BD'ing my butt off--whose in it for November??

[Womble12]

Jenna Jenna, you gotta speak to your work, get day shifts. Hope you get a good nights rest and its not flu xx

Happy Easter everyone.

Heather, not sure if I missed it, but any af or testing yet?

Tara and Naomi, I've everything crossed for you guys, and def don't cross those legs ha ha!!

Bailey, you just ntnp now? Hope docs helps you out with the prolactin thing.

Amanda, so glad hubby felt a kick

Jess you at v day when? And nicky and nikki you both already passed it? And Jenna you're v soon too! Is it 24 weeks is v day!

 

[bazzb]

Kinda ntnp as I just started my cbfm and it takes a few cycles to give accurate results

 

[mackjess]

vday is Tuesday. can't wait. happy Easter to everyone, and I hope we caught some eggies!

 

[bazzb]

Yay for V day!!!!

 

[Dollybird]

Sophie! How are you keeping? Knew I'd forgotten someone my head is like mince just now. Yeh 24 weeks is v day. I'm Tuesday same as jess. Hope it's not flu too, but I'm feeling worse by the minute xxx

 

[bazzb]

Jenna hope u feel better 0

 

[MommyNikki]

What does V day mean? I'm lost in lingo again lol

 

[bazzb]

Victory day
At 24 weeks the baby can survive if born

 

[MommyNikki]

Oh I never heard of that.. I was actually thinking about that the other day about when they could survive on their own, but never googled it.

On a different note... I've been so stressed and emotional and aggressive lately and mike pulled another mike move tonight. Told me he was coming home "soon" at 6:30 but decided that drinking was more important and he had my son and truck...to I had to pay for a ride a across town to pick my son and my truck up so he wouldn't drive home drunk with my 2 yr old. I've decided to leave him. His family knows that his drinking is a problem but its always easier to turn a blind eye than to make an effort to help someone...plus they are all drinkers so its just one more person to have fun with. I'm tired of trying to be the voice of reason and I just cannot be with someone who doesn't put me and my (our kids) first.. And I definitely won't fall second to alcohol.

I don't mean to dump on you guys but if you could throw a prayer out or some words of encouragement out there I would appreciate it cause I really need to do this for my kids and myself and its just a difficult thing

 

[Dollybird]

Aw nikki I'm so sorry to hear your are going through this- especially whilst pregnant. I admire your bravery though I know it would be easier to just turn a blind eye, so I think you are incredibly brave for taking action, don't know if I could ever be so brave! But it sounds like you are doing the right thing for you and your little ones, maybe it will be the shock he needs to get his act together. Anyways, all my thoughts and prayers are with you. Stay strong, and remember us ladies are always here if u need to vent xxxxxxx xxxxxx

 

[Womble12]

Oh Nicky, I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this now. I guess with these things it is easier to turn a blind eye for the sake of peace and quiet and when there's kids involved too. It does sound like a nightmare though, it's one thing going out drinking yourself but taking your 2 year old with, I don't know what I'd do but I couldn't cope with that. So difficult. You just got to think of what is best for you and the kids and know that whatever you decide you're doing or their welfare. Stay strong and you will do the right thing. Try not to make any decisions in the heat of the moment but try, even though its hard, to think logically about what options you got. But there are always options even when the situation may seem hopeless, unfortunately life is difficult and decisions are hard a lot of the time. Sending you a very big hug right now xxxxxxx

 

[Womble12]

Yay for v day on Tuesday!

Bailey, I know I sound like a broken record, but I love the CBFM!! It's what got me pregnant as my cycle was so variable. Fingers crossed x

 

[bazzb]

Nikki I am so sorry hunny
I know all to well about having a partner with alcohol issues
You need to do what is right for your kids and you
If he needs help he has to get it because be wants too otherwise it won't work
Take time and figure out what's best for the kids and u
But I have to say I would have been extremely upset especially since he had Memphis with him
Whatever you decide we are all here for you
Vent all you want xoxo

 

[Pray2bBlessed]

Nikki, I am so sorry, lots of ! Drinking is tough, and hard on the kids too. I saw my mom deal with it for years, and my parents fought all the time. Thankfully, she doesn't any more, but stopping requires a lot of help. I don't know what I would do in your situation, but I'm sure you will make the right decisions for you and your family!

Yeah for v-day Jess and Jenna!

 

[mackjess]

Hugs and sending prayers Nikki. Just do what is best for you and the little ones, and if he decides to reach out for help, be there for him.

 

[mtln777]

Nikki~ first off Kudos to you for being so strong esp. while being pregnant!!!!! Now with that being said, you are fighting a battle that will make you stronger.....(Kelly Clarkson~What doesn't kill u makes u stronger) U have a family of enablers!!!! You to an extent have been enabling him as you haven't put your foot down. Last night was the last straw because he had Memphis with him which is VERY UNACCEPTABLE you my friend are going to STOP THIS.......There is no rash decisoin you have to make you simply tell him if he doesn't get help you are going to take the kids and GO.....He has to want it and you can't turn your back on him he is the love of your life and the father of your children....but he does need help and it is a VERY HARD thing to get thru he can't do this alone....I'm asking you to help him and stand by his side. I know you are mad and I'm sure you are thinking why am I asking you to do this??????????????? It's for your kids and u!!!! Alcoholism or drug abuse is not easy to get thru and help is needed...I'm sorry if u get mad at me I just don't want to see you give up on Mike and he can't do this alone.

If you decide you can't help him then I understand completely just understand that it is a disease....... Sending you lots of love and hugs as always and never be worried about coming here to vent that's what were here for. xoxoxo Tara

 

[gnomette]

Nikki if I am completely honest my gut reaction would be the same as your to kick him out but in the cold light of day confront him if he thinks its not a problem an he doesn't need help by all means kick him out but if he can see past it an will get help then maybe try an help him through it if you think your able x but at the end of the day all you can do is what you think is best for you an your kids an if you think its best to get rid then do no one will blame you but it will be hard to do specially when his family are big drinkers but if he can do it he will appreciate your help xx my mums an alcoholic but runs a pub and is not willing to see she needs help so I have stopped her having any contact with my children my sister has done the same I did try to get her help an see she has a problem but I got no where but the end of the day its you that has to deal with it not us an no matter what we are all here an love you loads

 

[MommyNikki]

Tara, I love mike with all of my heart but I forgive to easily and he takes advantage of that. I let him take his stuff today. I also found he had signed up on match.com. I don't know to what extent it was used but it was at least signed up for and that was a low blow. I would like to think that mike would change, put me and the kids first, and be a better man...but I know that's not going to happen with the people he surrounds himself, ESP his family. If he chose to get help I would support him but without major change, I could not go back to him. He doesn't care about me and his actions support that. I am very sad for my kids, it's what makes this the hardest part but his actions show that he doesn't care to fight for us. Whatever happens will happen but I needed to put my foot down after last night

 

[Dollybird]

Aw nikki xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[mackjess]

Oh Nikki, that is a low blow. Sometimes all you can do is try your hardest. Anything beyond that is not in your control. Take the high road. It won't feel good today, tomorrow, or even next week, but it will make you feel better in the end.