Back to try for #2 at 40, anyone want to join me?

[Maturemama39]

Hi! I'm 38 and our son is 10 months old. This is our 1st month ttc#2 and think I just ovulated yesterday.

I'm a bit worried about how hard it will be with a small age gap but am more worried that time is not on my side. Trying to not get so stressed this time round though..am using opks but not temping as it all got too much last time! Have found I ovulate later in the month then I used to since giving birth.

Right there with you on time is not on my side either...starting to stress me out.

 

[Tui]

Hi everyone.

Yes it is difficult to relax about the whole ttc/ntnp thing. I'm so in tune with my body nowadays that I don't need opks. Kinda takes away the mystery, lol.

I still found myself obsessing with pee sticks last month. Unfortunately I got a positive, followed by a negative so I was a bit fed up last week. I really wanted a chilled out time of ntnp. My own fault I guess for testing early. I naively thought that because I managed to have N, I wouldn't have any more issues. Not sure I can go through another 4 mc to have another baby. Think it would hurt to much.

 

[CaliDreaming]

Tui that is great that you can tell when you O without the OPKs. I still am not able to do that.

Were you able to figure out the cause of the 4 MCs? I can only imagine how heartwrenching that was.

AFM: My CBFM should be arriving today! I'm CD1 today so hopefully I can still use it this month.

 

[Tui]

Tui that is great that you can tell when you O without the OPKs. I still am not able to do that.

Were you able to figure out the cause of the 4 MCs? I can only imagine how heartwrenching that was.

AFM: My CBFM should be arriving today! I'm CD1 today so hopefully I can still use it this month.

I got referred after the first 2 I think, but it takes 3 months to get an appointment. By which time I was pregnant again! This happened twice, but luckily the last one stuck and I got my little boy

I had all the blood tests which came back all clear, and genetic testing was clear too. I think in my case it was probably just age. I'm 40 now and DH is 44 now. Just have to wait for a good egg

 

[CaliDreaming]

I always thought the rule that you have to wait until you have 3 miscarriages before they investigate to be a little too strict. I can understand that things sort themselves out for some women, but others know that something is wrong. Why put someone through that needlessly?

Anyway, hopefully all will be fine for you this time around!

 

[Tui]

I think they refer after one year of trying unsuccessfully too (at my age range) , which includes mc's. Here in NZ anyway. But yes it is hard to wait through three. I guess it's the number where they know it's more than bad luck? One mc is quite common, which I never realised before all this.

 

[Jenny Bean]

Welcome maturemomma and bluefairy!

I hope to be trying in a few weeks, my LO will be 15 months when I start trying so hopefully it works out quickly for us, I don't want to waste too much time, lol

Cali and Tui, maybe we will all be around the same time, lol

 

[Tui]

Bit reluctant to try after my chemical, but will see how it goes

Good luck to all.

 

[CaliDreaming]

Jenny that would be awesome if we all got pregnant at the same time!! I hope this is a lucky thread!

 

[Jenny Bean]

Trying to revive this thread again.
How is everyone doing?

 

[CaliDreaming]

Hi Jenny! We decided to try one month early and I'm in the 2ww now. It was our anniversary weekend and there was a full moon out, so I figured we might as well! I'm not really expecting anything to happen this month though.

 

[CaliDreaming]

Oh wow, I see you in the 2ww too! Good luck!! It would be a great start to this thread if we both got bfps this month.

 

[Jenny Bean]

Its my second month of trying, I am not temping or doing anything special to TTC but here's hoping. My period came super early at the beginning of the month so I am not sure what is going on. Maybe bfing is causing this irregularity.

 

[CaliDreaming]

Yeah, I think bfing does cause irregularity but it's great that you've been getting AFs. Do you test for ovulation?

 

[nessaw]

Hi my cycles have been wacky so have taken a v low dose of clomid which usually regulate them. Hoping that it means we will ntnp the end of this month/start of next then ttc in Dec. I started a new position at work when I returned from maternity leave so think I should do at least a year-obviously it it magical works and sticks the first time!!

 

[Jenny Bean]

Cali,
No I haven't tried ovulation sticks....I am just trying on my own for a few cycles, lol, how about you?

 

[Jenny Bean]

Nesaw, when did you get back to work from mat leave...
I started a new position also but we will see what happens.
I have a long commute so it would be best to find a new job closer but I am giving TTC another go before I make the move.

 

[CaliDreaming]

Nesaw, maybe you'd have twins with the clomid! I hear you on timing the leave, but it would be nice to get all your TTC out of the way early.

Jenny, yes I'm using a Clearblue easy monitor. I'm always afraid it won't ever happen if I don't track it.

 

[Tui]

Hi everyone. I'm cautiously kicking off the BFP's

I'm 3w4d

Been testing positive for 4 days and had lots of symptoms so I'm hopeful. Keep your fingers crossed for me.

Ok who is next?

 

[CaliDreaming]

Congratulations Tui!!!!! Our first bfp!!!