Back to try for #2 at 40, anyone want to join me?

[Jenny Bean]

Hello,

I just turned 40 at the beginning of July.
I have a 1 year old and I want to try for number two.
I was pregnant (a surprise in May) but sadly lost the baby at 10 weeks (blighted ovum).

I really want to have another one soon, as time is running out and I would like to have them close together.

Anyone with a similar experience or want to join in?

 

[mychelle4]

Hi Jenny. I'm 40 and trying for #3. I have a sixteen year old, and a fifteen month old, both girls. This is my sixth cycle trying. I'm really hoping it does happen soon, as I want the age gap between my younger daughter and her potential sibling to be under three years. Good luck!

 

[Jenny Bean]

Good luck to you!
Let me know how it goes...we aren't going to actively try for a month or two I think.

I want to try as soon as possible though because it could be a long journey!

Keep me posted!

 

[nessaw]

Hi we're just thinking about ttc#2. I turned 40 in march and dd is 7 months. We had a 5 year journey with 3 losses before her so taking the plunge to ttc is proving difficult. However we really want her to have a sibling. I take up a new post when back to work in Sept so should really see out a (school ) year in that before another maternity. We were thinking of starting in Nov so if it worked that would take us to the summer hols next year.

 

[Jenny Bean]

Hi we're just thinking about ttc#2. I turned 40 in march and dd is 7 months. We had a 5 year journey with 3 losses before her so taking the plunge to ttc is proving difficult. However we really want her to have a sibling. I take up a new post when back to work in Sept so should really see out a (school ) year in that before another maternity. We were thinking of starting in Nov so if it worked that would take us to the summer hols next year.

We sound very similar, mine is 13 months old today and I turned 40 at the beginning of July. We had a BO in May at 10 weeks, so I am nervous but excited about this journey.

I have some debate whether this is the right time because me and my husband are strained a lot of the time even though we have only been married two years. Also he is also on a hair loss medication that he wants to come off for a few months when we start trying again, so there is a delay in our trying and in reality we probably can only try for a few months before he goes back on the medication again. So I need this to happen quick but worry it is going to be a long journey. I so badly want a sibling for my daughter

 

[nessaw]

I'm not sure how/if I could cope with another loss. We were under the recurrent miscarriage consultant and on aspirin and progesterone for our successful pg and would follow the same protocol if pg again.
It must be hard to make the decision if things are hard with dh. It's good that we've both got a little time to make up our minds. X

 

[Jenny Bean]

Dealing with MCs are very tough.
I wish you all the luck!

 

[Tui]

Hi. We are thinking about number two right now. I have a nearly 8 month old boy after 4 mc's. I am thankful for him every day, despite him running me ragged! Maybe he would like a sister?

I have just turned 40 and DH is 44, so we don't have a huge amount of time left, lol. The thing that concerns me is I have no support. I'm worried how I will cope. And what age gap is best?

Does any of that concern others?

When will you guys be trying then?

 

[Jenny Bean]

Hi. We are thinking about number two right now. I have a nearly 8 month old boy after 4 mc's. I am thankful for him every day, despite him running me ragged! Maybe he would like a sister?

I have just turned 40 and DH is 44, so we don't have a huge amount of time left, lol. The thing that concerns me is I have no support. I'm worried how I will cope. And what age gap is best?

Does any of that concern others?

When will you guys be trying then?

:wave: Hi Tui, I have followed you on your journey and am so happy for you!

That's exciting you are thinking of trying again soon.

I do worry about age gaps but mine is 13 months so I think anytime in the future would be okay and not too soon, plus the small age gap could benefit them.

I hope we can have this new journey together.

I hope to be starting in the next few months, but we will probably try a few months and take a few months off and so on.

 

[CaliDreaming]

Hi. We are thinking about number two right now. I have a nearly 8 month old boy after 4 mc's. I am thankful for him every day, despite him running me ragged! Maybe he would like a sister?

I have just turned 40 and DH is 44, so we don't have a huge amount of time left, lol. The thing that concerns me is I have no support. I'm worried how I will cope. And what age gap is best?

Does any of that concern others?

When will you guys be trying then?

Hi I'll be 42 next month and will be TTC #3 soon. I also take care of 99.9% of the child rearing responsibilities(although dh seems to do more for my daughter the older she gets).

I have a three year gap--ages 5 and 2 between my daughter and son. I originally tried to have 2 under two, but I'm glad that didn't work out in hindsight.

