Bad tear 1st time, can't decide on c-sec or natural again??

[WishfulX1]

Hi ladies, this is driving me crazy!! I have been told by my OB that I qualify for an elective c-sec due to complications with my first vaginal birth.

I had my ds 3 weeks early in 2008 and got a 3rd degree tear, from what I remember it didn't cause me too many problems at the time and I didn't need pain killers, however weeks later I started to notice that it didn't seem to be healing properly, I let it go however being intimate with DH became impossible it was just too painful!! I put up with it for 2 years!! We literally had sex once in 2years, very understanding DH!!

I finally went and got help and was referred to a plastic surgery and needed a repair perinealplasty! Now this was painful! Was very unwell for at least 4 weeks, home with a Catheter etc! Not fun!!

Now I'm struggling to decide on wether to have the c-sec or attempt a vaginal again and may not have any problems this time!

I'm worried about the c-sec and then caring for a 4 year old and newborn!
Is it really as bad as the stories I read!!?? I also would hate to undo all the hard work the plastic surgeon done

 

[davidjoemum]

i had bad tear as well as episotomy (whatever spelling is right)my son got stuck in birth canal my epidural was wearing off they attempt to do forceps and vacuum i was healing really badly and i sneezed and my stitches broke so i gotta go bk for repair.

im going for elective c/s this time

 

[Arisa]

you poor thing I would go for a C-section if I were you since its taken a long time for you to be able to enjoy intimacy and needing a surgery and everything, it will make the four to six week recovery from a C-sec well worth it

 

[Tor]

Hmm i dont know really because you might have a vaginal delivery and be fine or it might be terrible and same for c section some people bounce back quickly and others like myself still had the wound reopening 4 MONTHS! later so i would just read up on similar situations to yours and do a bit of research and make the best decision for you.

Did your ob mention what the chances of needing corrective surgery again would be if you had a vaginal delivery?

 

[Babydance]

Youll prob see my threads flyng about in this section as i was in your situation, 3rd/borderline 4th degree tear 2 hours in theatre after forceps and episi after manual manouvre (all done on only G&A so very traumatic aswell!) I had to choose whether to go natural and risk another tear (my scars still open during sex 3 years on, ive been to the doc twice and each time theyve just said "its something that happens".. ?!?)
ANYWAY after long hard thinking ive decided to go for a section, im very happy with my desicion but i took a good solid week writing out all my fears, thoughts, worries and questions and went to my consultant appointment.
Its a very personal desicion so take your time and try not to be influenced by others. I took 11 months to heal from my 1st birth mentally and physically it was a rough recovery.
Take your time and hope youre 100% happy with your decision xxx

 

[davidjoemum]

Youll prob see my threads flyng about in this section as i was in your situation, 3rd/borderline 4th degree tear 2 hours in theatre after forceps and episi after manual manouvre (all done on only G&A so very traumatic aswell!) I had to choose whether to go natural and risk another tear (my scars still open during sex 3 years on, ive been to the doc twice and each time theyve just said "its something that happens".. ?!?)
ANYWAY after long hard thinking ive decided to go for a section, im very happy with my desicion but i took a good solid week writing out all my fears, thoughts, worries and questions and went to my consultant appointment.
Its a very personal desicion so take your time and try not to be influenced by others. I took 11 months to heal from my 1st birth mentally and physically it was a rough recovery.
Take your time and hope youre 100% happy with your decision xxx

yeah "something like that happends" or "people can live with that"thats all doctors can say!!!!!i've heard the same!!!!!!!!!awful!!!!!!!!!!

 

[JessPape]

1st and formost, will you have help for the 1st week or 2 weeks? I say if u got someone who will be able to help u than go for the c-section . But personally thats the only part that bothers me the most, is having the help when u cant really lift or move too much.