I actually am meeting with her friend that is throwing hers tomorrow to help with some ideas and help out with the shower. So that makes me feel good and that way I can see what she's doing so I know not to do the same.

 

[RcdM]

What's a sprinkle? Im in the uk and we only just really started doing showers in the last few years but heard a lot of you u.s ladies mention a sprinkle. What's the difference?

I don't really know much because I've never been to one or really heard of them until just recently when I was researching ideas for my shower. It sounds like it's a much less formal "shower" where you just get together with your close friends/family at a mutual place like a coffee shop, and they can bring gifts if they want but it's more just to get together than a big event with games and food and all that. That's what I read anyway! I've never heard of anyone having one before so it must be a new thing.

 

[Rcx]

Oh I love this idea of a sprinkle!! I really don't want to have a baby shower but would love to have a get together with all my friends and family before. But no gifts! X

 

[misspriss]

I was just going to say make sure you have it earlier because I ended up not getting any showers with my first due to pre-eclampsia, but it sounds like you are on top of that!

 

[Unexpected212]

I had my first one at around 30 weeks and will be 35 this time

 

[Unexpected212]

Also were calling ours a 'baby sprinkle' this time I researched it and thats what second child showers are usually called