I think a larger age gap is easier if you don't have a lot of help or if you have to work full time and have to have them both in daycare. My daughter had just turned three when my son is born and her life hardly changed at all when my son was born. She still went to daycare everyday and newborns sleep so much anyway I was usually able to give her undivided attention until she fully transitioned to "big kid". Also, she was at an age where she was just starting to get independent so she could wait a few minutes if my son needed me.

But in the end, I think you will find a way to make any age gap work. Who knows, if I had two under two I probably would have loved that too since both of my kids would be about to be out of daycare and I would have more time with hubby. If you are worried you are running out of time I wouldn't spend too much time stressing over the size of the gap.

 

[Tui]

Hi Cali. Thanks for that.

I'm not stressing just wondered about the logistics of it all. Two close (ish) together would be hard I guess, but over the demanding period quicker. Once they were both three, I could go back to work to ease the financial struggle. Although a bigger gap would be better to handle, I may not have that luxury of time. Besides, I'm getting broody already, lol. Funny how you change your mind. After my horrific birth experience, I swore I wouldn't do it again!

 

[Tui]

Hi. We are thinking about number two right now. I have a nearly 8 month old boy after 4 mc's. I am thankful for him every day, despite him running me ragged! Maybe he would like a sister?

I have just turned 40 and DH is 44, so we don't have a huge amount of time left, lol. The thing that concerns me is I have no support. I'm worried how I will cope. And what age gap is best?

Does any of that concern others?

When will you guys be trying then?

:wave: Hi Tui, I have followed you on your journey and am so happy for you!

That's exciting you are thinking of trying again soon.

I do worry about age gaps but mine is 13 months so I think anytime in the future would be okay and not too soon, plus the small age gap could benefit them.

I hope we can have this new journey together.

I hope to be starting in the next few months, but we will probably try a few months and take a few months off and so on.

I thought we had *met* before. Lovely to talk again.

I'm not planning anything just yet. I may talk to my doctor about how long after my c-section I should wait. She may recommend a year. I certainly won't be so obsessed with the whole thing this time, although I still miss poas

It would be lovely to be bump buddies though, sometime soon

 

[CaliDreaming]

Hi Cali. Thanks for that.

I'm not stressing just wondered about the logistics of it all. Two close (ish) together would be hard I guess, but over the demanding period quicker. Once they were both three, I could go back to work to ease the financial struggle. Although a bigger gap would be better to handle, I may not have that luxury of time. Besides, I'm getting broody already, lol. Funny how you change your mind. After my horrific birth experience, I swore I wouldn't do it again!

LOL yes time does erase all the bad memories when it comes to childbirth! Seems like you'd have to be incredibly unlucky to have two horrible deliveries back to back.

I'm sure you will work it out whatever gap you end up with. Just think about all the women our age that end up with twins.

 

[Jenny Bean]

Cali,
ahhhh twins, lol I was hoping to get that first time around so I could get two babies in one shot, lol

Tui,
Yes, it would be great to be bump buddies.

I hope when we decide to take the plunge its not a long journey, however, that being said at our ages its kinda to be expected!

 

[Tui]

I was just the same, I thought awww wouldn't it be nice to have twins. Oh my! I'm glad I didn't, I was freaked our with just one, lol. If we got twins next time I would have a major panic attack. I'm still not sure how I'm going to cope as it is

 

[Tui]

Ok, so I stopped taking the mini pill a couple of weeks ago as it was giving me 12 day cycles! This weekend DH and I managed to get some adult time for the first time in months. Lo and behold, I get really bad ovulation pains the next day. Oops. DH said, 'oh well lets send some more soldiers up there then' How romantic ehh? Guess this ntnp is getting real.

 

[CaliDreaming]

LOL, Tui! I guess NTNP= "unofficially TTC".

 

[Jenny Bean]

Ohhh that's exciting, good luck Tui!!
I hope to be with you next month, lol

 

[Maturemama39]

Hello-
May I join? This year is the 40 and ttc#2. First month trying so not too hopeful. It has been several years since first, but that one only took one time. Thinking my body is slowing down this time around

 

[Bluefairy1]

Hi! I'm 38 and our son is 10 months old. This is our 1st month ttc#2 and think I just ovulated yesterday.

I'm a bit worried about how hard it will be with a small age gap but am more worried that time is not on my side. Trying to not get so stressed this time round though..am using opks but not temping as it all got too much last time! Have found I ovulate later in the month then I used to since giving birth.